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My mrs wants to buy a strap on and use on me. Has anyone else used one and apart from lube what other advice can you give me?
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My mrs wants to buy a strap on and use on me. Has anyone else used one and apart from lube what other advice can you give me?

Go very slowwwwwwwwwwwwly. :crazy:
Bear in mind that anything to do with arse play can involve a bit of mess rolleyes So a plastic sheet and a ball gag to stop you from squealing too loud may also help. lol
But once you get used to it, it can be a wonderful sensation..........so I have been told. :rascal: and bigger is better ( apparently ).
Hi Gary
We bought a strap on a few months back as we both love it.
For her, there are many benefits/pleasures - taking control of the sex, seeing you in a subservient/vulnerable position, a whole new viewpoint and perspective for her (as well as learning what it's like for a guy to fuck and the rythm needed), and if you buy a decent one thats got a built in bullet for her clit then she'll get serious physical pleasure too. My wife absolutely loves it. The physical vibrations make her climax and the visual/mental imagery makes it a strong one!!
For him, we'll, once you've agreed the position you're going to take it, add plenty of lube to you and the strap on and assume the position. Depending on your position of choice you get to choose how your needs are met too. And it will feel weird inside you, to start with, but it shouldn't hurt with enough lube, and once your own climax starts to build you'll appreciate her efforts. It'll makes your orgasm hard and plentiful. Well, that's my experience anyway.
Other things to consider - I'd suggest you start slim and work up. Don't force in something your missus could take inside her as you'll be much tighter and tense. Start slim and slow and only move up when you're ready. Also, don't be surprised if you lose your erection at times either. It's a strong sensation to deal with initially.
Otherwise, as described in the other post, it'll be a bit messy and you'll need to mop up more than your normal intercourse afterwards (for a guy at any rate) and you'll walk funny for a few mins afterwards (only joking) :-). Try some anal beads first to get an idea of what youre in for. And have plenty of lube and tissues to hand.
And then enjoy. You should both love the experience!!!
Basic advice is almost so obvious as to hardly be worth stating, but start small, go super slow, and use lots and LOTS of lube. A good quality leather harness is a must. The cheap stuff out there is not worth wasting your money on. It's something she'll ideally want to be fitted for it, so a trip out to a decent sex / fetish shop rather than buying the first thing that catches your eye online is probably the way forward. A decent harness will help your wife feel more in control, and give her some pleasurable feedback, cos the base of the dildo is gonna put pressure on her clit as she thrusts. Would recommend a good quality, soft, jelly type / silicone dildo. Something cheap, hard and plastic is gonna be harder to get used to and less comfortable by a long way, so likely to put you right off the idea from the start.
You can douche beforehand if you have any issues with hygiene or are overly squeamish about the potential for 'mess', but generally it's not much of an issue. So long as you don't feel 'full' the rectum will be reasonably clean anyways. Sticking a condom on the dildo will minimise any mess anyways and make it easier to keep the dildo clean without too much fuss.
Enjoy! smile