Single male still having fun

Warming the Bed

0 likes 5 Feb 2014

Thought I'd post this story as I had been disappointed at reduced meets from the site.
When I first joined I had a a good collection of meets of different types, great fun. Then it dwindled, then it stopped. I seemed to see the same ads, and got no joy from new ones, although I appreciated the polite no thanks when people took the time.
Then on Saturday I was in the chatroom, and got chatting with someone. I was on cam, and she decided to go on cam. She then suggested meeting up there and then. That was a first for me, so 15 minutes later I was off in the car to go and meet her and her partner.
We had a great car meet, and it restored my faith in the fun potential for single males.
I've always appreciated that there are no certainties, you never know what you'll get, that's all part of the swinging adventure, but just thought Id post as a pick me up to other maybe frustrated males!
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Unknown User

0 likes 5 Feb 2014

Thanks for letting us know, I'm sure many others feel a bit 'dejected' with it all at times but if ever there was proof that out there on the site there is a willing partner to share some time with and where chat turns into meet turns in to filthy fun.
Keep the faith!

Unknown User

0 likes 5 Feb 2014

It is true that single males can have meets if they want, just the same as couples, for everyone much of it is down to effort, you have a simple but to the point profile, you have a photo, and more in private, you used the site facilities of the chatroom and cam
facilities and got a result, then you "got on your bike" and made a further effort.
To many people think this is a "quick fix shag" site where no effort is needed, this is a swingers site and swinging is a lifestyle no matter how much of your life you dedicate to it, in this case it wasn't exactly all your spare time was it.
When I was single I did very well for meets, far better than I do as a couple, as a single male I found many couples whom I found sexually attractive more than happy to meet me, my age was a bonus, true many thought I was too old for them but for enough people an older man was what they wanted, I was no threat to the younger male half of couples and I was on a par with the older couples who contacted me, for whatever I found lots of fun. I did make an effort in that I had an informative profile, suitable pictures, chatted in the forums and chatrooms and only contacted couples whose profiles showed we had a mutual interest.
As a couple, it is much harder to find meets, as a single I only had to be sexually attractive to the female and be able to get on with the male and make him feel comfortable and know I would respect him and his partner, when we play as a couple we have both have to be compatible to the female (Sasha being bi) and she has to be sexually attractive to the male, and we all have to get on as friends.
When couples meet there are four people to get the same time off work, 2 women to have the right time of the month, often 2 babysitters to find, 4 ages to be matched in taste and so on.
In our case that is much more difficult because we have a 30 year age gap, so occasionally Sasha is too young, more often than not the couples that like Sasha find me too old, understandable though strange. Strange because at clubs people see people not ages, people look around and see couples they are not sexually attracted too and those they are, I have never heard of a couple seeing a couple they are sexually attracted to walk up to them and ask how old they are before considering playing with them.
People need to realise that the more effort they make the more success they will have in the lifestyle, and single men, a six pack helps, rugged good looks don't go amiss and a cheeky smile goes a long way, but Personality gets you laid.