Well I am here for the open minded souls that inhabit this place (as you know Venus). When I felt like a fraud as I wasn't looking for sex (though I was originally after voyeurism) one of the regs put it nicely by saying, "why would we not want a nice open minded person on here?"
So I suppose that is what keeps me coming back, I don't judge, I love those who I have met here, I can't follow in their footsteps, but I don't begrudge them. So I am a social swinger, I am here for the mad banter, the escape from what I am supposed to think, to be with interesting happy people who are open to the world.
The sex thing will always be in the background, a temptation for me as I am married and Mrs TnH does not swing. So for me that should be kept in fantasy, but as I have said before, you sleep with a person, not a body. So a deep social relationship is fulfilling in itself, especially to those who are a little stifled socially.
I joined SH as a single bi-fem and met my partner after a few months. We are now social swingers and enjoy meeting up with people who have become friends over the last year.
One of the reasons why I joined SH in the first place was to meet other open minded people and have a laugh.
Thats is exactly why we still continue going to munches.
errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr where do i begin............................i sort of ended up here due to easy who took a while to tell me he was posting!
He thought i wouldn't approve or would think he was swinging, neither of which are true.
We have both been asked numerous times" why are we here if we don't swing?" and have had a few offers to" burst our cherries" so to speak. Easy has his own reasons for being here, but mine are I was curious as to what it was all about. I would read the posts over his shoulder and find them funny informative and I began to bond with certain people.
It was after the first munch where I met some of those people who encouraged me to post under my own sign on regardless of whether i swung or not that made me do it.
If for any reason however we are not wanted as hard as it would be we would stop posting and attending munches. We have always maintained that we don't swing and have never lead anyone to believe we do.
I just love this quote taken from Tallnhairys posting onthis thread.
......................................but as I have said before, you sleep with a person, not a body.
That just sums up my attitude to my husbsand!!
We originally joined the site to make sexual contacts, mainly couples but didnt really know exactly what we were looking for.
Away from the swinging scene we have a number of single friends, but not many couples who we can see socially without any expectations. Through SH there are plenty of people, couples and singles who we could swing with, but by the same light we now have a number of couples with whom we have made frineds and see socially. So in a way we come here socially for friendship which is as important for us as making new sexual contacts.
If we were to stop swinging, we would still come here because of the friends we have made.
I am sure a psychologist would diagnose me with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder if he knew how much time I spend in here! 
It would be nice if I could make some friends but I am not sure I would be able to shag them. I am one of these people who feel freer with strangers.
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