Hi guys i was talking to some people on the chat room about speed dating and some of our northern swingers had never heard of it.
Have any of u guys and gals been 2 a speed dating event and wat do u think of it?
If u havnt have u ever heard of speed dating and wat do u think about it??
Would be curious 2 hear other views on this topic.
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Speed Dating???
Sex God
I prefer to do my dating drug-free.
Sex God
never heard of it
Sex God
the is where i now fess up...... 
:D :D :D
my name is sean.... and i have been speed dating.........
it is actually a good night out, and it can be very tiring..... and i can see how it would work, just not for me..... lol
trying to sell yourself and your personality in 3 minutes is almost impossible and i think a lot of people have already made up their minds just by a look.....
saying that i wouldn't discourage anyone from trying it.......
sean xxxxxxxx
:D :D :D my name is sean.... and i have been speed dating.........
it is actually a good night out, and it can be very tiring..... and i can see how it would work, just not for me..... lol
trying to sell yourself and your personality in 3 minutes is almost impossible and i think a lot of people have already made up their minds just by a look.....
saying that i wouldn't discourage anyone from trying it.......
sean xxxxxxxx
Quote by fabio grooverider
trying to sell yourself and your personality in 3 minutes is almost impossible and i think a lot of people have already made up their minds just by a look.....
I reckon you can suss someone out within about 15 seconds with a bit of practise - posture, bearing, body language etc tells you far more than words.
Having said that,i reckon most people go speed dating for a laugh, and to raise there own self esteem - so as long as you do that, and dont have too high expectations, it can work out.
Know someone who was going from where I work and she told us at a residential. We all spent the whole evening thinking up one liners you could ask and it was great fun. She went and said it was very funny but didnt end up meeting anyone but there were people from all walks of life there.............................bit like SH 
Sex God
So is anyone going to explain wtf this is all about, or am I better off not knowing? ;)
Sex God
Quote by corriefem
Know someone who was going from where I work and she told us at a residential. We all spent the whole evening thinking up one liners you could ask and it was great fun. She went and said it was very funny but didnt end up meeting anyone but there were people from all walks of life there.............................bit like SH
that is what i was thinking.... it is like SH... and the munch is like my setting....
if i ever go again.. i will put up a thread asking people for one liners and i'll see how many i can fit into the various converstaions.....
i went almost a year ago..... 30 women and only 2 liked me enough for a tick!!!
:D did someone say ego boost... or ego crush.......
sean xxxxxxx
Quote by Ice Pie
So is anyone going to explain wtf this is all about, or am I better off not knowing? ;)
you go into a bar or room filled with men and women with a list of names and you have 3 minutes to talk to each other. If you like a person you put a tick next to name and pass on your details. Organised by singles clubs. Well thats what I know it to be? Please someone give a better definition for Ice Pie
:roll: Sex God
Quote by corriefem
So is anyone going to explain wtf this is all about, or am I better off not knowing? ;)
you go into a bar or room filled with men and women with a list of names and you have 3 minutes to talk to each other. If you like a person you put a tick next to name and pass on your details. Organised by singles clubs. Well thats what I know it to be? Please someone give a better definition for Ice Pie
:roll:And after 3 minutes you move on to the next one?
What's the point?
Quote by Ice Pie
So is anyone going to explain wtf this is all about, or am I better off not knowing? ;)
you go into a bar or room filled with men and women with a list of names and you have 3 minutes to talk to each other. If you like a person you put a tick next to name and pass on your details. Organised by singles clubs. Well thats what I know it to be? Please someone give a better definition for Ice Pie
:roll:And after 3 minutes you move on to the next one?
What's the point?
Point being I suppose if you are looking for someone and you have an idea in mind of the exterior characteristics of a person it may work. Cant believe in 3 minutes you can get to know anything more unless you have killer questions eg. could you possibly just drop your trousers and bend over :shock: :shock:
Sex God
Quote by corriefem
So is anyone going to explain wtf this is all about, or am I better off not knowing? ;)
you go into a bar or room filled with men and women with a list of names and you have 3 minutes to talk to each other. If you like a person you put a tick next to name and pass on your details. Organised by singles clubs. Well thats what I know it to be? Please someone give a better definition for Ice Pie
:roll:And after 3 minutes you move on to the next one?
What's the point?
Point being I suppose if you are looking for someone and you have an idea in mind of the exterior characteristics of a person it may work. Cant believe in 3 minutes you can get to know anything more unless you have killer questions eg. could you possibly just drop your trousers and bend over :shock: :shock:
Maybe I'm missing something here. Stop me when I make a mistake:
You go to a bar with a load of rehearsed cheesy one-liners.
You talk for 3 minutes (if you can stand it that long) to someone with a similarly cheddarish repertoire.
The End.
And the reason for that was...... ?
Sex God
ice.. i think you are looking at it too clinically........
i don't think many people do it thinking they are going to meet the partner of their dreams.. especially with a 3 minute conversation.... but it is a nice surrounding where you meet similar people... and actually it is a damn good night getting to know 50/60 other people
if nothing else it expands your social circles.....
sean xxxxx
i don't think many people do it thinking they are going to meet the partner of their dreams.. especially with a 3 minute conversation.... but it is a nice surrounding where you meet similar people... and actually it is a damn good night getting to know 50/60 other people
if nothing else it expands your social circles.....
sean xxxxx
Sex God
Quote by fabio grooverider
ice.. i think you are looking at it too clinically........
i don't think many people do it thinking they are going to meet the partner of their dreams.. especially with a 3 minute conversation.... but it is a nice surrounding where you meet similar people... and actually it is a damn good night getting to know 50/60 other people
if nothing else it expands your social circles.....
sean xxxxx
How does it expand your social circle? Someone I've spoken to in a contrived way for 3 minutes isn't part of my social circle. I just can't see the point. It's a very short dead end from the way it's been described here.
Sex God
ice...... in which case you could extend your logic to "how does anyone meet anyway" ........
does it really matter, whether it is contrived or not.... you meet people before when you are all nurvous as hell.... you meet people during,yes in those 3 minutes intervals..... you meet people during the breaks, compare notes, hear people chatter, drink something at the bar..... and you meet people after it has finished, relaxed, swear what an ordeal it was and party the night away.........
..... and if you are lucky you find a few people you connect with, wheather it is guys/girl and you go out again.... in my session about 12 people got on so well they we all went out again the following night.. just as friends.......so yes it has extended my "social circle" :D :D
if you have anything you want to ask me about it ice... rather than just dismiss it then i will gladly answer your questions.....
sean xxxxx
does it really matter, whether it is contrived or not.... you meet people before when you are all nurvous as hell.... you meet people during,yes in those 3 minutes intervals..... you meet people during the breaks, compare notes, hear people chatter, drink something at the bar..... and you meet people after it has finished, relaxed, swear what an ordeal it was and party the night away.........
..... and if you are lucky you find a few people you connect with, wheather it is guys/girl and you go out again.... in my session about 12 people got on so well they we all went out again the following night.. just as friends.......so yes it has extended my "social circle"
:D :D if you have anything you want to ask me about it ice... rather than just dismiss it then i will gladly answer your questions.....
sean xxxxx
Sex God
Point is this ... 3 min chat, decide if you like someone enough to wish to meet them again, they do same, if you match, you contact each other again, perhaps arrange to meet up and go from there ... or not, as the case may be.
It's a numbers game, it's contrived, but if it can work, why not?
It's a numbers game, it's contrived, but if it can work, why not?
Sex God
Quote by fabio grooverider
in my session about 12 people got on so well they we all went out again the following night..
OK, now we're getting somewhere. The way it was described, there was no further contact, which is why I asked what the point was.
Frankly, I don't need 3 minutes... if I can talk to someone for 30 seconds in a normal, natural conversation without wanting to kill them, we'll probably be mates. 30 seconds, or 3 minutes, however, would never be enough to inspire me to want to date someone. If I were desperate for a shag, I'd just wear a badge saying "Desperate for a shag." Other than that, I don't see any purpose to this rather bizarre phenomenon. All seems rather tacky and impersonal to me.
Just my opinion obviously, and of course other people will find they get more out of it than I would personally. Going to a "pick-up" joint, for want a less honest description, is fine, but I'd need a lot longer than 3 minutes to get to know someone, and a lot less to decide whether I wanted to get to know them in the first place.
Interesting, and thanks for the info, but definitely not for me.
Cheers,
Ice
Alex_Female and I arranged to go to a charity speed-dating event at our Student Union bar last Valentine's.
It was just for a bit of fun, a cheap night out and a giggle. We didn't seriously intend or believe we would meet a potential partner there.
Speed-dating, as you probably sussed out, is an American creation based on the idea that singles have such busy career-orientated lifestyles that they don't have time to meet members of the opposite sex.
I think 3 minutes is enough to decide if you don't like someone, but not if you do. Dislike tends to be pretty instant. How often have you thought to yourself "I can't put my finger on it, but there's something about him/her I just don't like"? Attraction and love are something else entirely. Many people 'grow' to love someone or find themselves falling for someone they wouldn't have, under different circumstances, given the time of day.
Maybe a future Munch could incorporate a mini speed-dating event, just for fun? Maybe to raise some money for a good cause?
It was just for a bit of fun, a cheap night out and a giggle. We didn't seriously intend or believe we would meet a potential partner there.
Speed-dating, as you probably sussed out, is an American creation based on the idea that singles have such busy career-orientated lifestyles that they don't have time to meet members of the opposite sex.
I think 3 minutes is enough to decide if you don't like someone, but not if you do. Dislike tends to be pretty instant. How often have you thought to yourself "I can't put my finger on it, but there's something about him/her I just don't like"? Attraction and love are something else entirely. Many people 'grow' to love someone or find themselves falling for someone they wouldn't have, under different circumstances, given the time of day.
Maybe a future Munch could incorporate a mini speed-dating event, just for fun? Maybe to raise some money for a good cause?
