seems people are suffering from 'profile stress'.
it's not worth it
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Sexpert
Quote by tweeky
As a single guy who turned 40 this year, you have filled me with much hope.
Cool!!
But i's time to face facts!!
YOU...WILL....NEVER....BE...AN....ASTRONAUT.
everything else can happen if you want it to!!
Bell
Maybe not the case. Commercial flights are on the way in the not too distant future if you have a spare 100k
I'm a single guy now 46
and I can relate to lots of that, I'm a single parent too so get precious little time spare ( and people think I'm making excuses which makes it worse ) but I kinda think you have to be upbeat, As forum posters we have already proven we can read ( and write ) which a lot of single guys appear not to be a able to by mailing those that don't want it so I think we're already the cream of the single guy crop lol.And Tweeky is right :shock: You CAN be an astronaut thought it might take a lottery win or the sale of your house. Check it here > Bookmark now and buy a lottery ticket.
Sexlightened
Quote by fishnchips
We have had the same problem. The profile clearly reads no single men.
I am so tempted to start listing there names on the profile to say they are idiots.
We are getting to a point where we are thinking of removing the public pictures, and making them private.
But your also a member of the groups...
"Discreet daytime Safe Sex with Black males in or around the Birmingham area"
"this group is for young genuine single males whom like to lick pussy while hubby watches"
"Females & couples who like fit asian men"
So why join groups what single males might think your interested in them if your not.. who the idiots
Sexpert
Quote by poshkate
I'm sorry, but as in many other instances in life, the actions of a few do get the majority tarred with the same brush.
We don't want messages from single men. What is it they don't understand?
I wouldn't be so rude as to try to contact anybody who says, in plain English, that they don't want to be contacted ~ its bad manners.
Course, it could be that actually you've just been contacted by people who can't read, or are pushy, or think they're Gods gift. Not traits exclusive to single men. Just so happens that the vast majority of users on this site are single men, so chances are when you get messages from those who can't read, or are pushy, or think they're Gods gift, most will inevitably come from single men. It's simple statistics and the law of averages you see, but you have chosen to see it as a 'single men' issue?
Neil x x x ;)
Agreed Neil, actually I don;t think it's a single male issue at all. My profile says not to contact me and I get a couple of messages a day, half from males and half from couple/fems, so actually when you add it all up with member numbers then the couples/fems are the worst offenders. Maybe I should start a thread about couple and single fems messaging me :lol2:
My profile says I'm purely on here socially, and _no-one_ bothers contacting me, for social or for sex-eh reasons. Much. (Well, occasionally there is a message from a stranger, usually straight men telling me they are bi when their profile tells a different story, but that's their choice) - I must be doing something wrong :>
On the topic - I don't see anything wrong with blocking messages from certain groups of people. Everyone on here is here through choice, and I am assuming know what they are after. If people do not want to hear from single men at all, then that's fair enough - and if there are tools thet can use to block single men from contacting them - then that is also fair enough. I do not understand why anyone would message someone who has made it clear they are not interested in hearing from people in their category. That'd be like me PM-ing a straight bloke who has put an ad on for hot chixx, and telling him I have a big weenie so he should meet me.
Sex God
I personally don't get why people get pissed off so easily. Lets be honest, how long does it take to read a mail find out it does or does not suit? Reply or bin it, same goes for chat room whispers
Sexlightened
Quote by Lost
I personally don't get why people get pissed off so easily. Lets be honest, how long does it take to read a mail find out it does or does not suit? Reply or bin it, same goes for chat room whispers
post of 2011 as voted by me
Sex God
Quote by nostringsluton
I personally don't get why people get pissed off so easily. Lets be honest, how long does it take to read a mail find out it does or does not suit? Reply or bin it, same goes for chat room whispers
post of 2011 as voted by me
and I'll second that! :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by gothicpunk
On the topic - I don't see anything wrong with blocking messages from certain groups of people. Everyone on here is here through choice, and I am assuming know what they are after. If people do not want to hear from single men at all, then that's fair enough - and if there are tools thet can use to block single men from contacting them - then that is also fair enough. I do not understand why anyone would message someone who has made it clear they are not interested in hearing from people in their category. That'd be like me PM-ing a straight bloke who has put an ad on for hot chixx, and telling him I have a big weenie so he should meet me.
:thumbup:
Whoops you got me there.. I forgot we had joined them groups.. time to remove them 
But your also a member of the groups...
"Discreet daytime Safe Sex with Black males in or around the Birmingham area"
"this group is for young genuine single males whom like to lick pussy while hubby watches"
"Females & couples who like fit asian men"
So why join groups what single males might think your interested in them if your not.. who the idiots
Quote by nostringsluton
We have had the same problem. The profile clearly reads no single men.
I am so tempted to start listing there names on the profile to say they are idiots.
We are getting to a point where we are thinking of removing the public pictures, and making them private.
But your also a member of the groups...
"Discreet daytime Safe Sex with Black males in or around the Birmingham area"
"this group is for young genuine single males whom like to lick pussy while hubby watches"
"Females & couples who like fit asian men"
So why join groups what single males might think your interested in them if your not.. who the idiots
Quote by Jewlnmart
1. single men posing as couples can be reported then they have to prove they are not.
There's a button on profiles to enable you to report profiles to admin
I guess that is an option.. but i didnt want to ruin a genuine couples chance or get them in trouble so never used it. I only really looked at using a button like tghat if someone got offensive or stalkerish in some way. Maybe a button.. "Not genuine?"
Quote by Jewlnmart
2. An option can be given where you can select what you are not looking for, and if the person contacts you any way you can report them in some way.
Settings > Privacy > Mail Settings > Tick the box for 'male' and presto hey! No more mail from Male profiles.
Have done that, but they still come through. An example is a guy who saw another one of our posts, who pm'd us. He was a single guy, listed as a single guy (We didnt mind his PM, he was making a genuine offer).
Also another single guy, listed as single, who pmed us and mentioned a "sexy partner" who isnt mentioned on the site.
Quote by fishnchips
Have done that, but they still come through. An example is a guy who saw another one of our posts, who pm'd us. He was a single guy, listed as a single guy (We didnt mind his PM, he was making a genuine offer).
So what makes you think that a single guy asking for sex on a swinging site isn't making a genuine offer?
A bit of consistency from people would go some way to helping the situation.
Quote by essex34m
Have done that, but they still come through. An example is a guy who saw another one of our posts, who pm'd us. He was a single guy, listed as a single guy (We didnt mind his PM, he was making a genuine offer).
So what makes you think that a single guy asking for sex on a swinging site isn't making a genuine offer?
A bit of consistency from people would go some way to helping the situation.
I think you have got the wrong end of the stick here.
In the example above, it clearly says we dont want single men, yet he PM'd us, we check the no men option, and he still managed to PM us.
What i was saying was i didnt mind that as bad as a single guys saying he is in a couple.
I think there is a real reality to be faced here...
Most couples or single women "enjoy the attention from single men", if that was not the case then why would there be a post on it.
Now - as for us, we have blocked single males and we have our whispers set to "authorised" in chat.
... that is because we call the shots - and we don't pretend to be annoyed etc etc
Turn off your whispers - block single male accounts and simply don't respond to single males if it really is that much of a drama.
... there will be the customary shite responses like "... oh but we shouldn't have to" etc.
Get a grip - stop pretending to be a woman, admit you are 38 years old and still living at home with your mother - give up trainspotting, put down your laptop and move into the real world for a couple of hours.
Most couples or single women "enjoy the attention from single men", if that was not the case then why would there be a post on it.
Now - as for us, we have blocked single males and we have our whispers set to "authorised" in chat.
... that is because we call the shots - and we don't pretend to be annoyed etc etc
Turn off your whispers - block single male accounts and simply don't respond to single males if it really is that much of a drama.
... there will be the customary shite responses like "... oh but we shouldn't have to" etc.
Get a grip - stop pretending to be a woman, admit you are 38 years old and still living at home with your mother - give up trainspotting, put down your laptop and move into the real world for a couple of hours.
