Swingers ads, couples, which one of you "selects"?

9 Apr 2007

Can only speak as part of a couple here, obviously! When we're looking thro the swingers ads for potential "meets" 90% of the time its me (John) who looks at all the likely ads then filters out the ones which aren't in our "comfort zone / target area".
Then I'd show Shel the remainder to narrow the selection down based on her preferences.
Is this the same with all couples, ie one does the main sorting. Or do others look at all ads together. Or is it sometime the case that one partner picks a couple and says, "we're meeting them" without consulting their other partner?
John & Shel

9 Apr 2007

We don't look through the ads so can't comment on that. But it's me who has been on here the most so it's usually a case of 'they're nice - we'll say hello at the next munch/social'. If we were going to play with someone though, we'd both have seen them and talked to them. It would never be a case of one of us choosing and the other not being consulted.
Good thread John :thumbup:

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Geordiecpl2001
Can only speak as part of a couple here, obviously! When we're looking thro the swingers ads for potential "meets" 90% of the time its me (John) who looks at all the likely ads then filters out the ones which aren't in our "comfort zone / target area".
Then I'd show Shel the remainder to narrow the selection down based on her preferences.
Is this the same with all couples, ie one does the main sorting. Or do others look at all ads together. Or is it sometime the case that one partner picks a couple and says, "we're meeting them" without consulting their other partner?
John & Shel

Same for us to be honest its me (mr SRNE) who does most of the looking etc, then when iv found "potential playmates" show the adds to miss SRNE who gives the casting vote.
So your not alone wink

9 Apr 2007

we both look then talk about it ,never would just let of us pick

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
We don't look through the ads so can't comment on that. But it's me who has been on here the most so it's usually a case of 'they're nice - we'll say hello at the next munch/social'. If we were going to play with someone though, we'd both have seen them and talked to them. It would never be a case of one of us choosing and the other not being consulted.
Good thread John :thumbup:

If you dont look at ads how do you choose your playmates?
Is it only people you met at socials/munches that you would even consider then?

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Ukwineman
If you dont look at ads how do you choose your playmates?
Is it only people you met at socials/munches that you would even consider then?

No, people we've met have been as a result of banter on the forum and in PM, as well as people we've met at munches/socials.

9 Apr 2007

Its me (Mr Moleman) that goes through the ads and then since I don't have a missues, I have another check through the batch again and narrow it further, before showing myself the final lot. rolleyes

9 Apr 2007

Up until now we hav'nt searched the ads particularly or if we've looked it's been more curiosity than looking for a meet.
We have tended to wait until someone approaches us and if we like them it goes from there. Obviously that means that we don't have a meet every month, but so far it has worked perfectly for us as we get to know the person fairly well or as well as you can on tinternet. Personally I would hate to get into a situation where we were perusing the ads, having a meet every week and then not being able to remember who was who and what their names were redface

In Edit: I forgot to say that people we have met are are were forum users so the cafe seems to be our hunting ground :twisted:
Love
Fire xx

9 Apr 2007

Quote by firelizard
Personally I would hate to get into a situation where we were perusing the ads, having a meet every week and then not being able to remember who was who and what their names were

It would be too routine for it to be enjoyable then, wouldn't it?

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Personally I would hate to get into a situation where we were perusing the ads, having a meet every week and then not being able to remember who was who and what their names were

It would be too routine for it to be enjoyable then, wouldn't it?
:thumbup:
Definately, swinging for us is the spice and not the main dish wink

9 Apr 2007

Quote by firelizard
Up until now we hav'nt searched the ads particularly or if we've looked it's been more curiosity than looking for a meet.
We have tended to wait until someone approaches us and if we like them it goes from there. Obviously that means that we don't have a meet every month, but so far it has worked perfectly for us as we get to know the person fairly well or as well as you can on tinternet. Personally I would hate to get into a situation where we were perusing the ads, having a meet every week and then not being able to remember who was who and what their names were
In Edit: I forgot to say that people we have met are are were forum users so the cafe seems to be our hunting ground :twisted:
Love
Fire xx

Shhhhhhhhhhhh
I’m hunting wabbit.

9 Apr 2007

wonders he if has any stalkers innocent

9 Apr 2007

Quote by mattmoleman
Its me (Mr Moleman) that goes through the ads and then since I don't have a missues, I have another check through the batch again and narrow it further, before showing myself the final lot.

:lol2: same here moleman, i do the shortlisting, the interviewing and meeting all by myself biggrin

and i did most of the searching and chatting when i was a couple too.
im not a control freak honest :shock:

9 Apr 2007

l advertise,mainly as a single what my profile says,but if "she ,who must be obeyed" wants fun,we look through the ads together.
the boss does have a whinge at the lack of male faces,even when we`ve had a reply from someone.
theres also a massive difference in the response rates for a single guy,compared to a have written to 4 couples over the last month. have yet to have a reply from any,even though everything they asked for,was sent.
2 of them have the extras package,and was at least expecting a reply from how many replies l would have had,had it been both the boss and l wanting to meet the same couples.

9 Apr 2007

Quote by sexkittenhfx
Its me (Mr Moleman) that goes through the ads and then since I don't have a missues, I have another check through the batch again and narrow it further, before showing myself the final lot.

:lol2: same here moleman, i do the shortlisting, the interviewing and meeting all by myself biggrin

and i did most of the searching and chatting when i was a couple too.
im not a control freak honest :shock:
Fibber kiss

mind you they say it takes one to know one blink

9 Apr 2007

Quote by firelizard
Up until now we hav'nt searched the ads particularly or if we've looked it's been more curiosity than looking for a meet.
We have tended to wait until someone approaches us and if we like them it goes from there. Obviously that means that we don't have a meet every month, but so far it has worked perfectly for us as we get to know the person fairly well or as well as you can on tinternet. Personally I would hate to get into a situation where we were perusing the ads, having a meet every week and then not being able to remember who was who and what their names were
In Edit: I forgot to say that people we have met are are were forum users so the cafe seems to be our hunting ground :twisted:
Love
Fire xx

Use to go through the ads but not any more as we are not looking at the moment due to other stuff that goes on. If when we were looking again I wouldent go back to the ads anyway to us they have mostly been a waste of time, in fact make that an utter waste of time. Going out every week for a meet as long as it involved a drink and getting to know people I wouldent have a problem with, is that overdosing? but I dont see a way we ever would get that high a ratio anyway. It seemed to be for us that anyone we found interesting didnt reply if we messaged them and all the ones we were not interested in sent us mail, sods law I guess.
Except form at the very start it was here it was me who looked at the ads and selected a short list for Mrs to look at.

9 Apr 2007

mostly mr tyne looks at adds then we both look together if interested then try for both to chat on msn but mostly mrs tyne will be the one to phone them to confirm all gen.....

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Ukwineman
wonders he if has any stalkers

9 Apr 2007

I would say for us it's 60% me and 40% Jay, we tend to browse the ads to be honest and that's where our last two meets have been from.

9 Apr 2007

Quote by jaymar
wonders he if has any stalkers

i was waiting
just waiting :giggle:

9 Apr 2007

Quote by Ukwineman
wonders he if has any stalkers

i was waiting
just waiting :giggle:
:rascal: that's more like you rotflmao

9 Apr 2007

Quote by jaymar
wonders he if has any stalkers

i was waiting
just waiting :giggle:
:rascal: that's more like you rotflmao

some people just bring out the best in me :twisted:

9 Apr 2007

We tend to look at the profiles of couples we chat to,
and see if they are our type of couple. But we are looking for friends as well as fun so maybe we have a different outlook biggrin

.

9 Apr 2007

Bugger! Just typed nice long reply and lost it mad

:x
Oh well the abridged version is: I do 90%. I have a very good idea what Blue will like in a lady, although he is less accurate with my ideal playmate. Our success has been from ads so far and I tend to do most of the replies/browsing then put suitable candidates forward to Blue. We are always in agreement before going ahead.
pink x

10 Apr 2007

Were pretty much the same though were quite lucky in that we get a fair bit of mail showing interest anyway.. some good some not quite what we ask for, same as most we should think.
When we do seek some fun and browse the ads..Yes I do most of the looking (Mike) but its been known for Ju to just arrange a drink and a chat without my knowledge and being honest she is usually spot on lol.. Women why do they have to be so right lol!!!

10 Apr 2007

We look through the adverts and our mails together then any that catch both our eyes are the ones we reply to.
I (Kate) am the one who uses the chatroom and this is where the most sucessful meets have come from. We get chatting then go outside the site on msn or and chat more.

10 Apr 2007

me and bubbly, both search adverts if one catches our eye, we show it to each other and make a decision basied on that.
We never select anyone without consulting the other.

10 Apr 2007

We play "Hit, Miss or Maybe"
Dammie spends ages perving adds and then sends me a pm with links to all the profiles of people he thinks I might like.
Then I pm him back with each link labelled "Hit, Miss or Maybe" biggrin

11 Apr 2007

Quote by Geordiecpl2001
Can only speak as part of a couple here, obviously! When we're looking thro the swingers ads for potential "meets" 90% of the time its me (John) who looks at all the likely ads then filters out the ones which aren't in our "comfort zone / target area".
Then I'd show Shel the remainder to narrow the selection down based on her preferences.
Is this the same with all couples, ie one does the main sorting. Or do others look at all ads together. Or is it sometime the case that one partner picks a couple and says, "we're meeting them" without consulting their other partner?
John & Shel

Just like real life - Mr does all the donkey work and Mrs makes the final decisions. We advertised recently for a male to join us in a hotel and I filtered through about 50 responses, got down to five and she chose a shortlist of two. Team play.