Well done Daffers old girl ( I assume !)
I wouldn't mind some serious input on this one either.
Perhaps the residents of Bedrock have some views as they obviously have thought things through.
Regards to all.
Daffy...
I know that you will find various shades of opinion on here
You will also find some that would swing but don't cos of fact that their partner does not as well as those that do despite their partner not doing.. sometimes with partners knowledge other times without
Some folks swing with whoever some only with couples some only with singles
It has to be said Daffy that alsorts are represented here
Far be it from me to say which or who is right or wrong... I suspect that that has to be a decision for the individuals involved... If others want to judge than so be it , but hopefully most here would allow each other to take control of their own decision making in the full knowledge that with decisions made and thus the right to make them comes the responsibility for any consequences!!!
Don't even go into the definition of swinging.... it is much more narrow than many wouold wish for...
Just enjoy being here.... removal of clothing/ exchange of bodily fluids is not at all required... some just here for the fun...
Mirth
Just know many more experienced and knowledgeable than I will follow..
I think your spot on, swinging is the introduction of other people to your sex life so 1 on 1 between opposite sex's isn't really swinging, just adults doing what we were put on this earth to do.
Either way I think both approaches just show a liberal view towards sex, wether it's 1 on 1 or 3 sums etc. Sex is for fun whether it be DIY, 1 on 1 or more. To say one is swinging and the other not is trying to catagorise it. Not everyone that has had a threesome calls themselves swingers and there are people who would call themselves swingers who enjoy 1 on 1.
It's a bit like J likes women but isn't bi but some people are happy ot say they are bi. Saying that if your bi would that not mean you would have relationships with the same sex etc etc. All a bit woolly and open to argument, but at the end of the day who cares really?
I my eyes there is nothing to get confused about, forget the terminoligy and just do what turns you on. :twisted:
Someone, I think it is MrsFC, has something like the following as their sig (apologies to all concerned):
"We are put on earth for a good time, not a long time"
That, sums up swinging to me. Do what you enjoy with those who enjoy doing it.
It also, IMHO, sums up life.
My apologies Redhot for attributing your sig to MrsFc, and my apologies to MrsFC as well.
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Corrie,
I just want to say I you have articulated (I'm not talking about lorries here, boys) what I have been feeling when you said :
"I think women in the main who have more casual sex through swinging may feel a lot better about themselves than those who meet guys in a pub or singles websites as the groundrules are clear from the beginning and therefore guilt, shame etc should never be an issue. Women are far more liberated and confident in their abilities and boundaries as a woman, partner, parent and breadwinner."
My confidence has been enhanced through my experiences. It's more than just the lack of guilt and shame. It's also to do with the way the guys you meet this way treat you, the way they compliment you and care about you. They are not worried about you attempting to take them "shopping for curtains" as one of my contacts puts it so they in turn feel liberated to say nice things and treat you well knowing there's no risk of you wanting to march them up the aisle.
'Liberation' is, I think, the key word and in my mind 'swinging' equals 'liberation'. Liberation from the blinkered way most people look at sex and relationships. And - you'll recognise this as a single girl - liberation from '...likes long walks along the beach and candle-lit dinners'. Yeah - right!
Jezzay