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Snobbery towards single guys.

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As a single male, do you feel oppressed on swinging site?

Quote by Peanut
Then in that case you need that sense of humour bypass reversing.

You are the one who's complaining of snobbery towards people ilke yourself.
When you post something like that onto a thread were some women have been expressing their insecurities... wtf do you expect? loon
I didn't read it all, and my follow up post expressed my actual feelings on the matter, or plastic surgery in general for cosmetic reasons, my innitial comment was clearly said in jest.
That's the downside of dispassionate text, nothing is ever "clearly" anything. And by the looks of it it wasn't received in jest.
As someone who is expert in putting one's foot in one's mouth may I point out that you can't make everyone laugh, there is always some collateral damage. How much is proportional to the darkness of the humour.
It's a circle of life sort of thing biggrin
That last bit is a total non sequitor but I've always wanted to use it!
Your terminology turns me on! I'm typing small because I think I've used the wrong word redface
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Your terminology turns me on! I'm typing small because I think I've used the wrong word redface
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surprisedops: :rose:
I actually have a bit to say about this. but will get my thoguhts together, THEN post it all at once (I actually posted it yesterday, but by the time I had finished typing, good old SH had timed out so the SUBMIT didn't hit the site and it was all lost!
Admin, anyway you can increase the timeout/time-to-logout duration?
Quote by westerross
Having joined SH recently, I expected honesty in such a site. So far, single males I have had contact with have had partners, and want any meets to be 'discreet'. Personally I can't be bothered with any such situation! I'm on this site to meet people/couples who are open, honest and accepting of each other...not creeping around being deceiptful. Maybe I am more narrow minded than I like to think!!??

Not everyone, who wishes to be discreet, is hiding things from their partner.
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Quite right :thumbup:
I'll add this as I was going to quote this before I spotted your quote Tune:
Quote by Samndave
yawn, yawn, yawn hasn't this been done so many times before...
we will meet genuine single guys, but if profile says married, attached or with someone bye bye
Sam x

There are men here who are married and even have couples profiles who play seperately with the full knowledge/blessing of their partner so to automatically deny a man who is married is a bit harsh boink
The only single males who seem to comment on 'how bad it is out there' are the ones not having 'any luck'.
I know of a few lovely respectful males who are having a ball on this site, you'll therefore not see them in this forum commenting on getting a raw deal will you? cool
In my opinion and if I was inclined to meet a single/married with consent male, it would be one I've got to know pretty well and know he will be a decent bloke.
I wouldn't have a one night stand in the vanilla world with a bloke - why would I want to do it in here?? but that's just me.
moan moan moan,if you are turned down once get over it thats the way life is...but for me i find swinging while you are single gives me the freedom and the space to do alot of i was with my ex she had to like the male before am allowed to put a finger in the female,stop moaning ...have just made a booking at a hotel for a meet next friday,and had three last week,there is no way this could have happened if i was in a relationship...
glad none of my meets come to the forum lol
Single men lol
Hmmm where to start.
I like single men.
So much so that as I'd been chatting to several on various sites, I decided to organise a small social with some other swinging friends with a view to being able to meet all of these single men sociallyand also to introduce them to other people I know who like single male swingers. I much prefer to meet people socially and then make swinging plans but they seemed like decent guys so I was quite excited about being able to introduce them to other people too!
I invited seven single men, would you like to know the results?
2 - on holiday, fair enough
1 - read an invite to a social in a bar as an invite to a gangbang
2 - were very chatty but once they were invited to meet actual swingers in person, went silent
2 - wanted to attend, were given the details and then failed to show up with no apology or explanation to date (no, they're not dead, just dead out of luck :lol: )
That's just a small sample of some of the single men I've encountered recently. I've organised at least a dozen socials alongside private swinging meets and yet I've never had a couple or a woman as a no show at either. So you'll forgive me if I'm not overly sympathetic whenever I see yet another SMM (single male moan) as the "bad rap" is well and truly earned by a lot of guys cool
N.B. I do know some fab, reliable single men on swinging sites but they seem to be a minority!
For a long time, I would try and defend single men (after all, I am one) and of course, I'm going to say I'm respectful, treat women right yadda yadda yadda, but I have seen so much written in forums from single men, seen so many single men in the chatrooms, in a room that says no whispers/directing doing exactly that, how on earth can I defend that?
I do my own thing, and yes, I get bloody annoyed and frustrated when women display (on the face of it) appalling manners, by not responding to any PM that I have sent.
But I am now totally understanding of their reasons, and whilst it has on occasion annoyed me, all it has done is made a list of people I like even shorter, I'm now at the point where if I'm to spend time with someone, she has to have something special to offer (in my eyes), because the actions of a significant number of males has caused me to get to the point where maybe I'm cutting my nose to spite my face, and am getting more picky, and finding more reasons not to and their behaviour has caused this knock on effect.
It's wrong, but the way I'm currently feeling.
"History is made by those who show up" (Cant remember who said it originally, but I know it was said on the West Wing)
I understand why people villify those who disappoint? But its much more fun to celebrate those who impress... passionkiss