i'm in a bit of a reflective mood lately, so possibly an odd question, i don't know???
in the time i've been here, i've seen a good few regs leave the site for what i call "swinging issues". possibly they dipped their toes, and decided it wasn't for them, or never had any intention of swinging, but just felt at home here, then perhaps began to feel a bit fraudulent, or the threat of discovery on the site was an issue for them personally, or could be for their friends and family.
i know a lot of regs here have yet to take the plunge, sooooo, i just wondered, how many members of Swinging Heaven are not yer "actual" swingers, do you think it matters in the slightest, and if you should discover swinging's not for you, would you feel your continued membership was kinda fraudulent, or misrepresentative of your intentions at all?
neil x x x x ;-)
Errr well id like to think im a genuine bonifide swinger,would anybody disagree with this ?
I'm not a swinger (though I tried...), I just have nowhere else to go.
I found this site via a Google search based on something my brother-in-law said in passing conversation.
I make no secret of coming here (the site) looking for an easy lay without the usual emotional requirements. Sex for sex's sake you could say.
When I found and joined in the Café, I found something other. That I didn't even realise I was looking for. I found a group of pretty much like minded people, who are by and large open, frank and adult in their view not only of sex but many other aspects of life.
The help and support I've had from the people here, when I've been feeling sorry for myself AND when I've been 'on top of the world' has really opened my eyes about the people here.
I didn't find my 'easy lay' and to be honest, I'm no longer 'chomping at the bit' to find it. I've enjoyed my time here and while ever I do, and feel welcome; I will stay. I really do enjoy the 'crack' of the place. I went to the Motel Mini Munch for research (lol) and will be going to the NW Munch for the social event. As I keep hearing throughout the site, if anything else happens; that will be a bonus.
So, no Neil; I don't consider myself a Swinger by any of the definitions I've read, but nor do I consider myself to be a fraud by being here. I come in here for the social interaction that is so readily available. I suppose the Café is one long virtual Munch for me. I've even managed a couple of visits to the chatroom, msn and messenger. None of which I would have done without being here AND getting help from people here.
As for people with "issues" don't you think that 90% of people in general have "issues" and "baggage" that they carry around with them? I know I do. Some going back as far as the late 70's. Why should people here be any different? Is it not "all part of life's rich tapestry" I believe so. And that everything that ever happens to us contributes to making us who we are.
<dambuster stands by for jokes about laying Easy>
Me and mrs davej have a dabble now and again when we feel like it, through visits to clubs and through contacts via this site generated by our advert. Why anyone would feel fraudulent about being a site member but not a swinger, is difficult to understand but then we are all complex in our own ways. Swingers or not, it matters not a jot to us, what does matter is that the threads and posts within them, are in the most part filled with comments that make us smile and comment that contain a smile.
Banter and piss taking, in the nicest possible way, is what keeps us posting. In a nutshell we just enjoy being here and enjoy reading your posts.
Don't think I'm speeking out of turn when i speek for my partner and I, but even tho we don't actively meet and seek people to swing with, we would stil consider a spontanious opertunity if the time and mood was right. (hope i'm not wrong).
Similarly to VenusnMars, we haven't yet swung, but have discussed it and whilst not "actively chasing" the first time, we are ready and when we meet the right person will embrace the opportunity. We've been to a club and we're off there again next weekend, and whilst it will be great to participate, we love the sexual freedom more than anything. If we pick up a few friends on the way then we'll be blessed, if we share some experiences then we'll be doubly blessed.
I was chatting to a cafe regular on messenger the other night and said the best thing that I've found in this place is the honesty, you can be as open as you like and it's accepted (assuming you aren't a twat). That to me is so refreshing, to come into the Cafe, find like minded, honest individuals and enjoy adult banter without having to worry about boundaries (although I do accept general convention boundaries).
) scan of the site and Mrs easy commented on the adult content of the site. Not the sex, but how "grown-up" and level headed everyone is. This came after reading the "help me cum" thread. She liked bluethunders honesty and the way all the site members reacted with honesty and and a genuine attempt to help.
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