The total Lack of guilt on a sexual level being able to say and in some cases :twisted: try the things that previously we could never discuss through fear of embarrasment. And the stuff what firelizard said
The one that springs to mind with us is the time just after starting out, we were in Next being served by a very attractive lady when I whispered in mrs mdr's ear 'would you like to play with her' and the reply was.. 'oh yes', Followed by 'I would love to see you with her too'...
Just a week or two before we would have probably both be thinking the same but never have mentioned it!
Lots of things since too... but that was the first.
Mike x
I've been thinking about this and I'm not sure if anything has changed with me since I discovered swinging. But there again, I was swinging, before I discovered what swinging actually was. Basically I think I'm just saying that I've always been a bit of a tart :lol2:
Sorry don't think I've answered the question, or added anything but I'm obviously in a bit of a gobby mood :lol2:
we have limited experience, due to wifes reluctance, (not pushing her), we find we are to busy,working and bringing up our family to have time to reflect on our --happy and fun moments!
good luck to you, maybe in the future we can also take time out to relive those special moments!
keep on swinging!!!!!!!!!!!!
we have limited experience, due to wifes reluctance, (not pushing her), we find we are to busy,working and bringing up our family to have time to reflect on our --happy and fun moments!
good luck to you, maybe in the future we can also take time out to relive those special moments!
keep on swinging!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hmmmmm well ponders :idea:
have more sex with each other
size up men and women everywhere we go (play the "would you?" game
dress more sexily
keep fitter than before
have far more sexual confidence
are far far closer than ever
are far more sensual with each other
love our knowing looks/naughty secret
pink x
we posted this some time ago and we were pleasantly suprised to find that the change in attitude from us both since we started swinging had done much to improve our sex lives and our ability to empathise with each other
we have become even closer and enjoy each others company even more than we ever did - have no idea why that should be but we suspect that it's all to do with that big word - TRUST
We have been swinging for a little while now and we were both astonished to discover that the way we look at the vanilla world has changed.
............. and that the change was so sudden and dramatic.
Even the simplest things like a trip around the supermarket have demostrated to both of us that our attitudes and thoughts have changed.
It was the shock of having our shared secret life that no-one knew of that we think changed it - we are swingers and they aint sort of thing - not sure we have the vocabulary to describe it adequately here, but we hope that other swingers also know what we mean.
Almost a feeling of superiority??? not that exactly .. smugness??? no not that either ...... definitely a feeling of unity in our little secret and belonging in the discovery of such a close and great community of fabulous friends on this and other websites as well as the various social functions.
Is it a feeling of belonging?? not sure ..
Have other swingers felt this?
Do all swingers feel this way and find themselves a little on the outside observing others go about 'normal' life?
Your thoughts on this would be most welcome - especially the more erudite of the many posters here who could perhaps enlighten us with a better explanation of the feelings/attitudes that now are part of our every day life.
Or even those that have no idea what we're talking about
Since I started swinging, I have had my eyes and my mind opened.
with each other.
Some days I do, and some days I dont. So I shall keep :gagged: until I can make up my mind 
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