Hi i am sick of women and sometimes couples asking for a person with a well endowed cock. It drives me up the wall. Sometimes i think is it worth living anymore because of it.
Jim :cry:
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Sick of people wanting well endowed cock's
Ummmm... mate, it's only sex. Even if everyone in the world wants a massive cock and you don't happen to have one, the absolute worst that can happen is that you don't have sex ever. That's not the end of the world, is it?
It's unfortunately that so many women only get damp for freaks with a scary package in their pants, but really, what can you do? Give them electo-shock therapy until their sexual preference changes? It's frustrating, I know, but it's not worth getting suicidal over.
You have to concentrate on what you have rather than what you haven't. You're a man; you're more than four or five inches of genitals. Metaphorically and literally, that's a tiny part of you; a miniscule proportion of what you are, what you can do, what you can accomplish and what you can enjoy. Try to reach out and stretch your personal boundaries to find something that will bring you contentment.
And smile. It's Friday!
It's unfortunately that so many women only get damp for freaks with a scary package in their pants, but really, what can you do? Give them electo-shock therapy until their sexual preference changes? It's frustrating, I know, but it's not worth getting suicidal over.
You have to concentrate on what you have rather than what you haven't. You're a man; you're more than four or five inches of genitals. Metaphorically and literally, that's a tiny part of you; a miniscule proportion of what you are, what you can do, what you can accomplish and what you can enjoy. Try to reach out and stretch your personal boundaries to find something that will bring you contentment.
And smile. It's Friday!
Quote by Crazy_Jamez_2004
I would never go suicidal as i've got so much to live for. just gets me down. And am not that small down below am about pass the word. lol
Don't worry about it too much you sound pretty normal to me. IMHO you'll find that most of the women in the ads section are looking to fulfill a fantasy. They've already got a Mr average like you and me at home so why should they advertise for another one? They're looking for something different and want Mr six pack with a nine inch dick to miraculously appear out of the shower and treat them like putty in their hands (what they'd do if it ever actually happened I don't know).
Stick with it, join in and just be you. There are plenty of people on here that enjoy the normal things in life and that includes the likes of you and me.
Steve
Quote by roger743
Ummmm... mate, it's only sex. Even if everyone in the world wants a massive cock and you don't happen to have one, the absolute worst that can happen is that you don't have sex ever. That's not the end of the world, is it?
It's unfortunately that so many women only get damp for freaks with a scary package in their pants, but really, what can you do? Give them electo-shock therapy until their sexual preference changes? It's frustrating, I know, but it's not worth getting suicidal over.
You have to concentrate on what you have rather than what you haven't. You're a man; you're more than four or five inches of genitals. Metaphorically and literally, that's a tiny part of you; a miniscule proportion of what you are, what you can do, what you can accomplish and what you can enjoy. Try to reach out and stretch your personal boundaries to find something that will bring you contentment.
And smile. It's Friday!
Quote by EnglishChris99
Men advertise for women with big boobies... women advertise for men with big dicks... its all the same stuff...
I disagree. Some men advertise for women with big boobs but a lot qualify it with something like "Age, size, looks, race, colour, religion, sexuality, marital staus, cleanliness, attitude and boob size totally unimportnat because I'm just looking for a shag, big boobs a bonus". The women usually have a picture in their minds of the fantasy they want to fulfil and they advertise for it.
Steve
Quote by Steve_Lincs
You'll probably find that a lot of the women on the site couldnt handle a nine inch cock,and a lot that ive spoken to,including Clare would find it very scary :shock:
If some bloke waved a nine inch cock at me then im afraid id be rushing out the door,my feet would not touch the ground.
I want average,it hits my spot and wont split me in half!!
Its that simple!
Quote by Crazy_Jamez_2004
Hi i am sick of women and sometimes couples asking for a person with a well endowed cock. It drives me up the wall.
Jim :cry:
I know exactly what you mean, Jamez.
Perhaps the best thing to do when you feel like this is to not log on or go to any meets for a while so he can have a rest
Sex God
i had been guilty of thinking i wanted a guy with a giant cock.... so i had one! (nine inches and thick)
from when i knelt down in front of him and had to contort my jaw to get it in i had an idea that it might not have been for me.
by the time we had had sex and i was aching, sore and could hardly walk ( wont even mention the blood! :shock: ) i had been well and truelly converted to "average" guys!
trust me... this is one time when i like a guy who doesnt stand out!
from when i knelt down in front of him and had to contort my jaw to get it in i had an idea that it might not have been for me.
by the time we had had sex and i was aching, sore and could hardly walk ( wont even mention the blood! :shock: ) i had been well and truelly converted to "average" guys!
trust me... this is one time when i like a guy who doesnt stand out!
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Besides, I love being gone down on.
Venusxxx
Mmmmmmm and i'd love to oblige you with that one
:twisted: :twisted:/Venus has visions of Steve standing behind her pushing her head down REALLY hard.........
` go on woman, you can reach, put your back in it ffs!` :shock:
Venusxxx
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Besides, I love being gone down on.
Venusxxx
Mmmmmmm and i'd love to oblige you with that one
:twisted: :twisted:/Venus has visions of Steve standing behind her pushing her head down REALLY hard.........
` go on woman, you can reach, put your back in it ffs!` :shock:
Venusxxx
OMG you can read my mind :twisted: :shock:
I wouldn't worry too much about cock size.
The point of Swinging Heaven (and swinging in general) is that it allows people to fulfil fantasies, rather than facing the reality of life (average looks, boring relationships, vanilla sex) and people's fantasies are not politically correct. Men fantasize about gorgeous women with big tits who are insatiable nymphos, and women fantasize about fit blokes with huge cocks who can fuck all night.
Fantasy and reality are very different... everyone learns eventually that 99% of fantasies are rubbish in reality because personality/compatibility is much more important than tit size or cock size or any of that rubbish.
But I think it's quite healthy that women want guys with big cocks. Think about it... for years and years guys have moaned about women not having big enough tits... think about the kind of moron who walks into the pub and straight away homes in on the woman with the biggest tits. It doesn't matter if she's a moose or has the personality of Eva Braun, he will try to score with her. So I think it's only fair that women get their revenge and go for guys with big cocks.
The point of Swinging Heaven (and swinging in general) is that it allows people to fulfil fantasies, rather than facing the reality of life (average looks, boring relationships, vanilla sex) and people's fantasies are not politically correct. Men fantasize about gorgeous women with big tits who are insatiable nymphos, and women fantasize about fit blokes with huge cocks who can fuck all night.
Fantasy and reality are very different... everyone learns eventually that 99% of fantasies are rubbish in reality because personality/compatibility is much more important than tit size or cock size or any of that rubbish.
But I think it's quite healthy that women want guys with big cocks. Think about it... for years and years guys have moaned about women not having big enough tits... think about the kind of moron who walks into the pub and straight away homes in on the woman with the biggest tits. It doesn't matter if she's a moose or has the personality of Eva Braun, he will try to score with her. So I think it's only fair that women get their revenge and go for guys with big cocks.
Sex God
It doesnt bother me too much if they are advertising for VWE guys, but i do think that some people equate large cocks with great sex, and that certainky isnt the case!
Ive been with a coloured guy, not by asking for one, just met the couple by chance at a party and we hit it off with them. He was too long for me, was good until he starting going hammer and tongs, felt like he was gonna knock my teeth out
Anyway, I agree with the other girlies here, Average is more than fine for me :thumbup:
Ive been with a coloured guy, not by asking for one, just met the couple by chance at a party and we hit it off with them. He was too long for me, was good until he starting going hammer and tongs, felt like he was gonna knock my teeth out
Anyway, I agree with the other girlies here, Average is more than fine for me
:thumbup: Must admit cock size is the last issue on my mind. Although did meet someone the other extreme, v. tiny, which proved rather awkward, but easily made up in other ways 
The most important things for me in no particular order are ....
- attitude.
- body language
- compatible ideas
- their nature
Attitude because I would hate to feel under any pressure whatsoever. I only ever meet people that I know are going to have a good evening, regardless of whether sex is involved or not. They don't expect it, or push for it.
Body language, can't explain it, but if it matches, both parties feel comfortable and confident. One of them things that just can't be forced. Also one of them things that can't be gauged until you meet, hence the above paragraph!
Compatible ideas - liking the same things and having similar fantasies, or able to bounce ideas off each other, confident that the other will find it a turn on. I'm one of them people who don't meet on a whim, like to get to know what someones like beforehand etc.
Nature, for me an easy going laid back, happy with who they are nature. I find it hard to relax with people that are edgy, too nervous (I can do nerves for everyone ), or insecure ....... Arrogant, vain, materialistic, world owes them a favour types are a big no no, just not for me, and I really wouldn't be their type either.
Blimey, sounds like I'm looking for a life partner!!!!! :shock: It's not that tho, I just have to be comfortable ........ and someones cock size or how much they can cum does not give me that information!!!!!! (little tip for when guys write their ads!
)
Like I said, I don't meet strangers on a whim so my needs are different. Others do, so they are more specific about the physical side of things. Horses for courses I s'pose, or whatever that saying is :undecided:
The most important things for me in no particular order are ....- attitude.
- body language
- compatible ideas
- their nature
Attitude because I would hate to feel under any pressure whatsoever. I only ever meet people that I know are going to have a good evening, regardless of whether sex is involved or not. They don't expect it, or push for it.
Body language, can't explain it, but if it matches, both parties feel comfortable and confident. One of them things that just can't be forced. Also one of them things that can't be gauged until you meet, hence the above paragraph!
Compatible ideas - liking the same things and having similar fantasies, or able to bounce ideas off each other, confident that the other will find it a turn on. I'm one of them people who don't meet on a whim, like to get to know what someones like beforehand etc.
Nature, for me an easy going laid back, happy with who they are nature. I find it hard to relax with people that are edgy, too nervous (I can do nerves for everyone
), or insecure ....... Arrogant, vain, materialistic, world owes them a favour types are a big no no, just not for me, and I really wouldn't be their type either.Blimey, sounds like I'm looking for a life partner!!!!! :shock: It's not that tho, I just have to be comfortable ........ and someones cock size or how much they can cum does not give me that information!!!!!! (little tip for when guys write their ads!
)Like I said, I don't meet strangers on a whim so my needs are different. Others do, so they are more specific about the physical side of things. Horses for courses I s'pose, or whatever that saying is :undecided:
Well said MISSCHIEF ... nice to hear people refering to guys as people as well as sex objects. Everybody likes to be a sex object sometimes, but its nice when we are evaluated for more than that.
-And before I get flamed... lots of people on this site have the attitude that people have personalities as well, and admit that that is what turns them on... its what makes this site better... rather than have us all wading knee deep through spunk from guys and girls.
I'd like to think there is some moral here about nice guys eventualy comming out on top... and all the knob heads who stole the girls when we were young some how getting what they deserve (whatever that may be)... however I feel that perhaps thats just me going off on one.....
:roll: :roll:
-And before I get flamed... lots of people on this site have the attitude that people have personalities as well, and admit that that is what turns them on... its what makes this site better... rather than have us all wading knee deep through spunk from guys and girls.
I'd like to think there is some moral here about nice guys eventualy comming out on top... and all the knob heads who stole the girls when we were young some how getting what they deserve (whatever that may be)... however I feel that perhaps thats just me going off on one.....
:roll: :roll: Quote by SorelyTempted
I actually prefer average cocks as I'm quite small. Big ones hurt me if they thrust too hard and take ages to insert if I'm not really really horny and wet.
This is me as well.... We advertise for 7" and below purely because it's painful...
Tried a 9" cock.... NEVER again!!....
Shireen
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Quote by Crazy_Jamez_2004
I would never go suicidal as i've got so much to live for. just gets me down. And am not that small down below am about pass the word. lol
Never mind. It's nice to get response to my message tho. thanks
Oh NO, I'm only 6.5" as well. Bloody 'ell, maybe I should be paranoid as well. :shock: :shock:
Although on the other hand, there are lots of women who tend to think its about how you use it, not so much about how long or thick is it. And my (perceived) lack of success may be down to... my personality
Bugger it, that could be the problem, & my boring chat up lines (eg. Wanna fuck??? :P ). Self Analysis... bloody great innit!!! Quote by shireen-steve
I actually prefer average cocks as I'm quite small. Big ones hurt me if they thrust too hard and take ages to insert if I'm not really really horny and wet.
This is me as well.... We advertise for 7" and below purely because it's painful...
Tried a 9" cock.... NEVER again!!....
Shireen
xxx
I really am going to have to bet round to measuring Mr Potato-Head.
Not joking or tongue-in-cheek, I've never felt the need but as it's such an issue, I'll measure him in the interest of scientific compatibility.