Hi all.
Apologies if this has been done before but I am going to ask the question anyway. Has anyone of you ever been stalked? An ex boyfriend of mine whom I lived with for a year around 11 years ago stalked me for a year after we broke up. He used to follow me back from work and stand outside my window at my student flat and call me every 15 minutes. He even repeatedly put a screw driver into my then new boyfriend's tyres. Eventually, I moved and managed to lose him. The weird thing is, I think he just moved into my neighbourhood. Seriously, I am not worried as the stalking happened a decade ago.
I guess I was wondering if something like this ever happened to anyone else? I know some friends of mine who had stalkers who tracked them down through the internet.
Thanks
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I was stalked on occasion by an obsessive adulterous wife. I refused to acknowledge her when she turned up unarranged, but would meet her after making arrangements. It took about 2 years for her to give up.
It is a nuisance. But it is the consequences of making an unfortunate choice of partner.
It is a nuisance. But it is the consequences of making an unfortunate choice of partner.
Orgasminator
Yes i,ve been stalked , it was back in the early eighties, i,d just got divorced and i started to go out with a new fella, but when i split up with my new boyfriend it was a bit messy, but luckily i was living at my mum,s , i started to date another guy who knew my ex-boyfriend , 
but when my ex-boyfriend found out he started following me and ringing up but putting the phone down when anyone answered :? which would scare the life out of my young sisters, he would ring in the early hours 
he threatened my new boyfriend and accused us of seeing each other behind his back :x i ended up telling a C I D friend and he put a stop to it 
needless to say about 10 yrs later i,d married again and he moved into a house on the next estate, he came into the pub where i was working :? and told me if i ever needed him he,d be there for me !! :shock: YER RIGHT :silly: 
Thank goodness i moved again and never seen him again 
but when my ex-boyfriend found out he started following me and ringing up but putting the phone down when anyone answered :? which would scare the life out of my young sisters, he would ring in the early hours he threatened my new boyfriend and accused us of seeing each other behind his back :x i ended up telling a C I D friend and he put a stop to it needless to say about 10 yrs later i,d married again and he moved into a house on the next estate, he came into the pub where i was working :? and told me if i ever needed him he,d be there for me !! :shock: YER RIGHT :silly: Thank goodness i moved again and never seen him again 
Orgasminator
Quote by Maia
Hi all.
Apologies if this has been done before but I am going to ask the question anyway. Has anyone of you ever been stalked? An ex boyfriend of mine whom I lived with for a year around 11 years ago stalked me for a year after we broke up. He used to follow me back from work and stand outside my window at my student flat and call me every 15 minutes. He even repeatedly put a screw driver into my then new boyfriend's tyres. Eventually, I moved and managed to lose him. The weird thing is, I think he just moved into my neighbourhood. Seriously, I am not worried as the stalking happened a decade ago.
I guess I was wondering if something like this ever happened to anyone else? I know some friends of mine who had stalkers who tracked them down through the internet.
Thanks
Hi,
I have also been the victim of a stalker so i sympathise with you.
My stalker was a young single woman of 28 yrs who worked at the same company as my self. It started inocently enough with the usual flirting going on at work but very soon progressed into her getting friends at work to enquire about my personal circumstances.
The lady in question would take it upon herself to ensure she was at certain venues outside of work hours with the knowledge that i would be frequenting the establishment at some point.
This made me feel uncomfortable but i could live with this, what i found to be unforgivable was she would try to follow me home.
I eventually challenged her with a view to asking her what the bloody hell she was playing at. To which she responded i was only going for a drive.
I started to see her everywhere i went even when out with my wife. I had to have this out with her again and she said she liked me and thought the flirting would lead to more.
I told her that stalking anyone was well out of order and that doing it to anyone was a sure way for her to end up having a visit from the police.
Things went quiet from then on and i did not see her everywhere i went, however i then started to get phone calls on my mobile.
She had got the number from the work phone number list so i then had to change both it and my home number immediately.
This raised issues at home as i'm sure you are aware but i did not want to tell my wife what had been going on, i am certain that my wife would have gone right off the deep end and caused one hell of a stink.
I opted for a quiet drink with this lady and tried to get through to her that i was not interested in her however attractive she was, oh she turned up at the pub dressed like we were on a first date.
I left the public house after telling her to leave me alone or i would indeed inform the police.
Shortly after this meeting she was dismissed from work which gave me a breathing space, however she knew where i would be at certain times of the day and so i often left work to find her waiting in her car.
I never spoke to her again but i always find myself looking when i leave work and watching for her during the drive home.
It has been 2 yrs now and it has got slightly less all consuming for me and some people may say you should have gone for it while you had the chance, but can you imagine the comeback on that. It makes me shiver just thinking about it.
shad.
i personally have not been stalked but i was talking to a very good friend last night. she had not talked to me for 6 months.
apparently she had an relationship with a guy and moved into his flat. things did not work out well and they had to move on.
the guy followed her to her house.
he apperently cut the brakes of her car. she was lucky not to have an accident.
then he threw a petrol bottle into her living house. burnt all her front and kitchen.
it has been a disaster for her.
the guy now is in jail
but he has made her life a hell but thanks now she is recovering and getting back to her feet.
apparently she had an relationship with a guy and moved into his flat. things did not work out well and they had to move on.
the guy followed her to her house.
he apperently cut the brakes of her car. she was lucky not to have an accident.
then he threw a petrol bottle into her living house. burnt all her front and kitchen.
it has been a disaster for her.
the guy now is in jail
but he has made her life a hell but thanks now she is recovering and getting back to her feet.
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It is a nuisance. But it is the consequences of making an unfortunate choice of partner.
Did the law not change recently, that made stalking (in itself) an offence?
I'm almost sure it did. You now don't need to wait until the tyre slashing/threaten behaviour type stuff starts?
A guy came freakishly close. I stopped leaving the house, and eventually had him warned off. He decided to pick on someone else and it became so serious he was reported and sectioned. He's back out now and I'm hoping to god he doesn't end up back inside, cos I'm now working in the unit he was sectioned in! :shock:
Venusxxx
Venusxxx
i once thought about stalking someone, but when i sat back and thought to my self... i'm too lazy for it!..... following a persons every move... going through there bins. ringing them up all the time... thinking of more clever ways to not get caught!....
no gotta say.. stalking does not appeal to me.. so you are all safe around me! lol lol..
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no gotta say.. stalking does not appeal to me.. so you are all safe around me! lol lol..
Jiggle
Sex God
I haven't been stalked but I do know of a lady who was stalked by a man who made contact through a swinging website (not this one, I might add!). She kept all the text messages, logged calls to her home 'phone and took pics of him hanging around for her. He was prosecuted eventually, but she was in a real state for months.
An ex stalked me for a short while till my stepdad got someone to "have a word".
After we'd split up, the ex and his mate would stand outside my work, follow me everywhere, stand outside my house etc. He was already known to the police (aw come on! I was only 17!) so they told him to back off but there really wasn't an awful lot they could do.
A recent ex constantly bugged me ringing, texting, emailing, even gave my number to a complete stranger saying I was "up for fun".
Feckin bunny boiler eh? He never turned up anywhere or came to my house, though, which is a huge relief.
After we'd split up, the ex and his mate would stand outside my work, follow me everywhere, stand outside my house etc. He was already known to the police (aw come on! I was only 17!) so they told him to back off but there really wasn't an awful lot they could do.
A recent ex constantly bugged me ringing, texting, emailing, even gave my number to a complete stranger saying I was "up for fun".
Feckin bunny boiler eh? He never turned up anywhere or came to my house, though, which is a huge relief. Yes... a few years ago i was stalked for about 4 months by someone i had met in a professional capacity.... this guy found out my address by following me home one evening... I have never been so frightened in all my life. He told me that one day he would get me by breaking into the house.... needless to say i called the police. they took it very seriously... as i knew his name they put finding him a priority as they seriously considered my personal safety was at risk!!! It took about 4 months to eventually find him as he kept moving but would follow me in his car by waiting outside where i work... It was very very scarey, but something that i have dealt with... hence taking up kick-boxing!!!!!!!
equi-princess xxx
equi-princess xxx
Yes, I`ve been stalked by someone I met on another forum. We went out about 6 times and he did not take me ending things well atall. He got into my email accounts and contacted everyone in my address book, calling me all sorts, pretended to be me on MSN and signed me up for every mailing list he could find. He also posted personal ads pretending to be me on a few extremely dodgy "dating" sites, he even posted my mobile phone number on one which is how I found out about what he was up to - a strange bloke called me at on Saturday morning. I reported him to the police, they cautioned him and, apart from a very immature "get the last word in" email from him, I haven`t heard from him for 2 months.
A friend of mine was stalked by some guy she'd never actually said 'hello' to. He used to follow her around. The police said they couldn't do anything. Then last year it escalated. At the end of every month he used to tip a family sized tin of baked beans all over her car and leave the tin on the roof. This happened for five or six months until the police videod (is that a word?) him doing it and managed to put a restriction order on him. It all seems pretty funny but she was terrified.
You have to wonder what goes thru their minds. What a waste of energy and what a waste of baked beans.
She pointed him out to me on the mains street once - he was in his fifties and looked totally normal. Strange.
You have to wonder what goes thru their minds. What a waste of energy and what a waste of baked beans.
She pointed him out to me on the mains street once - he was in his fifties and looked totally normal. Strange.
I was stalked for about a year, 10 years ago. I had an affair behind my husbands back for about 6 months with a man twice my age who only lived around the corner from us (stupid i know!!) He was also the local hardman and an alcoholic...so I later learnt....and when I ended it he wouldn't leave it be! Every night he would come back after he had been out drinking and bang on the door and shout through the letter box, he would post love letters and cards and stay on my doorstep for hours at a time. He would follow me to work and make a nuisance of himself and constantly harrass me and tell me how much he loved me. He was very threatening too though and on one occasion actually knocked me out when I told him to go away!.....obviously my husband found out shortly after this started happening and sorted things out the best way he could think of....with his fists... This continued for about a year and in the end we had to move house because it got so bad. Thankfully to this day we have not seen or heard from him.
I admit it was my own fault but it was a truly scary experience..
I admit it was my own fault but it was a truly scary experience..