Should the mother be allowed??

9 Oct 2007

Quote by dekntan
tricky case but personally i would go ahead with the hysterectomy i grew up with a girl who was severly autistic amongst other things she is 27 and cant talk only babble and has very little if any understanding of the world and her parents and doctors agreed when she was 14 to give her a hysterectomy the decision was not taken lightly by her parents but at the end of the day they had tried everything they could and for 2 weeks of every month she was extremely violent and jerky and would have to be sedated (which again was unfair she had a bad enough life without being sedated)after the hysterectomy she has never needed to be sedated so in that case it was the right thing to do
and every case is different what is right for one family wouldnt work for another

My guess would be that as the young girl in this case suffered for two weeks a month it would have been deemed medically necessary and that in this instance if it gave the young girl a better quality of life then it was the right thing to do.

10 Oct 2007

I have a friend in a very similar situation to this one and over the years this discussion has come up frequently between us.
My friend's main worry wasnt the fact that she would have to clean her daughter more often or even the fact she may be in pain due to her period.
Her main concern was that as her daughter grew up she would spend more time away from the family home in day centres and in respite care facilities where my friend would not be able to watch her 24/7 as she has done over the years. Her questions were 'what if's'. What if, for example,since the child cannot speak and give consent, one of the older kids decided to sexually abuse her daughter on an overnight/weekend stay in the respite facility and she became pregnant? Yet another problem to add to the long list of problems already there.
'Nonsense' some of you may say but it could and does happen. The same as it could happen that she could be abused by anyone, when in the care of others who cannot, due to staffing, or any other problem that may be regarded as an excuse by some, not to give the constant care and attention these children/young adults need 24/7. Staff cannot physically watch one particular child 100% of their time in the centre. In an ideal world they could but we dont live in an ideal of these centres suffer severley from under staffing and funding problems.
Hysterectomy was discussed, the pill was discussed all matters of avoiding unwanted pregnancy and periods were discussed and eventually it was decided by all the professionals, along with my friend that her daughter should have an implant in her arm. This takes care of unwanted pregnancy and the period problem, it hasnt and never will, take away the fear of the Mother should her daughter be abused.
My friend and myself have discussed this since this story has hit the headlines and she always disagreed with the suggestion of hysterectomy as far as her own daughter was concerned but as Im sure anyone in this position would agree, its down to the individual needs of each particular child and its family/carers and since a child in this situation cannot make a decision then it will be left to Parents and professionals. I dont think there will ever be a right or wrong way to deal with things like this.
Personally speaking, I dont think a hysterectomy would be approved just for the sake of hygiene issues. I think for it to be even discussed, there are more issues involved in this case.

10 Oct 2007

helnheaven, interesting post...
I can see where your friend is coming from!! I'd like to think abuse doesn't/can't happen......but it has been known to confused

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Im sure many other parents in similar situations will be watching this case. Whatever happens I hope the needs of the young woman will be put first :smile:
xanaisx

11 Oct 2007

yes freckle & lyns i would say it was medically nessisary but even if it just improves this girls and her mothers life a little isnt that a plus?

11 Oct 2007

Quote by dekntan
yes freckle & lyns i would say it was medically nessisary but even if it just improves this girls and her mothers life a little isnt that a plus?

Yes I agree that anything that will make life a little easier for everyone involved has to be a good thing, but im still a little torn on the subject.

11 Oct 2007

Quote by helnheaven
I have a friend in a very similar situation to this one and over the years this discussion has come up frequently between us.
My friend's main worry wasnt the fact that she would have to clean her daughter more often or even the fact she may be in pain due to her period.
Her main concern was that as her daughter grew up she would spend more time away from the family home in day centres and in respite care facilities where my friend would not be able to watch her 24/7 as she has done over the years. Her questions were 'what if's'. What if, for example,since the child cannot speak and give consent, one of the older kids decided to sexually abuse her daughter on an overnight/weekend stay in the respite facility and she became pregnant? Yet another problem to add to the long list of problems already there.
'Nonsense' some of you may say but it could and does happen. The same as it could happen that she could be abused by anyone, when in the care of others who cannot, due to staffing, or any other problem that may be regarded as an excuse by some, not to give the constant care and attention these children/young adults need 24/7. Staff cannot physically watch one particular child 100% of their time in the centre. In an ideal world they could but we dont live in an ideal of these centres suffer severley from under staffing and funding problems.
Hysterectomy was discussed, the pill was discussed all matters of avoiding unwanted pregnancy and periods were discussed and eventually it was decided by all the professionals, along with my friend that her daughter should have an implant in her arm. This takes care of unwanted pregnancy and the period problem, it hasnt and never will, take away the fear of the Mother should her daughter be abused.
My friend and myself have discussed this since this story has hit the headlines and she always disagreed with the suggestion of hysterectomy as far as her own daughter was concerned but as Im sure anyone in this position would agree, its down to the individual needs of each particular child and its family/carers and since a child in this situation cannot make a decision then it will be left to Parents and professionals. I dont think there will ever be a right or wrong way to deal with things like this.
Personally speaking, I dont think a hysterectomy would be approved just for the sake of hygiene issues. I think for it to be even discussed, there are more issues involved in this case.

I agree that there may be other issues surrounding the reasons. I just hope whatever gets decided it will be in the girls best interests and keeps her as comfortable as possible.