with the amount of men pretending to be ladies in adverts and replying to men pretending to be women for what ever reason
it appears internet stalking / impostering is on the increase
any one got any first hand views on this and how do we weedle out the imposters / stalkers more effectively ?
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Stalkers and imposters
I can't speak in relation to ads, but I certainly have had stalkers online.
About 4 years ago on I used to chat to a group of people quite frequently.
Got to be good friends with a few mainly in the States (still exchanging Xmas cards with a couple of them now). Well one whom I thought to be OK over there passed certan details of my address on to someone living in the UK.
He constantly IMd and emailed me wanting to meet up.
If I didn't reply to an email or IM in a timely manner - he got quite aggressive.
He took offence at me talking in a fliry manner with anyone else.
The final straw was when he made direct references to the area I lived and said he was going to be 'keeping an eye on me'..
The whole thing was quite unnerving.
He had become infatuated with me because I had been pleasant to him in the chat room.
However I managed to sort it out eventually but it took a while of talking to him in IM and getting him to realise that the most there would ever be is friendship.
I still do get it from time to time - luckily never to that extent.
That is why now I am always at pains to tell people that I am not a swinger asap, so no one gets led down the garden path.
Alex x
About 4 years ago on I used to chat to a group of people quite frequently.
Got to be good friends with a few mainly in the States (still exchanging Xmas cards with a couple of them now). Well one whom I thought to be OK over there passed certan details of my address on to someone living in the UK.
He constantly IMd and emailed me wanting to meet up.
If I didn't reply to an email or IM in a timely manner - he got quite aggressive.
He took offence at me talking in a fliry manner with anyone else.
The final straw was when he made direct references to the area I lived and said he was going to be 'keeping an eye on me'..
The whole thing was quite unnerving.
He had become infatuated with me because I had been pleasant to him in the chat room.
However I managed to sort it out eventually but it took a while of talking to him in IM and getting him to realise that the most there would ever be is friendship.
I still do get it from time to time - luckily never to that extent.
That is why now I am always at pains to tell people that I am not a swinger asap, so no one gets led down the garden path.
Alex x
Similar to the above did have a girl i was chatting to on msn about a year ago - had chatted a couple of times - never met - and she said 'I think i am falling in love with you' - bit bizarre - got emails from her for 6 months after that then she must have found someone else to annoy!
Takes all sorts!
Takes all sorts!
About a year ago i got chatting to a guy on from a diffrent site .
I never met him nor said i would but i was nieve and gave him my phone number :doh: .
He only ever text me tg.
I said i wouldent meet him as he lived so far a way he used to mail me at least 2s a week then it stoped no texts or mail.
Then about 6 months ago it all started again i never replyed to his mail so he started texing
I never replyed to them but it was getting silly the texts normaly came in the early hours of the monring.
In the end i got someone from this site a guy to call him to tell him to stop fingers crossed nothing for over a month now
I never met him nor said i would but i was nieve and gave him my phone number :doh: .
He only ever text me tg.
I said i wouldent meet him as he lived so far a way he used to mail me at least 2s a week then it stoped no texts or mail.
Then about 6 months ago it all started again i never replyed to his mail so he started texing
I never replyed to them but it was getting silly the texts normaly came in the early hours of the monring.
In the end i got someone from this site a guy to call him to tell him to stop fingers crossed nothing for over a month now
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About a year ago i got chatting to a guy on from a diffrent site .
I never met him nor said i would but i was nieve and gave him my phone number :doh: .
He only ever text me tg.
I said i wouldent meet him as he lived so far a way he used to mail me at least 2s a week then it stoped no texts or mail.
Then about 6 months ago it all started again i never replyed to his mail so he started texing
I never replyed to them but it was getting silly the texts normaly came in the early hours of the monring.
In the end i got someone from this site a guy to call him to tell him to stop fingers crossed nothing for over a month now
i would hate that hassle
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Quote by debz4u
I wouldent mind if the texts were asking how i was but they were normaly 1 liners saying im horny fancy a fuck...as if
Ooops! :shock: Yep, sorry about that.......................
:twisted: !!Mal
I once had a "cybersex" relationship with a man I met on mIRC, Morbius knew and we (all three) treated it as a bit of a giggle, I'd no hope in hell of meeting this man as he lived overseas, but he got me horny and Morb got the benefit ;)
Anyway, we got rumbled by a friend in the chatroom and rumours got around, and boy they were so exaggerated, unfortunately (and unknown) to us, he was married and rumours hit his wife in another chatroom and she publically (IRC) stalked me, added herself to my msn, sent me emails ... eventually my friend who rumbled me admitted that it was a hunch and that she'd made it all up for a giggle and told his wife this but it took about 3 months for her to stop hassling me and telling me to leave her hubby alone!
Put me off playing with married men (those whose wives don't know) forever.
C x
Anyway, we got rumbled by a friend in the chatroom and rumours got around, and boy they were so exaggerated, unfortunately (and unknown) to us, he was married and rumours hit his wife in another chatroom and she publically (IRC) stalked me, added herself to my msn, sent me emails ... eventually my friend who rumbled me admitted that it was a hunch and that she'd made it all up for a giggle and told his wife this but it took about 3 months for her to stop hassling me and telling me to leave her hubby alone!
Put me off playing with married men (those whose wives don't know) forever.
C x
I met a woman in a travel chatroom and she wanted to send me a poem or something. I gave her my address, and she started bombarding me with 8, 9, 10 emails a day, and sending me pics of her entire family, and long stories about what her grandfather did in 1910 New York. Then would come the emails asking me if I had read this one or that one and what I thought. She would email me the minute I posted something on the site.
I eventually told her I got a work contract and would be gone until October...about now :shock: and I re-registered under another name so she wouldn't follow me anymore.
She was an 45 year old spinster who lived with and took care of her parents, so I thought she would be harmless, but you never know. She was inviting me to visit her in Ireland when she came over in the summer, and hinting to come over here, etc. Highly religious, blasting and damning, scary woman.
They're everywhere.....looming....waiting for a way into your life
I eventually told her I got a work contract and would be gone until October...about now :shock: and I re-registered under another name so she wouldn't follow me anymore.
She was an 45 year old spinster who lived with and took care of her parents, so I thought she would be harmless, but you never know. She was inviting me to visit her in Ireland when she came over in the summer, and hinting to come over here, etc. Highly religious, blasting and damning, scary woman.
They're everywhere.....looming....waiting for a way into your life
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with the amount of men pretending to be ladies in adverts and replying to men pretending to be women for what ever reason
it appears internet stalking / impostering is on the increase
any one got any first hand views on this and how do we weedle out the imposters / stalkers more effectively ?
If there's men pretending to be women replying to others who're doing the same then let them carry on. They'll both get a shock when they meet up
Internet stalking is a problem, a few ways to combat it is never give out your main e-mail address, have a specific e-mail address and chat program for online friends and correspondence. Never give out your mobile number, or if you don't want to, buy a second SIM card, only £5 or so and use that for texting online people. Add stalkers e-mails to your spam filter, they'll soon give up when they haven't received anything and you won't have to worry again.
Sex God
no stalkers i know of, but imposters :taz:
another meat2pleaseu on other sites, cheeky git :boxing: and as for SH id like
to point out the new copyrighted avatar, please keep yer sticky theiving fingers off it or Horneyred's gonna go on a culling spree
another meat2pleaseu on other sites, cheeky git :boxing: and as for SH id like
to point out the new copyrighted avatar, please keep yer sticky theiving fingers off it or Horneyred's gonna go on a culling spree
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You mean that when I thought that I was talking to a woman, it could have been a bloke-YUKops: :oops:
Sadly a lot of the female looking for male ads arnt quiet what they seem sadly,,for whatever reason,
talk to them on cam or phone asap to weed them out
anyone who does not want to do one or the other after two or three e mails ,either is not interested or is not genuine
This thread seems to have taken a turn at just focussing on the ads and potential fakes on there - that subject has been done to death on here many times and can just breed negativity in the forum. Fakes occurs in every realm of internet chat/dating etc - we just have to be prepared to accept that. No point whinging about it.
However it also is entitled stalkers - this is the more sinister and dangerous side - and perhaps it is this type of thing we should be talking about.
Some new people may not realise the possible dangers of giving out too much information to people they have never met before. Perhaps we should be sharing our experiences of this and how we handled it.
Just a thought!
Alex x
However it also is entitled stalkers - this is the more sinister and dangerous side - and perhaps it is this type of thing we should be talking about.
Some new people may not realise the possible dangers of giving out too much information to people they have never met before. Perhaps we should be sharing our experiences of this and how we handled it.
Just a thought!
Alex x
Sex God
Quote by Alexandra
This thread seems to have taken a turn at just focussing on the ads and potential fakes on there - that subject has been done to death on here many times and can just breed negativity in the forum. Fakes occurs in every realm of internet chat/dating etc - we just have to be prepared to accept that. No point whinging about it.
However it also is entitled stalkers - this is the more sinister and dangerous side - and perhaps it is this type of thing we should be talking about.
Some new people may not realise the possible dangers of giving out too much information to people they have never met before. Perhaps we should be sharing our experiences of this and how we handled it.
Just a thought!
Alex x
Aunty Alex, I put up a post a while ago which had something to do with stalking (I forget now exactly what the connection was. I think I put something in the subject title about it). Anyway, being a lazy sod I can't be arsed to do a search for it, sorry
ops: However, I had a PM from one of the girls on the site who, whilst not getting at me personally, was quite upset by it, having beien the victim of a stalker. I changed the thread title out of consideration for her sensibilities.
What I'm saying is that while I think it's a fair subject for discussion here, anyone who does post about it must be careful in what they say and be aware that there are some people for whom it is a very emotive and upsetting subject due to their own personal experience. My advice to anyone likely to be upset would be not to go into a thread where it's being discussed, therefore I think it should be included in the thread title.
Um............did I just contradict myself? :undecided:
ES
Eager - whilst I agree it could be an emotive subject, this thread could also help possibly to exorcise some ghosts and also to make people aware that they are not on their own. It could also go some way to point out some potential dangers to some younger and/or more vulnerable people.
I still think it worthy of debate. Again just my opinion.
What I was trying to do was steer the thread away from people moaning about imposers in the ads section.
Hugs
I still think it worthy of debate. Again just my opinion.
What I was trying to do was steer the thread away from people moaning about imposers in the ads section.
Hugs
Quote by SXBOY
with the amount of men pretending to be ladies in adverts and replying to men pretending to be women for what ever reason
it appears internet stalking / impostering is on the increase
any one got any first hand views on this and how do we weedle out the imposters / stalkers more effectively ?
Difficult...... but improve your vetting procedure...... any alarm bells start sounding.... then cease contact straight away.....
The problem of text/call stalkers is definitely on the increase..... be very very careful just whom you give your number out to..... and if you do ever have any problems with harrassment of any nature..... photocopy the texts, save the calls.... and inform the police.
I think it all comes down to gut instinct..... trust it...
equi-princess xxx
