okay it's not really a complete rant. it's my experience of the place, nothing more. i really am not having a go. this is not personal. ask a question i will reply, IMHO, and consider your reply before i reply again ((( usually! ;-) )))
it is not statistics it is finding what you want, and how to experience it with others who want the same things! that does occasionally take a little discussion. <<< sighs >>> if we don't match, well ok! we'll be friends instead! you have no idea what i do behind the scenes in PM! you think <<<<<<<<<<<< that post count is high???? not really. look about it's common among us!
i can only reiterate what others have said. there is a big place here for single guys. if you only scratch the surface you will not know how big it is. ((( no sexual innuendo this time honest ;-) )))
all i have offered this site is a way with words and a vaguely amusing post at times, and lots of patience, because of my own slowness on the whole swinging issue. opportunities came much earlier, and i am not smug about them at all.
i see swinging as a learning experience, in terms of sexual exploration with like-minded friends, that is hard to find IRL. not shagging. that's my definition, others may have a different one. it's IMHO. but you have to be here long enough, and try different ways, to find out what is swinging and do i want to swing. it has not been a quick process to get to the what am i really doing here realisations.
yes you may have to overcome a prejudice, but if you understand where it comes from, because you see and hear of it on a daily basis, you will try to overcome it with patience and personality and wit, and possibly you'll match with someone elses definition of the whole thing. if you have not the personality and wit and patience to get a random shag on a friday night down the pub, well i wish you all the best here.
i have no great attributes. i can occasionally make people laugh, which i've found IRL is also quite a useful strategy, and i am sincere and honest. that is all people here have got to know me by. my words. the same you send in your email or post here. i am a bit post happy ((( stop sniggering at the back ))) and i have become known. and i have found that the initial prejudice is very much a bit of an arms length thing till you prove yourself, and fit the right criteria. those criteria exist for everybody, single men included ((( well they should! ))) because many are experimenting with what works for them. too often single guys don't. they just want a fuck and think they can find it here!
i've had some truly amazing experiences from this site. the last NW munch, well my thoughts on that are available elsewhere. it blew me away. but only because people knew me and we're pleased to see me, to my utmost surprise.
if you think you can come here, fire off a million emails in two weeks, then bitch that you ain't had a shag yet, well you may find a touch of hostility. far easier to go down town, ply a girl you don't fancy with drink, who you have nothing in common with, and hope you get her home and naked before she makes a mess of the taxi. i avoid that kind of bluntness when i can, but there it is!
if you expect other than what you find here, then you're expectations are wrong, IMHO, not the expectations of the world and his wife. i'm a bit sick of seeing it, and i usually refrain from posting on it, because, as Easy says, it's been done to death. we will not most likely even read it, except for a sorry shake of the head that another one bites the dust not knowing what he's missed out on! which can be a complete voyage of discovery if you only knew and waited.
my swinging life is a new one. it comes from actually meeting people in the flesh and deciding where do we go from here? not a random email!
neil x x x ;-)
I would formally like to stand down as the candidate spokesman for presenting the :"From a siingle males point of view". Not that what ive said I dont beleive in, more of I didnt ask for the role. As I said, stuck my head above the parapet at the wrong time. Not sure wether your post neil was directed soley at me or in general towards the subject. Perhaps I have become the subject as I am this single male.
If this had have been the start of a new and wonderful relationship with SH, then I surely have got off on the wrong foot it would seem. On the 18th im out of here (No judy, not Saudi yet), so ill be trying to keep my nose in topc until then. regards
and i too will bail on this thread, cos general comments in reply to general questions have become personal. if you took it as such i apologise. i did point out as much, but i am clearly misunderstood, even with ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ all that lot. which i've had in My Documents all bloody day since i wrote it at about 2am this morning. long before personal comments entered the equation.
adios!
neil x x x ;-)
For you, I will shut up.
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Can we get a mod along to lock this thread please?
Christ Almighty BlueThunder
Why keep sniping! It is so purile!
Can't you just LEAVE it!
i hope it all goes well for you..... keep us updated wont you. good luck and all the very best.
Arggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
feel better now
JUDGE Judy
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As far as the forum is concerned, as Roger and a few others say, that is the way to go. It is most definate the best way to meet new folk and gauge them for yourself. Imagine if we'd met through an add Judy? 
House on fire? :lol: .
to relieve the tension
(he sais sincerely...honest!)
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