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Hi, im thinking about making a visit to Passion, in blackpool, but having never been before, im quite literally bricking myself :P
Im a 22yr old single male, so I have no idea how i would be recieved, would it be worth me going? or would i end up with my tail between my legs? I have no experience in the swing clubs scence, so any advice would be much appriciated.
Thanks!! smile
Great avatar fella biggrin
This might be better in the Cafe as you'd tend to get more feedback.... one of the Mods will move it for you I'm sure if you want :P
thanks smile
i'll wait for a nice mod to come along and move it for me smile
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thanks smile
i'll wait for a nice mod to come along and move it for me smile

Tough luck, you got me mad
:giggle:
Well I went to a club recently and like you did not know what to expect and how to proceed. I think the trick is to be respectful and keep your hands to yourself till invited by a persistent stare and a smile. Even so, don't jump in, smile, talk, get to know the people who have invited you to join them and then tell them you are inexperienced and not sure how to proceed and I am sure they will guide you. Good luck!
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Hi, im thinking about making a visit to Passion, in blackpool, but having never been before, im quite literally bricking myself :P
Im a 22yr old single male, so I have no idea how i would be recieved, would it be worth me going? or would i end up with my tail between my legs? I have no experience in the swing clubs scence, so any advice would be much appriciated.
Thanks!! smile

Oh that's nothing!! If yer bricking it now - you wait until the 2 day run up to actually going confused Although don't think I would define the roaring shits (sorry, no other phrase for it :lol2: ) as 'bricking it' :undecided: :uhoh:
Just go along one night - remember tho, have no expectations, presume nothing sexual is going to happen. Then once you're in there and relaxed, chatting to people, anything that does happen is a bonus biggrin
I think the first visit is the most difficult - once you've seen that the people in there are normal friendly llikeminded people, then things do get a lot easier.
right, i've been clubbing a good few times, but never on my own? i'd be scared silly! lol no need to be really, cos they usually have a damn good atmosphere, with damn good people?
be aware that some single guys give others a bad name. not sure what it's like in passion but you'll most likely the see the type . . . hunt in packs, follow every couple or girlie wherever they go, hammer on locked doors, not once attempt to engage anyone in conversation, and generally piss people off. the guys that avoid anything like that usually do a lot better i reckon? i know, strange but true, but there it is! lol ;)
just talk to people as you would anywhere else?! ;) they most often don't bite, unless you ask them nicely, in which case you'll most often get a polite no back, but you never know!?
most of all, just relax and enjoy yaself! and jacuzzis are great ice-breakers! ;)
neil x x x ;)
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be aware that some single guys give others a bad name. not sure what it's like in passion but you'll most likely the see the type . . . hunt in packs, follow every couple or girlie wherever they go, hammer on locked doors, not once attempt to engage anyone in conversation, and generally piss people off. the guys that avoid anything like that usually do a lot better i reckon? i know, strange but true, but there it is! lol ;)

Much like in here for that. I winds me up mad
make sure u r clean shaven (the face) well put together.................dont expect anything.......chat say hi i`m ... to people.................next time u go..it`s so much easier.....
dont sit in the corner being shy with a load of other blokes..............etc etc............ biggrin
thanks dawn for moving my post smile
thanks for the advice every1, as you said neil, i was worried in case people tarred me with the same brush as some single guys, as im sure there are plenty of pushy ones around, i got the idea people might steer clear of me. I've taken in all the advice and im sure i'll be fine, im chatty and friendly so i shouldnt have any probs (unless i get the roaring shits..missy lol)
I'll let you know how i get on nxt wkend, thanks again smile
Don't know why you have chosen Passion but wherever you have chosen just remember to be cool, confident and not nervous - but by the same token don't appear to be pushy.
A Club with a wet area is a good start because you will be naked and chance encounters in the pool, sauna, steam room will be better than trying to follow people around.
Mrs Hot and I were in partners last week and she got the urge to have it from behind in the Jacuzzi. So there I was doing my bit and despite the fact that there were two reasonable looking guys in the Jacuzzi, neither of them made any attempt to display their wares or even make eye contact. Such a shame cos Mrs Hot lves something to attend to when she is getting it from behind.
Moral of the story - don't hide your hard on !! But by the same token don't ferociously play with it either.
Yej, I know its difficult, but if you reasonably good looking and cool about things you will have an experience or two - of that I am sure !!
it should go without saying but some guys still get it wrong, but remember if theres facilities there take a shower cos even after a couple of hours drive guys can be sweaty down there plus my biggest turn off when gang banging is guys who's just eaten with garlic in there food. yuk.
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it should go without saying but some guys still get it wrong, but remember if theres facilities there take a shower cos even after a couple of hours drive guys can be sweaty down there plus my biggest turn off when gang banging is guys who's just eaten with garlic in there food. yuk.

Couldn't agree more.
One of the reasons we enjoy playing in pools, jacuzzi's and sauna's
some very good advice there for you to take note of........
ive been to clubs as a single fella on maybe 3 times in all.... and about treble that as a "couple".
peronally i wouldnt recommend to go as a single..... unless its on a quiet day/night....
everyones experiences are different and no two visits are likely to be the same......and thats why its impossible for me to suggest what u might find.......as much as id like to .........
also, its a good idea to ask yourself what youre actually looking to gain out of it... if you have no expectations at all, then you should bite the bullet, have a trim of your hair, brush your teeth and go for it..........
obviously, theres people there for sex and theres a possibility that you might get to enjoy some.... but my honest open advice would be to find a partner for the evening and go as a couple if at all possible...........
have fun
Just remember the clubs are full of people just the same as you.. Yes its nerveracking but if you show respect and refrain from jumping on everyone at first sight its fun for all. Our first outing to one was great... nice people who took time to explain how it all works etc..
Maybe post a message or two asking for people to show you the ropes!
Whatever you do, have fun! smile
Mike