Straight Single Fem Playing with Straight Couples.

30 Sep 2006

I've just been shown to have a very sexist outlook/attitude surprised

ops:
I fully admit to being a chauvinist, but wouldn't like to be thought of as chauvinist pig - Can you see the difference ?
I had a question that I couldn't answer, or "see" HLB's answer, until she did something very clever. One of the reasons I love her so.
Here it is.
I (as a single straight male) can very easily explain my personal "extra buzz" when playing with a straight couple. But couldn't fathom the "extra buzz" that a single straight girl would have when playing with a straight couple.
So . . . . .
Where/What is the extra buzz for a single straight girl when she plays with a straight couple ?

30 Sep 2006

Maybe likes the 3somes but she's just getting involved with the man and not the fem dunno

30 Sep 2006

Watching? Always nice! Well methinks so anyway :twisted:
Rsxx :color:

30 Sep 2006

depends if you look at it from a male or female point of view biggrin

what man wouldn't like an extra fem in his bed? or maybe the fem of the couple gets a buzz from watching her man with someone else.. the list goes on but its not really any different from having a bi/gay fem joining a couple that want's no male contact....
As for the fem well joining a couple is surely a buzz within itself surely, no different from a straight male joining a straight couple is it? or am i missing something.
Try it and see :D we await the outcome :D :D

30 Sep 2006

Just to elaborate on how this thread came about:
dammie's perving the ads and comes across a single straight female looking to meet straight males & straight couples.
He's looking rather confused and asks "Why would a single straight female want to meet with a couple? I don't get it. What would she get out of it?"
Me "Well when you were a single straight bloke, what did you get out of it?"
dammie "It was the buzz of knowing the woman's enjoying 2 men"
Then (after me explaining a little further) the penny drops lol

We then started to discuss this further as I think there's sometimes an expectation for the female to be bi if she swings.
I think that's why so many bi females feel the need to put "Bi with the right person" in their profile.
And that got me thinking even more:
Is it harder for a straight single female to swing than it is for a single straight male? dunno

I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female

30 Sep 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
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I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female

I've seen a few and I can only think that, as Rainbows said, maybe the fem of the couple likes to watch her hubby getting it on with another woman but not necessarily wanting to join in.
Can't see the fun myself wink

but whatever butters your muffin

30 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
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I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female

I've seen a few and I can only think that, as Rainbows said, maybe the fem of the couple likes to watch her hubby getting it on with another woman but not necessarily wanting to join in.
Can't see the fun myself wink

but whatever butters your muffin
i have a muffin that needs buttering...... low cholestoral butter tho
RWL
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30 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
. . . maybe the fem of the couple likes to watch her hubby getting it on with another woman but not necessarily wanting to join in.
Can't see the fun myself but whatever butters your muffin

That I could always see, but it was more about the single fem. What does/did sheget out of it (for want of a better term)

30 Sep 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female

This one comes quite close, don't you think ?
wink

30 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster
. . . maybe the fem of the couple likes to watch her hubby getting it on with another woman but not necessarily wanting to join in.
Can't see the fun myself but whatever butters your muffin

That I could always see, but it was more about the single fem. What does/did sheget out of it (for want of a better term)
ehhhr sex biggrin

some fems get a buzz from sex with a stranger, does this buzz go away if someone else is present?

30 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster
. . . maybe the fem of the couple likes to watch her hubby getting it on with another woman but not necessarily wanting to join in.
Can't see the fun myself but whatever butters your muffin

That I could always see, but it was more about the single fem. What does/did sheget out of it (for want of a better term)I think I see where Dammie's coming from. Why is the single straight fem looking for a couple as opposed to just seeing a guy on his own. Is that it, or have I misunderstood you DB?
I can think of a number of possible reasons:
If she is after no strings heterosexual sex then she is more likely to get that from a couple than from a single guy who may get a little more possessive.
Perhaps she enjoys being in a threesome but doesn't have any bi tendencies.
Perhaps she not only enjoys watching the other woman but also enjoys the wife watching her and hubby.
As HLB has said, surely it's not that different to a straight guy joining a couple. As well as the obvious attraction of FFM, I would love to be in a MMF threesome even though I am straight. Sappho, on the other hand, prefers the idea of FFM - but mainly because she would get the best of both worlds :wink:
Will

30 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster

I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female

This one comes quite close, don't you think ?
wink

for the "Look at me" post

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

30 Sep 2006

Quote by Fun Scottish Couple
ehhhr sex
some fems get a buzz from sex with a stranger, does this buzz go away if someone else is present?

No, not at all.
But she'd be getting sex without playing with a couple.
Where's the added/extra buzz ?
HLB has"educated" me, and I can now see it. I just wondered what others thought - particularly single straight girls that actively look to play with straight couples.

30 Sep 2006

Quote by willxx69
. . . maybe the fem of the couple likes to watch her hubby getting it on with another woman but not necessarily wanting to join in.
Can't see the fun myself but whatever butters your muffin

That I could always see, but it was more about the single fem. What does/did sheget out of it (for want of a better term)I think I see where Dammie's coming from. Why is the single straight fem looking for a couple as opposed to just seeing a guy on his own. Is that it, or have I misunderstood you DB?
I can think of a number of possible reasons:
If she is after no strings heterosexual sex then she is more likely to get that from a couple than from a single guy who may get a little more possessive.
Perhaps she enjoys being in a threesome but doesn't have any bi tendencies.
Perhaps she not only enjoys watching the other woman but also enjoys the wife watching her and hubby.
As HLB has said, surely it's not that different to a straight guy joining a couple. I would love to be in a MMF threesome even though I am straight. Sappho, on the other hand, prefers the idea of FFM - but mainly because she would get the best of both worlds :wink:
Will
That's what I wanted to say but not nearly as eloquently :thumbup:

30 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster

ehhhr sex
some fems get a buzz from sex with a stranger, does this buzz go away if someone else is present?

No, not at all.
But she'd be getting sex without playing with a couple.
Where's the added/extra buzz ?
HLB has"educated" me, and I can now see it. I just wondered what others thought - particularly single straight girls that actively look to play with straight couples.
watching and being watched is surely an added buzz on top of the sex, then there's also the safety issue which hasn't been mentioned, the fem might also feel safer meeting a couple than just a single male, only a fem that does it can really answer this i suppose sad

30 Sep 2006

Quote by willxx69
I think I see where Dammie's coming from. Why is the single straight fem looking for a couple as opposed to just seeing a guy on his own. Is that it, or have I misunderstood you DB?

That's exactly where the question comes from Will.

Quote by Willx69
As HLB has said, surely it's not that different to a straight guy joining a couple.
Will

Almost. Some men will play with a couple, and "tolerate" the male half. At least then he's getting some. I hadn't, and still don't, apply that to the single straight girl scenario.

30 Sep 2006

im bi, but that is not a requirement from the female of any couples i meet.
i have met couples where the female is straight. I guess it also depends on what your seeking from some encounters. If you enjoy the friendship side then it can be nice to be good friends with the female and both enjoy seeing the guy fullfilling a wish of being with 2 females.
i guess you could say the safety aspect , but thats regarding meeting couples , not about straight couples.
another thing is when you met a couple where the fem is bi, well it can get a bit exhausting lol
swinging should be fun, the more the merrier and triple the fun.
for some females they like to watch fm together but maybe they are not comfortable seeing their male partner with another woman? this way they getto see the fm but with no jelouesy?
xxx fem xxx

30 Sep 2006

It's wonderful, from what I've seen, how crap men are at the whole multitasking thing :lol2:
So maybe the single fem likes to see a guy obviously in his element with two women .... then struggling like hell to do two things at once :lol2:

30 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster
Some men will play with a couple, and "tolerate" the male half. At least then he's getting some. I hadn't, and still don't, apply that to the single straight girl scenario.

The way I see it, if a straight fem joins a straight couple then the male is getting more than just 'some'! Not only is he getting the undivided attentions of another female with his wife getting off watching the action ( maybe ) but he'll no doubt get second helpings from his wife.
Muffin buttered both sides if you ask me !
:thumbup:

30 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster

I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female

This one comes quite close, don't you think ?
wink

I was going to mention your advert. If there was no expectation of play why would it matter if the female was straight/bi/gay? dunno

In edit: I forgot to ad, that if I played with a couple I would most likely (but not always) only have direct sexual contact with the female and not the male. I don't see the difference in a straight female only having contact with the other male. Same difference.

30 Sep 2006

It seems that Dammie has raised a more profound question than the rest of us first thought ( worship

DB).
I thought I would get the female perspective on this so I talked it over with Sappho. She also though it was a little strange.
We agreed that in an MMF not only does the woman get pleny of attention but each of the guys also gets some fun.
In an FFM where both women are Bi then the guy gets to enjoy both women and both women get to enjoy the guy and each other. As Sappho put it, "Everyone's happy."
If both women are straight then she reckoned it was going to be a bit demanding on the guy. "He's going to have to be pretty bloody gifted if he's going to keep them both happy on his own." was her verdict.
I am not sure where that leaves us dunno

Now admittedly, Sappho isn't coming at this as an entirely straight woman and has stated before that she enjoys FFM with another bi woman. Apparently she has never experienced MMF - any volunteers? (I am going to regret that, aren't I? :doh smile

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Any straight women who can enlighten us?
Will

30 Sep 2006

Quote by Kiss
I was going to mention your advert. If there was no expectation of play why would it matter if the female was straight/bi/gay?

I thought we'd covered that in the ad. I'll have to go and have another look.

30 Sep 2006

As a straight female I would never go with a couple, straight or otherwise, for two main reasons
1.... lets face it, the average guy has enough trouble satisfying one woman, let alone two of them biggrin

2....I just wouldn't be comfortable with another woman there, and me ripping her legs off and beating her to death with the soggy end because she inadvertantly grabbed my tit probably wouldn't go down too well either :D :D
Seriously, though, I really can't see the appeal of joining a couple, unless it's a couple of guys wink

30 Sep 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Just to elaborate on how this thread came about:
dammie's perving the ads and comes across a single straight female looking to meet straight males & straight couples.
He's looking rather confused and asks "Why would a single straight female want to meet with a couple? I don't get it. What would she get out of it?"
Me "Well when you were a single straight bloke, what did you get out of it?"
dammie "It was the buzz of knowing the woman's enjoying 2 men"
Then (after me explaining a little further) the penny drops

i'm still thinking about this one :lol:
and, as I'm not straight, it isnt the answer you're looking for.....but.... there's perhaps something to be siad for single fems who are 'givers' not 'takers' - those who get their pleasure from giving others pleasure (it makes sense in my head, honest :lol smile

...
So, a straight single fem *may* get her 'kicks' from being accepted and invited by the couple to join them, and would be in it to satisfy the guy sexually, and their fantasies as a couple, and not in it for herself - which is what alot of people dont understand , sometimes its not about the bloke having two fems and satisfying both of them in this sense:

Quote by willxx69
If both women are straight then she reckoned it was going to be a bit demanding on the guy. "He's going to have to be pretty bloody gifted if he's going to keep them both happy on his own." was verdict.

...maybe its about the single fem being being the one that enables fantasies to be played out - and she gets her 'satisfaction' from that dunno

i might come back to this if it doesnt make sense to folk :lol: - (in edit) I also think single fem 'givers' are very very rare.... and the cynical bitch in me says there's always those who could just be in it to shag the bloke she wants and successfully bypass the wife confused

30 Sep 2006

Quote by Darkfire
.....but.... there's perhaps something to be siad for single fems who are 'givers' not 'takers' - those who get their pleasure from giving others pleasure (it makes sense in my head, honest ) ...
i might come back to this if it doesnt make sense to folk :lol: - (in edit)

Absolutely perfect sense. Once HLB had hit me a sort of "home truth"
Those that like to have a dig at me . . . . . . . Get ready . . .
"Balhbalhblah . . . . . . . .so there are women with exactly the same attitude/views/wants/desires as you"
redface

I also think single fem 'givers' are very very rare.... and the cynical bitch in me says there's always those who could just be in it to shag the bloke she wants and successfully bypass the wife

So that then is the true"Holy Grail" wink

30 Sep 2006

In days gone by when I was a single female..................
I use to like meeting where couples, where the female only wanted to watch and throughly enjoyed myself
lol

30 Sep 2006

dont even start me off with that Holy Grail shit again DB smackbottom

30 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster

I've just been shown to have a very sexist outlook/attitude ops:
I fully admit to being a chauvinist, but wouldn't like to be thought of as chauvinist pig - Can you see the difference ?
I had a question that I couldn't answer, or "see" HLB's answer, until she did something very clever. One of the reasons I love her so.
Here it is.
I (as a single straight male) can very easily explain my personal "extra buzz" when playing with a straight couple. But couldn't fathom the "extra buzz" that a single straight girl would have when playing with a straight couple.
So . . . . .
Where/What is the extra buzz for a single straight girl when she plays with a straight couple ?

maybe she simply gets the same buzz you do wink

30 Sep 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
maybe she simply gets the same buzz you do

:thumbup:
You haven't read the whole thread have you. G'wan, y'haven't - ave ya ???
kiss

........................................................................................
I've got my answer, so you lot just help yerselfs to playing. Although - I wouldlike to hear it from a straight single girl, that doesplay with couples.
I've got another thread to write/question to ask :shock:
And the "diggers" might loveit :wink:

30 Sep 2006

As a straight female who has, in the past, placed an ad (now deleted) for a straight couple, I can say it was 100% for the time I was new-ish on the site, and I didnt have the friendships (and therefore trust) with other site members that I have now. I explained that I was interested in the male only but didnt mind if the female wanted to watch.
As a straight fem, I feel physically vulnerable in a potentail meet with a stranger - and anything that reduces that feeling means I'm more likely to go ahead.
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