No idea where or how to start this viewpoint, but swinging has become somewhat of a phenomenon, more noticeable during the 21st century than it was in the mid 60s, or even further back in times where it was less well advertised or talked about in general circles.
Why do people join this lifestyle?, how do they go about it?, why is it that some venture in as couples while others involve themselves as singles?
As people grow and start to develop they find they have sexual fantasies, for some it will always remain as a fantasy, but for others they have to indulge these pangs of desire and this lifestyle affords them the opportunity to do so.
There is a great diversity within the lifestyle, it's never quite as black and white, as newcomers quickly discover. Just to mention a few of these would give those interested a small view on what may be available to them, but long gone is the old 'wife swapping', 'keys in a bowl' genre that most assume is norm, such is the choice these days that the norm is no longer the norm.
Why do people enter the lifestyle? Is it they have sexual fantasies that they can not readily experience with their current partner/s? Is it they are 'missing out' on something at home? Is it just they need to feel 'wanted'? A sex drive imbalance with their current partner?
Lets have a look of some of these fantasies, that can't be experienced in the everyday normal routine, (well not unless you are a member of the adult industry and making movies or being photographed for one of the top shelf magazines that only in the last decade or so have being made readily available to the general public, either by mail order or stocked in most newsagents).
Going back over the years, the old black and white cine films, and then late in the 20th century every household found this new piece of electrical equipment that was a 'must have' for every homeowner, it was called the VHS video player, and then opened such stores where it was easy to rent out the latest movies, and enjoy them at home with family and friends, but then there is a time when family and friends are not about, and the 'under the shelf' videos came out when there was no one else around, and we were 'educated' with sex acts, that for most of us, were never even dreamt of.
Yes, now we've come on in leaps and bounds since then, the personal home camcorder, the DVD player, the digital camera, Bill Gates great vision for Windows, use of computers, social networking sites, internet forums, internet chat rooms, the webcam, never has a choice been easier to enter this lifestyle to fulfil some of these fantasies.
We've all seen these movies, the combinations that take place, One on One, lesbians, gays, MFM (male female male) FMF (female, male, female), The Orgy, role playing scenarios and many, many more.
Swinging has afforded a lot of modern adults the chance to explore their sexuality of choice, to explore their bisexual/lesbian/gay fantasies, or indulge in their heterosexual (straight) fantasies.
Women, in general, have fantasies of group sex, (an act where there is more than one partner, not that they want to have sex with a pop band, but in some cases this could also be a fantasy of theirs), and in this case the members of the group may be a combination of male and female participants.
For some women, they feel an attraction to other women, they are more than happy with their male partner, but enjoy the softness and touch that only a woman can give them, these women enjoy the lifestyle in order to explore their bisexuality.
Men have fantasies of group sex also, but from a personal viewpoint, it's a lot easier to fantasise about than it is to actually participate in, while women can be 'accommodating' with various body parts, males really only have a couple of body parts, the part which clearly defines their gender, and their mouth.
Males can also be put in their sexuality of choice, straight, gay or bisexual, but the straight male of the species will always be more homophobic about same sex gender than any straight female.
There are other diverse tastes within the community, exhibitionism, voyeurism, dogging, outdoor, BDSM, watersports, master/slave, sado/masochism, humiliation, cuckold, fetish, cfnm, all these and more, information and details can be found readily by entering any of the topics to any internet search engine.
Before any individual just jumps in to this modern lifestyle, it would be great if they would just give a lot of thought and make a decision of what exactly it is they are hoping to experience.
I have touched somewhat on some of the choices that are available, but have not touched on more recent topics such as, age, shape, size, attraction or shared chemistry between interested parties.
The age factor seems more of an issue these days for most, most of those that enjoy or join the lifestyle want to meet people where they can share common interests and with a major age difference they find when/if they meet they have nothing in common and no common ground to talk about. Yes, no doubt there are still swingers out there where you will be met at the door by scantily clad individuals and you are not there to 'talk' but to do the 'deed' and then go, but overall this genre of swinger is dying out very quickly.
I will mention shape, size, attraction and shared chemistry altogether in saying that, some use chat rooms and end up chatting with people they seem to get along great with, and they feel they would be comfortable meeting for drinks, but then the reality kicks in, the people they are meeting are not what they 'expected', there is no attraction or chemistry, they may have exchanged photos, but the photos were taken a number of years ago, and are totally outdated, this comes as a shock for most.
And then you encounter the virtual fantasists, guys pretending to be females that are trying to attract other females, they have this thing in their head that they want to know the ins and outs of lesbian sex, (something they will never experience, but in their minds they just need their 5 minute 'fix' or in some cases, they are trying to 'groom' the female to meet his 'husband/boyfriend/f*ck buddy' and then 'she' can hear all about it afterwards.
Swinging is not a money making scheme, although there are many out there that will run parties in order to make financial gain, these organisers are themselves members of the lifestyle, so in a way, they could be classed as professional swingers, their profit margins may be low, but they are not in it for the money, but to help others enjoy the lifestyle in a safe, secure, private and discrete environment.
There are professionally run adult clubs accessible in the UK and mainland Europe, these are registered businesses, all run legally, but in a country like Ireland, the general small mindedness of a fraction of the population and the church, swingers are portrayed as deviants, depraved and lacking in any moral fibre.
And then you have the public interest factor, journalists who do their 'exposés' on the swinging community or single out some of its participants for 'special edition' editorials, in my opinion these are the people who lack in any moral fibre, where financial gain is made from the misery they create for other people.
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Sex God
I've snipped quite a bit of your OP amateurman, as I wanted to address some of the particular issues raised:
Does everything have to be over-analysed? Can things not just be enjoyed?
And why did you get into the scene?
Quote by amatuerman
Why do people join this lifestyle?, how do they go about it?, why is it that some venture in as couples while others involve themselves as singles?
Why do people enter the lifestyle? Is it they have sexual fantasies that they can not readily experience with their current partner/s? Is it they are 'missing out' on something at home? Is it just they need to feel 'wanted'? A sex drive imbalance with their current partner?
Before I found the swinging 'scene' I was doing pretty well at acting out fantasies with partners and fuck buddies. I certainly didn't feel I was missing out or wanted to feel wanted.
Swinging has afforded a lot of modern adults the chance to explore their sexuality of choice, to explore their bisexual/lesbian/gay fantasies, or indulge in their heterosexual (straight) fantasies.
My first sexual experiences as a young woman were with other girls. So I have never felt swinging was the way-in to any bisexual play.
Women, in general, have fantasies of group sex, (an act where there is more than one partner, not that they want to have sex with a pop band, but in some cases this could also be a fantasy of theirs), and in this case the members of the group may be a combination of male and female participants.
Is this not a tad patronising?
For some women, they feel an attraction to other women, they are more than happy with their male partner, but enjoy the softness and touch that only a woman can give them, these women enjoy the lifestyle in order to explore their bisexuality.
See my comments above.
There are other diverse tastes within the community, exhibitionism, voyeurism, dogging, outdoor, BDSM, watersports, master/slave, sado/masochism, humiliation, cuckold, fetish, cfnm, all these and more, information and details can be found readily by entering any of the topics to any internet search engine.
Hmmm... I don't think swinging is a way in to the fetish world really either. Maybe that's just me.
Before any individual just jumps in to this modern lifestyle, it would be great if they would just give a lot of thought and make a decision of what exactly it is they are hoping to experience.
Why?
Does everything have to be over-analysed? Can things not just be enjoyed?
And why did you get into the scene?
Mod
I saw the picture of Nola's Tits and thot, yep I want to have a wee feel of them. 
Sex God
Quote by woohoo
I saw the picture of Nola's Tits and thot, yep I want to have a wee feel of them.
Nuff said 
Orgasminator
Sounds like it was written by someone who only ever really has regular regimented sex 2.4 times a week in the four positions they know about - they got all that info from interviews or magazines!
Sex God
Quote by Big_Fraser
Sounds like it was written by someone who only ever really has regular regimented sex 2.4 times a week in the four positions they know about - they got all that info from interviews or magazines!
I'd be more than happy with 2.4 times a week in four positions- more than i bloody get now :lol:
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Sounds like it was written by someone who only ever really has regular regimented sex 2.4 times a week in the four positions they know about - they got all that info from interviews or magazines!
I'd be more than happy with 2.4 times a week in four positions- more than i bloody get now :lol:
Agreed the Meaty One
Dave_Notts
Sex God
Just signing up as a member to the site doesn't really enable you to do anything with it or in it. I've always thought it might be a good idea to allow people becoming members but not yet paying for the upgrade to be allowed a one post per day in forums. This might act as a lure and entice people to upgrade to have more participation. Would be good for forum too as it might get a lot more posting on it.
Sex God
Quote by Lost
Just signing up as a member to the site doesn't really enable you to do anything with it or in it. I've always thought it might be a good idea to allow people becoming members but not yet paying for the upgrade to be allowed a one post per day in forums. This might act as a lure and entice people to upgrade to have more participation. Would be good for forum too as it might get a lot more posting on it.
:thumbup: I like that idea Lost.
It'd perhaps have to be restricted to which forum though.
Nice idea.
Sex God
Oh and Woohoo and Lost, my boobs and I thank you for the compliments!
:giggle:
:giggle:
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Quote by Lost
Just signing up as a member to the site doesn't really enable you to do anything with it or in it. I've always thought it might be a good idea to allow people becoming members but not yet paying for the upgrade to be allowed a one post per day in forums. This might act as a lure and entice people to upgrade to have more participation. Would be good for forum too as it might get a lot more posting on it.
If I remember rightly ,a few months ago the site had a free period and altho we did get more than our fair share of numpties,we did get some new members.
Got to take the bad wie the good ah suppose
Sex God
What a load of crap ... why do people feel the need to analyse everything?
Although I'm sure that the following applies to some of the not so single singles (and I know that many singles are genuinely single so please don't rip my head off) but I would hazard a guess that the majority of couples would agree that the reason they chose this lifestyle was definitely not because of this:
Everyone here has their reasons and we don't all need to know what they are. It is impossible to say 'this is why swingers swing!'
Although I'm sure that the following applies to some of the not so single singles (and I know that many singles are genuinely single so please don't rip my head off) but I would hazard a guess that the majority of couples would agree that the reason they chose this lifestyle was definitely not because of this:
Quote by amatuerman
Why do people enter the lifestyle? Is it they have sexual fantasies that they can not readily experience with their current partner/s? Is it they are 'missing out' on something at home? Is it just they need to feel 'wanted'? A sex drive imbalance with their current partner?
Everyone here has their reasons and we don't all need to know what they are. It is impossible to say 'this is why swingers swing!'
Sex God
Quote by amatuerman
Like I said below:
Not my post, copied from another of SH's sites.
A worthy post though.
Paddy.
I do believe there are some valid points not all though.
Which ones? I just think it would be good if you said, given that you've said it isn't your post. It'd be good if we actually knew what your view was and then maybe the debate could move forward...
Sex God
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Oh and Woohoo and Lost, my boobs and I thank you for the compliments!
:giggle:
"My boobs and I?" Maybe those delightful boobs should have an account of their own ... and I'll be first on their friends list. :twisted:
