The depth of the social side to swinging never fails to impress me, and we both have a few friends who attend munches and meet us socially but are not sexual participants at all. Many more we meet socially who are sexually active on the scene, but are simply not with us. Friendships are a huge factor on SH.
I`d like to hear more from the non-sexual participants of the scene, and those of us who have made great friends from here they`d never shag! Once sex is out of the equation, what is left? Why SH if sex isn`t what you are after ;)
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I haven’t been to any swinging parties as of yet.
But I do find this site interesting in the community it brings together, as well as the laths.
But I think in most peoples eyes the end resolt of this is sex
Interesting sentiment James, for when we first joined we thought that would be the case, but for us it has turned out to be very different to that. The sex is there when we want it, but if I had to swap one for the other, we`d choose the friendships, it has proven to be much more rewarding for us. Luckily, we don`t have to choose, as we prefer both! :twisted:
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You turd! :giggle:
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I think if people wanted just friend ship they would go onto a chat site rather then a swinger’s site.
Or would they
Apparently not, given some of the people here I`ve met. That`s why it would be interesting to hear what they have to say. Obviously the sexually active swingers outnumber them a great deal, but there must be something nice about us all aside from our genitals! :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
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I dont see what not being Jewish has to do with it .
Quote by james02
I think if people wanted just friend ship they would go onto a chat site rather then a swinger’s site.
Or would they
And which other site would help you forge friendships with people who you know are open minded and can accept you for who you are? I have made some good friends on here who I know I can turn to if anything in this world goes pear shaped in a way that I can't turn to my RL friends.
It happened today in fact. Something happened that I really needed to speak to someone about. And I knew I could turn to those people with no pretense. And vice - versa - they too have turned to me when they needed someone to talk to.
The social side is as important I believe!
Well, they say that honesty is the best policy so here goes nothing.
I am not a swinger.
I have never swung.
So why am I here?
More importantly, what does my wife think about me being a member of this site?
I'm here because I like chatting to friendly people.
I'm here because this site seems to be well policed by moderators who quickly get rid of trouble makers and what are known on other chat sites as "Trolls".
I'm here because I want to meet people socially and have a beer with people who's sole topic of conversation is not how much equity they have in their house.
I'm here because so far, I like it here.
What does my wife think?
She knows I am a member and she has seen a lot of the same things on here that I have but she would never, ever post or attend any meets. It just isn't her thing, so to speak.
But we may be in a fairly unique situation, I don't know.
All I know is that we love each other dearly but as far as the physical side goes, it doesn't.
Please let me stay.
I'll just sit in a corner and bring beer or wine when needed, lol
I am not a swinger.
I have never swung.
So why am I here?
More importantly, what does my wife think about me being a member of this site?
I'm here because I like chatting to friendly people.
I'm here because this site seems to be well policed by moderators who quickly get rid of trouble makers and what are known on other chat sites as "Trolls".
I'm here because I want to meet people socially and have a beer with people who's sole topic of conversation is not how much equity they have in their house.
I'm here because so far, I like it here.
What does my wife think?
She knows I am a member and she has seen a lot of the same things on here that I have but she would never, ever post or attend any meets. It just isn't her thing, so to speak.
But we may be in a fairly unique situation, I don't know.
All I know is that we love each other dearly but as far as the physical side goes, it doesn't.
Please let me stay.
I'll just sit in a corner and bring beer or wine when needed, lol
Quote by Rainbows
I think if people wanted just friend ship they would go onto a chat site rather then a swinger’s site.
Or would they
And which other site would help you forge friendships with people who you know are open minded and can accept you for who you are? I have made some good friends on here who I know I can turn to if anything in this world goes pear shaped in a way that I can't turn to my RL friends.
It happened today in fact. Something happened that I really needed to speak to someone about. And I knew I could turn to those people with no pretense. And vice - versa - they too have turned to me when they needed someone to talk to.
The social side is as important I believe!
There are other web sites aimed at different people for there own little comity, the other ones I use probably wouldn’t appeal to you in the slightest
Quote by VenusnMars
I haven’t been to any swinging parties as of yet.
But I do find this site interesting in the community it brings together, as well as the laths.
But I think in most peoples eyes the end resolt of this is sex
Interesting sentiment James, for when we first joined we thought that would be the case, but for us it has turned out to be very different to that. The sex is there when we want it, but if I had to swap one for the other, we`d choose the friendships, it has proven to be much more rewarding for us. Luckily, we don`t have to choose, as we prefer both! :twisted:
Venusxxx
Well I joined up initially in a search for friends, yes sex is an important part of my life, but I cant just "shag anyhting that moves" unlike a lot of men. My siggie perhaps says it better, I like to have a laugh, i cant go and be intimate with somebody that doesnt appeal to me on a personality basis. For me, its get to know somebody a bit, see if we can laugh and chat, if somethng more comes of it, then it does, if it doesnt, well i have a new friend .
Somebody once said, a man is not measured by what he has, or what he thinks he has, he is measured by his friends. A man with many friends is richer than a man without friends.
You know, I believe that, I know some ladies, absolute dropdead knockouts, would I shag them and risk losing a friendship because of it, no. A shag is a shag is a shag, a friend is valuable and hard to replace.. Perhaps I am an oddity, but having spent a long time reading threads here, including some well old threads, I would think I am not so much a rarity as i believed. Sure there are the trolls, morons and general losers who show up from time to time, the same as the "4F guys", ( Find,Finger,Fuck<forget for those too young to know it). And yes there are some unmentionables who rear ther putrescant heads occaisonally, but on the whole, I find the members here, polite, friendly and on the whole honest.
Thats why I stayed
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Quote by VenusnMars
I think if people wanted just friend ship they would go onto a chat site rather then a swinger’s site.
Or would they
Apparently not, given some of the people here I`ve met. That`s why it would be interesting to hear what they have to say. Obviously the sexually active swingers outnumber them a great deal, but there must be something nice about us all aside from our genitals! :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
I don't suppose too many people join a site like this looking primarily for friendship. I think what tends to happen though is people come here motivated mainly by sex, and often discover, perhaps to their surprise, that there's a strong social community to be enjoyed too. If after dipping their toes they decide swinging's not really for them after all, they may have made so many friends along the way they decide to stay for that reason alone.
Personally I'm here for both, but if I had a choice between meeting someone from SH for sex, or meeting a friend from SH for a drink (and tonight I do happen to have exactly that choice) I would choose the latter.
I originally joined SH out of pure curiosity but the longer I stay the more I like it! It was the sex side of it that I was interested in but I probably wouldn't have stuck around so much if it wasn't for the Forum and the friendly people I've come to know here. The most surprising thing to me has been the friendship, the parties aren't just sex, they are great fun, lots of laughs and chatter and the social aspect has grown in importance for me too. I also find that there are people that I fancy more and people I wouldn't shag because they are good friends and it is better that way.
I came upon this by accident, I took time to read the threads.
Then I decided to jump in and join.
I did not join for the sex side of it, but for the fun and pure enjoyment from the variety of topics that are posted daily.
I find that on the whole, the people here are very friendly and extremly helpful.
Due to illness and pressure of work I have not been here much since xmas.
I might not have posted much but have been following the threads.
I hope to continue here for some time to come.
Allan
Then I decided to jump in and join.
I did not join for the sex side of it, but for the fun and pure enjoyment from the variety of topics that are posted daily.
I find that on the whole, the people here are very friendly and extremly helpful.
Due to illness and pressure of work I have not been here much since xmas.
I might not have posted much but have been following the threads.
I hope to continue here for some time to come.
Allan
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Quote by james02
I haven’t been to any swinging parties as of yet.
But I do find this site interesting in the community it brings together, as well as the laths.
But I think in most peoples eyes the end resolt of this is sex
What do thin strips of wood have to do with swinging, unless you use them to punish someone with
Quote by freckledbird
I haven’t been to any swinging parties as of yet.
But I do find this site interesting in the community it brings together, as well as the laths.
But I think in most peoples eyes the end resolt of this is sex
What do thin strips of wood have to do with swinging, unless you use them to punish someone with
Freckle! That post was a pretty good effort for James 
Venusxxx
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I know, he's getting better bless him, you can understand most of what he's trying to say now. Or is it that we're getting worse?Sorry, James
I haven't been quite as picky though lately, have I?
Bev
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The best swinging experiences for us have been with people we've become friends with first. Not judging or criticising anyone, but we don't know how people can shag each other without at least knowing the other person's name (I think there are people who prefer the anonymous thrill in itself?)
Bev
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I haven't been quite as picky though lately, have I?
Bev
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lol I dunno, yours was just the first post I saw this morning (This morning being just now, and not the 6amish I logged off :huh
Vix, gizza chance, I`ve not had my coffee!
/tuts
Now I`m going to have to bully someone today just to prove I`m not soft, and if they flounce it`ll be ALL Vix`s fault, but do you think everyone else will see that? No,it`ll be evil Venus` fault........mutter, mutter, grumble, bitch.......
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