SHRep

27 Jun 2010

Quote by vodka_babe22uk
coffee down t shirt moment lmao blames mrs nwc

Be careful, be very careful, or I just might vouch for you and tell everyone how you lead me astray bolt

:giggle:

6 Jul 2010

Just been browsing the profiles and saw a profile stating that if you have no SHREP activated and no feedback dont bother contacting me....
Looks like the rot is setting in ....

6 Jul 2010

Quote by Steve
Just been browsing the profiles and saw a profile stating that if you have no SHREP activated and no feedback dont bother contacting me....
Looks like the rot is setting in ....

Not really Steve, cause you, me and a lot of others, probably would not have wanted to meet someone purely based on their past performance, even before SHRep was introduced wink

SHRep is just an indication, a bit of a comfort blanket for those who prefer some form of validation and it will work for a lot of people. However, there are still lots around, like us, who take people as they find them, after taking a bit of time to get know them.
I do have SHRep active, but it will not make any difference to how we meet (not that we ever have the time to meet) confused

6 Jul 2010

Quote by Steve
Just been browsing the profiles and saw a profile stating that if you have no SHREP activated and no feedback dont bother contacting me....
Looks like the rot is setting in ....

If that's how they want to use it - so be it! Plenty of others to choose from.. dunno

6 Jul 2010

Quote by Gufuncouple
Plenty of others to choose from..

Glad you seem to think so.....

6 Jul 2010

Quote by Steve

Plenty of others to choose from..

Glad you seem to think so.....
Bloody true that is.

6 Jul 2010

Quote by Steve
Just been browsing the profiles and saw a profile stating that if you have no SHREP activated and no feedback dont bother contacting me....
Looks like the rot is setting in ....

Theres a good idea!!! :twisted:
now all I gotta do is learn 2 use shrep......
no more timewasters....

17 Jul 2010

I have enabled SHREP now as some of my real life friends have joined this site and I am fed up with being accused of not being genuine by guys who are angling to get a phone number in the first message.
So, I have enabled the SHREP as I said, and my friends have vouched for me, (they have all know me in real life for over 5 years) yet, some bloke I once friended here, never met and after chatting and some innocent cam flirting, I decided I no longer wanted to be friends with, has now sent in a vouch for me - I thought it was supposed to be for people who actually knew you?
What is that all about?
I have seen 'vouches' on profile saying 'can't wait to meet' how can you 'vouch' for someone after a few messages on here, not having ever met them?

This part of the system allows for “friends” on the site to Vouch for your profile. It is purely designed to allow others who actually know you in real life to Vouch that your details are correct. It is in no way a reflection that you know them any other way than socially as a friend. However, it does allow other members to have increased confidence that your profile is real and accurate even if you have no Meet Rep.
You can only vouch for someone’s profile if you have both confirmed each other already as friends on the site. The details of the vouch are the only part of the whole system that must be public. This ensures that people vouching for their friends’ profiles have some
degree of accountability and will, therefore, think twice about doing it for people that they don’t actually know.

I think you need to clarify what constitutes real life on here!

17 Jul 2010

Sorry if this question may have been asked before but so many pages and so little time :sad:
Last night we met up with a single guy from this site, as it was so short notice we never set it up through Srep, is it possible to retro set this up so we can verify each other on the meet section of shrep?

17 Jul 2010

Quote by Bluefish2009
Last night we met up with a single guy from this site, as it was so short notice we never set it up through Shrep, is it possible to retro set this up so we can verify each other on the meet section of shrep?

No I don't think so.
I probably shouldn't suggest this but why not set up a meet with him using shrep for tomorrow, obviously you don't really have to meet with him, but you can both say you meet and rate each other anyway dunno

I am trying to be positive about Shrep and I have mine turned on but the meet bit, just makes my skin crawl because I personally think its unnecessary and puts me off meeting people.

17 Jul 2010

Quote by Dawnie
Last night we met up with a single guy from this site, as it was so short notice we never set it up through Shrep, is it possible to retro set this up so we can verify each other on the meet section of shrep?

No I don't think so.
I probably shouldn't suggest this but why not set up a meet with him using shrep for tomorrow, obviously you don't really have to meet with him, but you can both say you meet and rate each other anyway dunno

I am trying to be positive about Shrep and I have mine turned on but the meet bit, just makes my skin crawl because I personally think its unnecessary and puts me off meeting people.
Thanks, I may suggest that to him and see how he feels about doing that.
What about it makes you uneasy?

17 Jul 2010

creeps me out too, I am now looking to see who has been where, and although it is interesting and eye opening, it is enough to put you right off some people! :huh:
I am only using it for the 2 couples who know me in real life to say I am genuine,
if I enabled it for every bloke I exchanged messages with on here, I would look like the whore of Sodom!

17 Jul 2010

Quote by demi
creeps me out too, I am now looking to see who has been where, and although it is interesting and eye opening, it is enough to put you right off some people! :huh:
I am only using it for the 2 couples who know me in real life to say I am genuine,
if I enabled it for every bloke I exchanged messages with on here, I would look like the whore of Sodom!

What creeps you out? Is it that the swingers have met other swingers or that you are put off of them due to some of the choices they have made not being your type?
It is really for that reason we like it, we can see who they may have met and if they are a wide selection of people we can be fairly sure they will not have hang ups on size and shape etc

17 Jul 2010

Quote by Bluefish2009
What creeps you out? Is it that the swingers have met other swingers or that you are put off of them due to some of the choices they have made not being your type?
It is really for that reason we like it, we can see who they may have met and if they are a wide selection of people we can be fairly sure they will not have hang ups on size and shape etc

each to their own, but there is a fine line between no hang ups... and none too fussy!

17 Jul 2010

Quote by demi

What creeps you out? Is it that the swingers have met other swingers or that you are put off of them due to some of the choices they have made not being your type?
It is really for that reason we like it, we can see who they may have met and if they are a wide selection of people we can be fairly sure they will not have hang ups on size and shape etc

each to their own, but there is a fine line between no hang ups... and none too fussy!
I can see your point, but have to say I still think that's a good thing.
Cant see the fussy side of the argument really, we are all swinging with other human beings, not aliens, some we fancy others we don't. wink

As you say each to their own lol

17 Jul 2010

I can only use my own standards and best judgement to protect myself and still enjoy doing this,
if someone who wants to meet me has SHREP from someone who has taken on all comers, bareback in the woods the week before or whatever, the phrase not on your nelly not even with a bargepolecomes to mind, it has nothing to do with how much I do or don't fancy someone, not for me anyway.

Quote by Bluefish2009
I can see your point, but have to say I still think that's a good thing.
Cant see the fussy side of the argument really, we are all swinging with other human beings, not aliens, some we fancy others we don't.
As you say each to their own

17 Jul 2010

Quote by demi
I can only use my own standards and best judgement to protect myself and still enjoy doing this,
if someone who wants to meet me has SHREP from someone who has taken on all comers, bareback in the woods the week before or whatever, the phrase not on your nelly not even with a bargepole comes to mind, it has nothing to do with how much I fancy someone, not for me anyway.

Thank goodness for SHRep then, at least we can identify the ones who are doing this wink

We do use SHRep, but only for the Vouching and Site Rep, as I do think meets should be kept private, but then again, after seeing what Demi said, I can also see a good reason for the Meets section :wink:
Each to their own and all that :wink:

17 Jul 2010

Quote by demi
I can only use my own standards and best judgement to protect myself and still enjoy doing this,
if someone who wants to meet me has SHREP from someone who has taken on all comers, bareback in the woods the week before or whatever, the phrase not on your nelly not even with a bargepole comes to mind, it has nothing to do with how much I do or don't fancy someone, not for me anyway.

I can see your point, but have to say I still think that's a good thing.
Cant see the fussy side of the argument really, we are all swinging with other human beings, not aliens, some we fancy others we don't.
As you say each to their own

Then, surely, that makes shrep a good thing, otherwise we would not know

17 Jul 2010

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
We do use SHRep, but only for the Vouching and Site Rep, as I do think meets should be kept private, but then again, after seeing what Demi said, I can also see a good reason for the Meets section
Each to their own and all that :wink:

I agree NWC - I've just made mine Public on the basis that I have no Meet Rep and there's nothing too rude on the others in there and some of them are really funny.
Having looked at a few people's SHRep though, the categories are getting muddled anyway and people are just writing about everything, everywhere - so Meet Rep gets into Vouch etc
I work on the basis that most of the 'secret' bi guys I've met wouldn't dream of talking about it to anyone but me after, let alone posting about it so I won't be 'outing' anyone any time soon I hope by showing mine lol

17 Jul 2010

Quote by BIoke
We do use SHRep, but only for the Vouching and Site Rep, as I do think meets should be kept private, but then again, after seeing what Demi said, I can also see a good reason for the Meets section
Each to their own and all that :wink:

I agree NWC - I've just made mine Public on the basis that I have no Meet Rep and there's nothing too rude on the others in there and some of them are really funny.

Have to hold my hand up for getting all confuddled over what goes where rolleyes

As for the privacy thing, I dont think I would do meets via SHRep, but never say never. I have friends on here who I would not want to know the ins and outs (ohh err misses) of my sex life. Not that I am ashamed, but more because it has nothing to do with anyone else. However, totally hypocritical to what I have just said, I am also a member of another site, and have 'most' of the verifications on display.
I think it will take a while for us all to get used to SHRep and as it becomes a bit more embedded, people will probably change the way they do, or dont use it. As with most things, it will evolve into whatever we want it to, but for the time being, Im just taking it as a bit of fun to say some really nice things about people I know and trust :wink:

17 Jul 2010

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
but for the time being, Im just taking it as a bit of fun to say some really nice things about people I know and trust

Yep, kinda the way I see it too :thumbup:

17 Jul 2010

Quote by Bluefish2009
What about it makes you uneasy?

A few reasons, including the fact I really don't want or meet anyone to know who I've played with? Its no ones business but my own.
I personally might be put off by being someones 6th meet of a week yet if I didn't know, it wouldn't worry me. Don't even ask me how that works because I don't understand it myself confused

Plus, so what if 'he' made 'her' cum in seconds and shagged like a rabbit for 2 hours, doesn't mean I'm going to enjoy it or cum in seconds.
I don't like what I call 'twister sex' which is left hand on ass, right hand on boob type of thing. I don't really like to know 'he' can lick pussy for hours. Part of the excitement for me is not knowing what to expect.
I want to make my own judgements on a meet, not be thinking half way though that I don't agree with what someone else posted about a guy
I'm also worried about the amount of new single guys that will struggle to get anywhere on this site because they can't get any form of vouch or meet rep.
I have no issues with anything posted as vouching for someone or a site rep (which I have left and have also got myself) but I really don't like the meet comments :?

17 Jul 2010

Quote by Dawnie
I'm also worried about the amount of new single guys that will struggle to get anywhere on this site because they can't get any form of vouch or meet rep.

I fear it wont only be new guys who struggle without SHREP enabled....

19 Jul 2010

In theory its a good idea, but cant work out how to leave shrep for people i have met. confused

19 Jul 2010

Quote by trickychicky
In theory its a good idea, but cant work out how to leave shrep for people i have met.

You cant leave a 'meet' rep unless you arranged the meet via the SHRep system, however, you can leave a vouch (if they are on your friends list) or a site rep (if you have exchanged messages). Hope that helps wink

27 Jul 2010

A ha, they have to have the 'shrep' enabled though.

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
In theory its a good idea, but cant work out how to leave shrep for people i have met.

You cant leave a 'meet' rep unless you arranged the meet via the SHRep system, however, you can leave a vouch (if they are on your friends list) or a site rep (if you have exchanged messages). Hope that helps wink

27 Jul 2010

Ok, so after being accused of being a hairy arsed lorry driver too many times, I enabled my SHREP to allow some real life friends on mine on here to vouch for me, (they are both couples and long time social friends, not pick ups from here)
So, then I got random SHrep feedback from men I have chatted to in email, I haven't met any of them and don't intend to, so I hid their comments as I really feel who I chat to on here is my business not anyone else's. Whatever happened to discretion?
So, then it looks like I have something to hide, my SHrep thingy says 5 feedback but I only choose to show 2, but it still shows up onto memos I send and on my ad's, so I have disabled it again, back to square one!
This is an awful system, unlike ebay if you get feedback you disagree with, you cannot make a reply to comments made, and besides, on a site like this, personally I find it off-putting, it smacks of notches on the bed post and is frankly, a tacky and cack handed way of going about proving you are genuine.

27 Jul 2010

Maybe use eBay to advertise for men and sex then if you like their feedback system better? :rascal:
Hmmm... I'm not helping am I? smile

27 Jul 2010

Quote by BIoke
Maybe use eBay to advertise for men and sex then if you like their feedback system better? :rascal:
Hmmm... I'm not helping am I?

yeah maybe,

dick was 4'' not the 8'' advertised, avoid this seller!

27 Jul 2010

Quote by demi
Maybe use eBay to advertise for men and sex then if you like their feedback system better? :rascal:
Hmmm... I'm not helping am I?

yeah maybe,

dick was 4'' not the 8'' advertised, avoid this seller!

Ah, a lady after my own heart - love it... besides, we all know if you take 2" off their dick size and add it to their waist size you get the right stats ;-)