hi all,
this may sound silly but what do you call the third person in a threesome?
is there different names for an invited male ?
its something iv'e never heard in any of the adds on here.
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Ahh now then if its a third 'single' person invited to play with a swinging couple then some would say that they are a 'swingle' as being single they aint swingers although they are invited into a swinging scenario. I prefer to call them facilitators. This is because they are facilitating the swinging couple to swing. Of course this is not a definitive answer, well,OK it probably is. 
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Quote by Lost
Ahh now then if its a third 'single' person invited to play with a swinging couple then some would say that they are a 'swingle' as being single they aint swingers although they are invited into a swinging scenario. I prefer to call them facilitators. This is because they are facilitating the swinging couple to swing. Of course this is not a definitive answer, well,OK it probably is.
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
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Quote by Dirtygirly
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
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Quote by Lost
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Is there a rule about what people can call themselves?
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Quote by foxylady2209
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Is there a rule about what people can call themselves?
Of course Foxy!
:D
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Quote by Lost
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Is there a rule about what people can call themselves?
Of course Foxy!
:D
Show me.
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Quote by foxylady2209
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Is there a rule about what people can call themselves?
Of course Foxy!
:D
Show me.
Rules of Swinging
In the Lifestyle a few simple guidelines go a long way:
The Golden Rule: "NO, Thanks", means NO! Anyone (yourself included) may say no at any time for any reason, without further explanation. If you're in a situation that makes you uncomfortable Just Say No! Don't jeopardize your joy and satisfaction with the life-style - or that of your partner, by doing anything against your will.
Don't submit to guilt or pressure. Swinging is fun. Keep it that way. Disentangle yourself as quickly as possible with a firm, but gentle response. Be honest, but up-front, in order to avoid misunderstandings.
Always be kind. First and foremost. it's the proper, humane way to behave. Secondly, you may reconsider and want to party later. Keep your options open.
Everyone has been rejected at some time. If you're rejected do NOT take personal offense. Keep the encounter upbeat and light. Who knows? The person who passes up the goodies today, may want to swing with you tomorrow, or may be the key to you meeting another terrific partner!
Know your own likes, dislikes, boundaries and strengths, thoroughly. Encourage and aid others in their own explorations. Keep relationships friendly and pleasant. Always propose, never impose! Swingers feel their way through encounters in more than one way. Open all channels of communication.
Deal with jealousy head-on! It's a normal, human reaction. Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then work things out. This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression. Festering jealousies are destructive. Seek Constructive remedies as soon as possible.
Let your steady partner know he or she is always number one! Take time to stroke their ego. Be generous with a kiss and a smile. Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure. Always arrive together. Honor any and all prior understandings. Then Party, Party Party!! Always leave together.
Use common sense and courtesy. Concentrate on being kind, thoughtful and sensitive and smile. Happiness is contagious!
Respect the guidelines others set, and make your own wishes and desires clear. There should be No Surprises! If you're Bi for example ask if the couple or single you've chosen has a similar interest. Likewise, if you really object to Greek or Bondage, bring it up for discussion. Once you're all comfortable with the format, let the games begin.
Titles. there are required terminologies for people involved in the swinging scene. These are Swinger a couples that have sex with other couples or use a swingle or a facilitator. A Swingle or a facilitator is a single person who is an aid to a swinging couple. It is wise to know this when starting out so as to be able differentiate between couples and singles.
Before, during and after you party, pay close attention to "Body Language." There's more to human interaction than just sexual signals, but that's definitely part of the picture. Enhance your romance by considering the total person. Learn to read the signs and you'll pick up on what makes your partner comfortable, happy, excited, and ultimately satisfied.
DISCRETION IS PARAMOUNT IN THE SWING COMMUNITY! Who you see, what you see and what you and everyone else does, MUST remain private. Never, never discuss details with anyone not intimately involved. Promoting the life-style is wonderful. Publicizing it is unforgivable.
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Quote by Lost
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Is there a rule about what people can call themselves?
Of course Foxy!
:D
Show me.
Rules of Swinging
In the Lifestyle a few simple guidelines go a long way:
<<lots of instructions>>
OK so we have a list of stuff that is being refered to as Rules and then in almost the same breath, Guidelines.
I would argue that instructions only become enforceable rules when ratified by an appropriate governing body and until then they are merely guidelines. I'm pretty sure Swinging (as opposed to Swinging Heaven) doesn't have a governing body so I stand by my belief that there is no vaild rule that tells any of us what we can call ourselves.
But others may hold other opinions, but that doesn't allow them to dictate what I do, only what they themselves do.
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Quote by Lost
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Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Indeed not... but I can safely say that I'd never fuck someone who referred to me as a facilitator!
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Quote by Dirtygirly
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Indeed not... but I can safely say that I'd never fuck someone who referred to me as a facilitator!
So what your saying is a facilitator might not be helpful? :lol:
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Quote by Lost
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Indeed not... but I can safely say that I'd never fuck someone who referred to me as a facilitator!
So what your saying is a facilitator might not be helpful? :lol:
Perhaps to you... I'll facilitate my own sexual experiences thanks!
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
Losts Interesting, knowlegeable and worthwhile post
Do you have any idea how insulting that is? :giggle:
A facilitator???! How rude!
That is as maybe DG. It is not I that makes the rules y'know:small-print:
Indeed not... but I can safely say that I'd never fuck someone who referred to me as a facilitator!
So what your saying is a facilitator might not be helpful? :lol:
Perhaps to you... I'll facilitate my own sexual experiences thanks!
Cor! Yummy DG any chance of pics of you facilitating yourself ;-)
:D
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Wonder if any one calls them punters 
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Quote by Laff_n_Chilli
We refer to playmates. We did have a playmate who referred to the people they met as "toys".
well theres a coincidence
we call them playmates too
Same here, or just simply a friend (with benefits)
