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Single males,last minute excusers and time-wasters!

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Good evening lady and gentleman,big bra here and if you are couple,am sure that you going to get annoy reading this,but will make my point, so am member of this site about one month and half, been sending 120 messages and replying the couples ads and pay attention now, no couple reply even to say" no big bra thanks" yeah is true, now my point, reading that in some ads and some couples profiles you are fed up with guys who fail to turn up or last minutes excusers?The all called as "time-wasters" am sorry if that happenned to you but some couples just turn down some genuine guys and picking up the time-wasters, will explain why, i did reply some ads from couples last week and then off course no reply, but before reply,read that this couple has been let down by 3 different guys in just one weekend,so i told them am genuine, but off course again they choosing others guys,ok no worries,but reading the ads and this couples writing there they have been let down again by other guy,so i just laughing head off,am sorry but they didn't reply to me( even to say no thanks) and again another single male letting them down, so this is the point,you couples has plenty of fish in the sea( 150 to 1)but also there are plenty of time-wasters,the real ones is just 10 percent! Am always live on cam,everyone think my flat is hotel,because is clean and really comfortable, also sometimes it is hard to understand what or who you couples are looking for?? big cocks?? don't think so as i saw lots of pics of you,couples with anothers guys and lets be honest not big cocks at all,so if you wanna reply to me,you are welcome and yeah am genuine with manners, and some peoples here just has no manners even to say" thanks for reply but no thanks"
Orgasminator
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Hmmmm...... once you've calmed down, I will reply.
You say you are replying to ad's but that's not strictly true is it?
I can bet you've replied to at least one couple who don't have an ad and their profile clearly states they aren't looking wink
Do you expect a reply to this? You say it's only polite to reply, isn't it only polite to read profiles before jumping in, sending a pm then moaning because you don't get a reply? If someone states they are not looking, or you don't fit what they've stated they're looking for, do you think it is gospel that they should reply?
I'm sure you have replied to some ad's that you fit, at least from your perspective and for you not to get a response is not very polite.
I'm only saying, it works both ways :wink:
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Really struggling to follow your massive stream of consciousness thing there mate? dunno confused
Quick question? Do you usually at least try to paragraph, and punctuate, and write in proper sentences in yer PMs, or what? :?
N x x x ;)
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Am too afraid I might find you wearing a firemens uniform trying it on with my Mrs in the kitchen - so thats why i wouldn't answer your mail biggrin
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The attitudes you have described above are a part of the reason I am no longer swinging.
However, there are a number of reasons why this attitude is around, be it ignorance, bad treatment from others, sometimes it can be a matter of time - someone receives a PM, think to themselves "I shall reply to that once I have done chores/put kids to bed/watched shite reality show/perved at essex34m's profile etc.
All of the above are part and parcel of human life it's one of those things, yes, it is hugely annoying, yes it has been enough to contribute to my feeling about swinging.
There is one way of thinking, and that is if they don't have the manners you feel are acceptable, then they aren't good enough for you, and it is better that you found this out at the PM stage, rather than be making your way to a hotel to receive a text saying sorry, not tonight, got a better offer. (I'm not bitter, honestly!)
As annoying as it is, things won't change, so rather than get all wound up about it, just remind yourself it is a way of separating the wheat from the chaff, and that it is enabling you to gain a group of people that you chat/swing with, that fit your standards.
Because there are a lot of good ones out there.....
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We reply to every message .... don't tar us all with the same brush!!
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Quote by essex34m
The attitudes you have described above are a part of the reason I am no longer swinging.
However, there are a number of reasons why this attitude is around, be it ignorance, bad treatment from others, sometimes it can be a matter of time - someone receives a PM, think to themselves "I shall reply to that once I have done chores/put kids to bed/watched shite reality show/perved at essex34m's profile etc.
All of the above are part and parcel of human life it's one of those things, yes, it is hugely annoying, yes it has been enough to contribute to my feeling about swinging.
There is one way of thinking, and that is if they don't have the manners you feel are acceptable, then they aren't good enough for you, and it is better that you found this out at the PM stage, rather than be making your way to a hotel to receive a text saying sorry, not tonight, got a better offer. (I'm not bitter, honestly!)
As annoying as it is, things won't change, so rather than get all wound up about it, just remind yourself it is a way of separating the wheat from the chaff, and that it is enabling you to gain a group of people that you chat/swing with, that fit your standards.
Because there are a lot of good ones out there.....

Gosh thats terrible
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Gosh thats terrible

Yep... we've all got our let down stories (well, 'all' might be an exaggeration!) The way people sometimes talk on here about single males getting the harsh end of things makes me smile.
I have, on several occasions, booked a hotel for a meet and been stood up. And I'm defo not a single male! :giggle:
All part and parcel of the rich swinging tapestry, I say. wink
Still a bit shit though.
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Quote by Funlovers2009
We reply to every message .... don't tar us all with the same brush!!

Good point, actually so do we reply to all mail if the truth be known. Apart from the ones that get all arsy when we reply with a polite thank you but no and good luck. They seem to take it as a personal affront to them and it never is until they start the mail box table tennis, which, if i'm honest I quite enjoy smile
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Gosh thats terrible

Yep... we've all got our let down stories (well, 'all' might be an exaggeration!) The way people sometimes talk on here about single males getting the harsh end of things makes me smile.
I have, on several occasions, booked a hotel for a meet and been stood up. And I'm defo not a single male! :giggle:
All part and parcel of the rich swinging tapestry, I say. wink
Still a bit shit though.
Having chatted to a significant number of females in the time I have been known to this scene, it really is no surprise that single men get the reputation that they do, as you say, we all have our let down stories, so to see the reputation that single men get, is not surprising, or unwarranted.
Single women and couples have been guilty of this too, but the sheer number of single men make this the simplest one to mention.
Sex God
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Fu*k me yeah are couples and single women just as bad Essex we quite agree. Some of them are the most disagreeable people on site with there superior attitudes and their ignorance, Blimey in the chat rooms there are couples who wont even reply or talk or fuck all with single guys and we cant stand them. Being choosy is one thing but downright freaking rude is another, bastards.
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I can remember a while ago a couple complaining that they never get meets, I suggested they came to the socials. They asked if single guys go, when I said yes then they refused to attend.
Wouldnt go anywhere that single males attended.
Couldnt understand it myself but horses for courses I guess.
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Quote by Lost
We reply to every message .... don't tar us all with the same brush!!

Good point, actually so do we reply to all mail if the truth be known. Apart from the ones that get all arsy when we reply with a polite thank you but no and good luck. They seem to take it as a personal affront to them and it never is until they start the mail box table tennis, which, if i'm honest I quite enjoy
Need to be careful with the email tennis thing now if you have enabled SHrep ... 2 messages each and you can get a bad site SHrep!!!
As for the being stood up thing ... (I would quote but I'm not techy enough to double quote) We have been stood up loads of times (with not so much as a text) and had lots of last minute cancellations ... all from couples but then we dont arrange to meet singles so I cant comment on them.
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Quote by Funlovers2009
We reply to every message .... don't tar us all with the same brush!!

Good point, actually so do we reply to all mail if the truth be known. Apart from the ones that get all arsy when we reply with a polite thank you but no and good luck. They seem to take it as a personal affront to them and it never is until they start the mail box table tennis, which, if i'm honest I quite enjoy
Need to be careful with the email tennis thing now if you have enabled SHrep ... 2 messages each and you can get a bad site SHrep!!!
As for the being stood up thing ... (I would quote but I'm not techy enough to double quote) We have been stood up loads of times (with not so much as a text) and had lots of last minute cancellations ... all from couples but then we dont arrange to meet singles so I cant comment on them.
Well thats a bugger cos I chat to alot of people via email lol
Sex God
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Quote by Funlovers2009
We reply to every message .... don't tar us all with the same brush!!

Good point, actually so do we reply to all mail if the truth be known. Apart from the ones that get all arsy when we reply with a polite thank you but no and good luck. They seem to take it as a personal affront to them and it never is until they start the mail box table tennis, which, if i'm honest I quite enjoy
Need to be careful with the email tennis thing now if you have enabled SHrep ... 2 messages each and you can get a bad site SHrep!!!
As for the being stood up thing ... (I would quote but I'm not techy enough to double quote) We have been stood up loads of times (with not so much as a text) and had lots of last minute cancellations ... all from couples but then we dont arrange to meet singles so I cant comment on them.
We too have been stood up by couples but also by singles. Not often though thank goodness However much you plan to do something if a no-show happens it is still a real pi** off whatever lol.
As for shrep f*ck knows whats what and how and why its going to work far too confusing and complicated along with the other stuff its all becoming far too facebookian for us, We have a small social circle we've made through the chatroom thats nice and if we need to prove our legitimacy then we do it the old fashioned ways. Good or bad SHrep personally couldnt give a shcrap but some will get off on it. Hey wait until Farmville come to SH the place will go beserk biggrin
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As for shrep f*ck knows whats what and how and why its going to work far too confusing and complicated along with the other stuff its all becoming far too facebookian for us, We have a small social circle we've made through the chatroom thats nice and if we need to prove our legitimacy then we do it the old fashioned ways. Good or bad SHrep personally couldnt give a shcrap but some will get off on it. Hey wait until Farmville come to SH the place will go beserk biggrin

Yep. And heaven forbid that we're requesting sheep on here :shock:
I haven't enabled it and I won't. Managed without it for this long.
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I haven't enabled it and I won't. Managed without it for this long.

I have, because I am nosey, and want to see how it works, before I completely support the idea, or criticise it.
But a comment was made a day or so ago by Steve, who said that it will more than likely get to the point where people will have to accept it to get anywhere, so if there comes a day when I swing again, i want to know what I'm dealing with, rather than playing catch-up.
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I haven't enabled it and I won't. Managed without it for this long.

I have, because I am nosey, and want to see how it works, before I completely support the idea, or criticise it.
But a comment was made a day or so ago by Steve, who said that it will more than likely get to the point where people will have to accept it to get anywhere, so if there comes a day when I swing again, i want to know what I'm dealing with, rather than playing catch-up.
Good point.
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sorry if im out of order but if i got an e mail from any person where i struggled to read the meaning of the message
i would not bother to reply
bad spelling, poor grammer, or just plain rude, leave me cold
this is my view only,
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Quote by 4playinc
sorry if im out of order but if i got an e mail from any person where i struggled to read the meaning of the message
i would not bother to reply
bad spelling, poor grammer, or just plain rude, leave me cold
this is my view only,

So why are your I's in lower case?
And it is spelt 'grammar'
And you don't end a sentence with a comma, you use a full stop.
And sentences begin with a capital letter.
This is my view only.
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Quote by essex34m
sorry if im out of order but if i got an e mail from any person where i struggled to read the meaning of the message
i would not bother to reply
bad spelling, poor grammer, or just plain rude, leave me cold
this is my view only,

So why are your I's in lower case?
And it is spelt 'grammar'
And you don't end a sentence with a comma, you use a full stop.
And sentences begin with a capital letter.
This is my view only.
true but at least it is easy to read and keeps the chat going lol
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Well sounds that some couple are really annoying with my point? Tha is good and am not British,sorry for my spelling but i do my best and do speak good english, but the way i do read the couples profiles and replying just to those think am suitable and close by( up to 50 miles),that is it and am not computer expert,if you are,good for you!
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Really don't understand yr pint,what you mean? Am always friendly and nice in the chatrooms and yeah i do chat with peoples there! Also i know some couples who are friendly and we always have a laugh,so what you mean?
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well i had great trouble reading the post,but
my point totally
how about using the chat rooms to meet people who can just judge you on your charm then they can invite you for who you are rather than a cold e mail
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Well sounds that you really don't know me at all, never sending a cold email or a harsh or unpolite email to anyone, in my emails i say who am, what i do and the way am and oh my life experience,travelling abroad, speaking 3 languagues and yeah one of those is english,so that is a cold email??
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Quote by skanders
ive had the same experience bra cock, this site is truly becoming a joke know, not worth the headache, most of the ads are fakes and girls who are just fishing for comments to keep their confidence up, no one is real anymore.

What? No one is real? What, not at all?
Damn it, I thought I was but I must be a figment of my own imagination :giggle:
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Quote by 4playinc
sorry if im out of order but if i got an e mail from any person where i struggled to read the meaning of the message
i would not bother to reply
bad spelling, poor grammer, or just plain rude, leave me cold
this is my view only,

Quite frankly, I would much rather connect with somebody who strives to communicate in a language other than their first rather than with someone unable to master their own.
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Quote by skanders
ive had the same experience bra cock, this site is truly becoming a joke know, not worth the headache, most of the ads are fakes and girls who are just fishing for comments to keep their confidence up, no one is real anymore.

rolleyes here we go again.
And even the cock said that:
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*snip* the real ones is just 10 percent!*

Nobody is forced to stay here - if you don't like the odds or feel that the site is crap/a joke, leave dunno
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Well sounds that you really don't know me at all, never sending a cold email or a harsh or unpolite email to anyone, in my emails i say who am, what i do and the way am and oh my life experience,travelling abroad, speaking 3 languagues and yeah one of those is english,so that is a cold email??

I think you may misunderstand this statement. A cold email is not one where you are unpleasant in the email, it is when you send an email without being asked to send one. For example, telephone sales do telephone cold calling e.g. when they phone you up at night and want to sell you double glazing. Another example is the door to door salesman who is trying to offload his dishcloths. He is cold calling at your house i.e. you didn't invite him to your house to sell you the stuff, he knocked on the off chance that you will buy his goods.
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I think the phrase is de ja vu......I think I may have spelt it wrong...but then again my bloody sceptic spellchecker says I spelt spelt wrong too so sod it