i might regret sticking in my ten penneth...but its a subject i used to have strong feelings on... used to!
i always hated anyone who cheated on their partners... i always hated the thought of lying and deceiving...and felt that honesty was the more difficult but correct course of action. I even fell out with my best mate becuase she cheated on my other best mate (her very long term man). I was horrifed. But, having been stuck in a crap relationship for seven years myself I got to a point where I could understand cheating. It wasn't that I wanted to be cold or calculating about it... it was just that i felt stuck, trapped...and my ability to muster any courage to confront the situation was gone, my self esteem had been chpped away... i was just on this awful treadmill. So.. if some man had come along and offered me some spark.. and maybe even the strenghth and reason to leave... i might have taken it. As it was, i didnt, and went on to be miserable for a good while longer.
All i'm saying is that there are many different circumstances in relationships... and cheating isn't always as clear cut as it looks... it's not always a case of the poor man/woman at home being lied to by her partner. Having said that... the peoples that are happy with their partners and are being pretty calculating about their extra relationships... i'm not too sympathetic with... although lets face it... the relationship isnt right in the first place if this is happening. It doesn't excuse the behaviour... but i'm not judge and jury... i did the whole sanctimonius thing years ago and cost me my best mate... at least now we speak and i told her i understood more about her situation...
every person is different and cant generalise about cheating men or women
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Quote by fluffer
i might regret sticking in my ten penneth...but its a subject i used to have strong feelings on... used to!
i always hated anyone who cheated on their partners... i always hated the thought of lying and deceiving...and felt that honesty was the more difficult but correct course of action. I even fell out with my best mate becuase she cheated on my other best mate (her very long term man). I was horrifed. But, having been stuck in a crap relationship for seven years myself I got to a point where I could understand cheating. It wasn't that I wanted to be cold or calculating about it... it was just that i felt stuck, trapped...and my ability to muster any courage to confront the situation was gone, my self esteem had been chpped away... i was just on this awful treadmill. So.. if some man had come along and offered me some spark.. and maybe even the strenghth and reason to leave... i might have taken it. As it was, i didnt, and went on to be miserable for a good while longer.
All i'm saying is that there are many different circumstances in relationships... and cheating isn't always as clear cut as it looks... it's not always a case of the poor man/woman at home being lied to by her partner. Having said that... the peoples that are happy with their partners and are being pretty calculating about their extra relationships... i'm not too sympathetic with... although lets face it... the relationship isnt right in the first place if this is happening. It doesn't excuse the behaviour... but i'm not judge and jury... i did the whole sanctimonius thing years ago and cost me my best mate... at least now we speak and i told her i understood more about her situation...
every person is different and cant generalise about cheating men or women
i suppose you have a good point there... and maybe i was a little too judgemental in my approach.
i find it hard though to get a stereotypical image of the"cheating" partner out of my head sometimes.....
i pittty sometimes the person doing the cheating as it must be hard to be in a relationship where they are not happy.... and of course, no-one knows what goes on behind four walls.
so id just like to say that i apologise for getting on my high horse a little .........
fluffer has helped me to realise i'm not and shouldnt be judge and jury in these things......and if im honest i havent been an angel myself in the past......
anyhow..
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circumstances can make people do the strangest things..we dont always know what these circumstances are.
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Quote by wild rose and the stag
circumstances can make people do the strangest things..we dont always know what these circumstances are.
staggy
100% agree. I admit to having cheated on my ex. There are no excuses I could give that would convince everyone "Oh poor Abi... she had every right" However I can say that the circumstances did not allow for an easy quick exit and I made a decision that I have to live with. In retrospect would I do it again? No. Not because I feel I will be morally battered but because I can't take that kind of stress of lying to someone. I now know that I would rather be happy and single than with someone and miserable.
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Getting back to the original post.......
I have had a quick read through the thread but I think a combination of not getting to bed until 5am Sunday morning and the resulting 'yukky' feeling means i'm not firing on all cylinders, so if i'm repeating whats been said, sorry :S
Whether we would meet a person, male or female, that is on here as a single but is actually attached and their partner doesn't know would depend on the circumstances. As someone said if your in a club your not going to ask for a resumee and/or written permission slip :small-print:
The main point i wanted to bring out echos what, I think it was T&H said, there are those on here who are attached 'in the real world' but who are single on here and their partners know and understand. In my mind they are a totally different category from the 'married but cheating' group.
There is also the problem with the categories on the site, some of which has been carried over from the sites take over last year. There are those on here who will show up as singles but are in fact married, I used to. When asked what I was I put a male (well i was last time i checked) and the system automatically assigned me a single male classification. Calista and I have always had seperate account on here so I thought it was wrong to put couple because I am not, I'm a single male, one person but part of a couple. Hope that makes sense....
Think I'll go and shut up by a corner now, my head hurts lol.
Quote by louise_and_joe
I was approached in the chatroom by what appeared to be a single man asking to arrange a meet. When i checked his profile he was listed as a married man (not as a couple). I dont know how i feel about going with someone who is obviously lying to their better half. Especially if they live pretty close. What if the wife finds out? Is he to be trusted? What do you think?
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I have had a quick read through the thread but I think a combination of not getting to bed until 5am Sunday morning and the resulting 'yukky' feeling means i'm not firing on all cylinders, so if i'm repeating whats been said, sorry :S
Whether we would meet a person, male or female, that is on here as a single but is actually attached and their partner doesn't know would depend on the circumstances. As someone said if your in a club your not going to ask for a resumee and/or written permission slip :small-print:
The main point i wanted to bring out echos what, I think it was T&H said, there are those on here who are attached 'in the real world' but who are single on here and their partners know and understand. In my mind they are a totally different category from the 'married but cheating' group.
There is also the problem with the categories on the site, some of which has been carried over from the sites take over last year. There are those on here who will show up as singles but are in fact married, I used to. When asked what I was I put a male (well i was last time i checked) and the system automatically assigned me a single male classification. Calista and I have always had seperate account on here so I thought it was wrong to put couple because I am not, I'm a single male, one person but part of a couple. Hope that makes sense....
Think I'll go and shut up by a corner now, my head hurts lol.
I have had a quick read through the thread but I think a combination of not getting to bed until 5am Sunday morning and the resulting 'yukky' feeling means i'm not firing on all cylinders, so if i'm repeating whats been said, sorry :S
You was only asked to show Dlep where marcusos was, did you follow him, instead of him following you?
Orgasminator
Quote by essex34m
I have had a quick read through the thread but I think a combination of not getting to bed until 5am Sunday morning and the resulting 'yukky' feeling means i'm not firing on all cylinders, so if i'm repeating whats been said, sorry :S
You was only asked to show Dlep where marcusos was, did you follow him, instead of him following you?
No thats what happens when you take Calista to the after munch party at Marcusos... we get home late
Quote by Morbius
I have had a quick read through the thread but I think a combination of not getting to bed until 5am Sunday morning and the resulting 'yukky' feeling means i'm not firing on all cylinders, so if i'm repeating whats been said, sorry :S
You was only asked to show Dlep where marcusos was, did you follow him, instead of him following you?
No thats what happens when you take Calista to the after munch party at Marcusos... we get home late
to be fair, Dlep could get lost in a lift
Orgasminator
Quote by essex34m
I have had a quick read through the thread but I think a combination of not getting to bed until 5am Sunday morning and the resulting 'yukky' feeling means i'm not firing on all cylinders, so if i'm repeating whats been said, sorry :S
You was only asked to show Dlep where marcusos was, did you follow him, instead of him following you?
No thats what happens when you take Calista to the after munch party at Marcusos... we get home late
to be fair, Dlep could get lost in a lift
No he couldn't.... he'd never get in it.... he'd spend all night trying to figure out which one of the 2 doors he should go in thru :rotflmao:
Quote by Morbius
I have had a quick read through the thread but I think a combination of not getting to bed until 5am Sunday morning and the resulting 'yukky' feeling means i'm not firing on all cylinders, so if i'm repeating whats been said, sorry :S
You was only asked to show Dlep where marcusos was, did you follow him, instead of him following you?
No thats what happens when you take Calista to the after munch party at Marcusos... we get home late
to be fair, Dlep could get lost in a lift
No he couldn't.... he'd never get in it.... he'd spend all night trying to figure out which one of the 2 doors he should go in thru :rotflmao:
and thats after he has stared blankly for an hour at the two buttons that open the doors
Quote by essex34m
People seem to be missing the key point in all of this....
this married fella - did he have a nice cock
no offence
dont care
So you are not fussy about cock-chic then? Are you more of a come one cum all kinda guy?
again, but in English please?
Your not fussy what the phallus looks like....
Not choosey about the chopper....
Not selective about the schlong...
Not picky with the penis...
No preference about the poker?
Quote by PoloLady
People seem to be missing the key point in all of this....
this married fella - did he have a nice cock
no offence
dont care
So you are not fussy about cock-chic then? Are you more of a come one cum all kinda guy?
again, but in English please?
Your not fussy what the phallus looks like....
Not choosey about the chopper....
Not selective about the schlong...
Not picky with the penis...
No preference about the poker?
i like chicks not dicks, you are asking the wrong guy
Quote by essex34m
People seem to be missing the key point in all of this....
this married fella - did he have a nice cock
no offence
dont care
So you are not fussy about cock-chic then? Are you more of a come one cum all kinda guy?
again, but in English please?
Your not fussy what the phallus looks like....
Not choosey about the chopper....
Not selective about the schlong...
Not picky with the penis...
No preference about the poker?
i like chicks not dicks, you are asking the wrong guy
Ah... cock-shy. Never mind, you'll grow out if it evenually
Quote by essex34m
People seem to be missing the key point in all of this....
this married fella - did he have a nice cock
no offence
dont care
So you are not fussy about cock-chic then? Are you more of a come one cum all kinda guy?
again, but in English please?
Your not fussy what the phallus looks like....
Not choosey about the chopper....
Not selective about the schlong...
Not picky with the penis...
No preference about the poker?
i like chicks not dicks, you are asking the wrong guy
But to be fair mate you did reply to Polo's post......and if you look at it the way she did and myslf as well....it looked to us you weren't fussy what the cock looked like.....now come on....is there something you want to tell us!
Orgasminator
Quote by essex34m
actually, now you have made that point, i see where you are coming from
ok, i will try again
I have no interest in cocks, therefore dont care
please tell me that sounds better?
what not even your own??? :shock:
oh ffs.....
I'd give up mate....
Quote by PoloLady
actually, now you have made that point, i see where you are coming from
ok, i will try again
I have no interest in cocks, therefore dont care
please tell me that sounds better?
Too late to cover the tracks now
The word is out there
and the annoying thing is, im of the "post and be dammned" variety
oh well, as a 20th century philosopher once said
"ridicule is nothing to be scared of"
Quote by essex34m
actually, now you have made that point, i see where you are coming from
ok, i will try again
I have no interest in cocks, therefore dont care
please tell me that sounds better?
Too late to cover the tracks now
The word is out there
and the annoying thing is, im of the "post and be dammned" variety
oh well, as a 20th century philosopher once said
"ridicule is nothing to be scared of"
Hey Essex.....your shoelace is untide!! :lol:
