Some questions for the couples out there

17 Apr 2005

Reading Tania's comment in another thread started me off on a "muse" and I thought it I'd ask some questions to help me along with my musing confused

Everybody on here is looking for different things/people, but broadly speaking the following are the most prevalent (referring to couples not singles here), or, okay, interest me the most - so I am going to start there and ask some questions - if you don't mind. If you do mind - you don't have to answer wink

I only ask 'cos I am a nosey bugger. No seriously - this interests me.
1. Straight couples looking for single men:-
This is where both are straight and they are looking for a single bloke (obv).
Question: Do you only "go for" straight blokes, or do you not mind? If you have made it obvious that you are both straight, does knowing that the single bloke may be bi put you off?
2. Straight couples looking for single women:-
This is where both are straight and are looking for a single woman (obv)
I don't see many of these about. Is this because most couples looking for a single women are only looking for a bi woman?
3. Straight couples looking for either soft or full swing with another couple:-
Once again - both are straight.
Same question as 1 kind of - do you only look for other straight couples? Does it "bother" you if you know that one or other of the other couple may be bi? Having made it obvious that you are both straight of course
Looking forward to hearing from the diverse community we have here.
And please don't let the fact that I am bi (see - I said bi and not Lesbian :shock: ) put you off answering. I am not going to be upset if you prefer not to play with bi's. I really am just interested, and have not ulterior motive. And I sincerely hope that others will afford you the same respect.
Finally
4. Misschief:-
Yes you
Question: Please, please, please will you turn bi!!! cool

only joking! Luv you as you are!
aRSex :color:

17 Apr 2005

Quote by Rainbows
4. Misschief:-
Yes you
Question: Please, please, please will you turn bi!!! only joking! Luv you as you are!

Oh Bows you made me bluddy jump then!!!!!! rotflmao

Was just about to start huffin cos couldn't contribute to your thread, then saw me name there :shock: You're a wicked girl Bows, who not only knows exactly how to get me flustered, but would shit yourself if I took you seriously rotflmao

............... So when's me bi lesson :twisted: cool

:bounce:
Luv you too hunny kiss

17 Apr 2005

Nice questions rainbows
As far as we were concerned in time gone by the answer to all three scenarious was a firm yes. Niether of us are Bi and our requirements were unwaveringly for straight people. That then opens up the very obvious question ....why? Which then gets the not so clever answer......dont know dunno

......prejudice dunno

...........irrational fears dunno

.......blinkered thinking dunno

........a misplaced sense of safety and comfort dunno

couldn't tell you, a bit like I always button me shirt from the bottom up, no rhyme nor reason to it, I just do, but with a bit of luck the old wise monkeys will come out, wag the old finger and let us know. wink

17 Apr 2005

well....
its not a complete answer to your question, but at least a parital one....
Sini is bi, but Mav is straight.. and we have done foursoms with a bi couple (so both of them were bi).
Mav just made it clear that he wasnt into that and it was respected. he did feel a bit odd to start with, but relaxed after a few ins and we have had many a good time with them ;)
Hope that some help....
but not that much....
biggrin

17 Apr 2005

In answer to all three, it would not bother either of us if the other person/couple was bi or straight as long as we all knew each others limits and everyone was prepared to respect them. The main thing would be that we all got along and that there was an attraction there (this is not always a physical attraction, more likely an attraction to the personality of the other person/couple)
I dont class myself as bi, as I have not really had much experience but I am starting to get more curious, but that could just be because I am starting to allow myself to relax and enjoy what I am doing without being worried about silly things like 'does my bum look big' etc.
Mr NWC is straight but he would not be bothered by a guy being bi so long as everyone knew the limits.
Not sure if that has been any help dunno

17 Apr 2005

in agreement with naughtyWigan but thought I'd add our two pence in.
when we are on the lookout for single guys, we prefer them to be straight or little bi-curious, as geoff is bi curious but doesn't like to be the one getting all the attention from a guy in the 3way. We tried it once with a fellow who was mostly gay, and geoff just couldn't really relax. If we're with a single guy who is defnitely straight, we are fine with that.
Other than that, whil we prefer to play with couples with a female who is at least bi-curious, as we feel everyone would be more relaxed in that situation, ultimately we just like meeting andhaving a good time with people there is a mutual attraction to: also meaning that we get on well personality-wise with good conversations etc... as we are respectful of everyone's limits and expect the people we play with do the same. As I have been an "out" and practicing bi since I was 14, I am of course always happy when the female wants to play, but just like with straight guys, we just don't expect anyone to do anything they don't wanna.
whew. long winded tonite.
ms ocky

17 Apr 2005

I am bi and John is not.
We have played with all kinds of couples in all kinds of situations. Usually in the mix of things someone says "are you bi?" at which point I say yes and he says no.
The question is then returned to the other people and if they say yes or no depends on what happens. All about respecting other people's boundaries and knowing where to refrain.

18 Apr 2005

Kit and I were both very clear when we first joined the site that we were looking for only single blokes and that I was not bi-sexual.
However, the first single bloke who we swung with , and our first swinging experience, was was with a bi-sexual man. His first contact with us was actually to show an interest in me (Kat) after he saw pictures of me in lingerie. He was a private cross dresser, and was surprised to find out that there were other blokes who wore womens lingerie, and were prepared to have pictures taken doing it. (my how things have moved on since those innocent days! lol

)
While chatting, we all made our feelings clear. When we eventually got around to meeting and swinging, he wore lingerie under his day clothes and during sex. It felt perfectly natural that he was indulging his bi-side during a straight swing. I never felt any pressure to play with him, and I don't THINK he felt any pressure to hide it from us. He just knew the boundaries and stuck to them.

Quote by Rainbow Warrior
Finally
4. Misschief:-
Yes you
Question: Please, please, please will you turn bi!!! only joking! Luv you as you are!

:twisted: Of course, turning bi would require a willing volunteer to ensure you balance both sides of the equation Missy, we would not want you to go too far and turn into a lesbian. sad

May I be the first to offer my services as equalizer Missy? wink

lhk
Kat

18 Apr 2005

We don't want straights... at all.
You play with us both, or not at all.
Be you single or a couple.
The thought of A N Other recoiling because they got brushed by the arm, let alone anything else, of a same sex participant, is a total turn off.
HTH

18 Apr 2005

doesn't bother us either way.....straight or bi as long as all the limits were in place before.
Limits arn't just bi or straight (thou' i appreciate thats what this thread is about) but things like fetishes, or even simply no kissing.
If everyone respects each others limitations then sexual orientation wouldn't be a problem.
I have to agree with a comment vix made

The thought of A N Other recoiling because they got brushed by the arm, let alone anything else, of a same sex participant, is a total turn off.