Thanks for reading...any advice or reassurance from both genders much appreciated. We're new to this site and also swinging. We are both extremely adventurous and open minded with each other and role played our fantasies before taking the plunge and starting to try them out in 'real' life. Understandibly both excited and nervous but more so me because I have body image issues. I'm a size 16 curvy girl with a 'mummy' tummy and previously been in an abusive relationship with an ex who completely took my confidence away. I'm b just worried that most people on here and on club adverts look very slim and toned and I don't want to feel uncomfortable about myself as I won't relax. My new partner is absolutely fantastic and very supportive of me and I know I. M attractive clothed and covered but am scared I'll disappoint when undressed.
Any advice appreciated. ..ty in advance x rach
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swinging and body image
You'll be welcomed and admired throughout the swinging community no matter what your body type, although I know confidence is important. The girls on this site come in all shapes and sizes, and the more normal is the well proportioned, well lived in body, with mummy tummy and all. There are many members who will be better able to give advice than myself, but the bog standard advice for any newbies is to tell them to try attending a "social", and to meet other likeminded couples and singles at a social gathering.
Hi Rach,
welcome to SH.
I don't think you need to worry about what size or shape you are in the slightest on here. Everyone has different tastes and likes but I think most appreciate everyone for who they are, a good personality is what I think tends to cut it
We're fairly new on here ourselves, only joined in January but have attended a social and met up with some other members for drinks, etc. We feel like we've been welcomed with open arms.
Best advice I can offer is get into the chatrooms and say hi, get verified, get on cam (fully clothed is fine, just to show you are real and genuine) and most of all enjoy.
Being newbies, you might get a few chancers out for what they can get, etc. don't get drawn in, just stick to what you want to get out of this and you'll be fine.
Hope that helps,
Neil ( & Clare)
welcome to SH.
I don't think you need to worry about what size or shape you are in the slightest on here. Everyone has different tastes and likes but I think most appreciate everyone for who they are, a good personality is what I think tends to cut it
We're fairly new on here ourselves, only joined in January but have attended a social and met up with some other members for drinks, etc. We feel like we've been welcomed with open arms.
Best advice I can offer is get into the chatrooms and say hi, get verified, get on cam (fully clothed is fine, just to show you are real and genuine) and most of all enjoy.
Being newbies, you might get a few chancers out for what they can get, etc. don't get drawn in, just stick to what you want to get out of this and you'll be fine.
Hope that helps,
Neil ( & Clare)
What they said!
The Site is full of people of all shapes/sizes/genders/kinks/colours and any other 'label' you can think of. Bottom line is it's all horses for courses, so forget about what other people might be looking for and try to make this all about what you want. You'll soon get an idea of where you fit in.
NB: Go do a search >here<, say you're looking for women, click the 'Advanced profile?' box and then select 'large' build. I think you'll be surprised at how many people class themselves in that category, and are proud to do so! There's even a term for it: >BBW< :thumbup:
The Site is full of people of all shapes/sizes/genders/kinks/colours and any other 'label' you can think of. Bottom line is it's all horses for courses, so forget about what other people might be looking for and try to make this all about what you want. You'll soon get an idea of where you fit in.
NB: Go do a search >here<, say you're looking for women, click the 'Advanced profile?' box and then select 'large' build. I think you'll be surprised at how many people class themselves in that category, and are proud to do so! There's even a term for it: >BBW< :thumbup:
Hiya Dave and Rachel and :welcome: to the forum ;)
I can totally empathize with you on the body image thing - my self esteem was at an all time low when i first joined SH, yo-yoing regularly up and down in size and hated my mummy apron. Then I quickly learnt that accepting myself was the key - once I had done that this swinging malarkey became relatively simple
- well simple-ish :rascal:
Yes theres some shallow f***ers in life that will always be sizist and go for the Twiggy's of this world, but in my experience men and women do tend to like a bit of flesh to grab on to ;) for me its all about the personality, if that shines then I really don't give a monkeys arse about the packaging
I'm notoriously fussy about who I share my mummy apron with and my thigh wobbles and always remember that it is absolutely ok to say NO to people - anyone that doesn't accept NO for an answer in my little world gets blocked on here and ignored.
So embrace your curves, abandon the Bridget Jones Pants and be at ease with yourself (hey us women will never be 100% happy with our lot in life but thats the way it is) - get to a social or a club and have some fun meeting new people who will accept you for what you are!!!
Happy Swinging :swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair:
PS - I've had 5 kids - that mummy apron aint ever gonna go away completely, i like to draw faces on mine and squidge it together to make them move ;)
I can totally empathize with you on the body image thing - my self esteem was at an all time low when i first joined SH, yo-yoing regularly up and down in size and hated my mummy apron. Then I quickly learnt that accepting myself was the key - once I had done that this swinging malarkey became relatively simple
- well simple-ish :rascal:Yes theres some shallow f***ers in life that will always be sizist and go for the Twiggy's of this world, but in my experience men and women do tend to like a bit of flesh to grab on to ;) for me its all about the personality, if that shines then I really don't give a monkeys arse about the packaging
I'm notoriously fussy about who I share my mummy apron with and my thigh wobbles and always remember that it is absolutely ok to say NO to people - anyone that doesn't accept NO for an answer in my little world gets blocked on here and ignored.So embrace your curves, abandon the Bridget Jones Pants and be at ease with yourself (hey us women will never be 100% happy with our lot in life but thats the way it is) - get to a social or a club and have some fun meeting new people who will accept you for what you are!!!
Happy Swinging :swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair:
PS - I've had 5 kids - that mummy apron aint ever gonna go away completely, i like to draw faces on mine and squidge it together to make them move ;)
Thank you all. . You have put my mind a little at rest that there isn't just the body perfect out there. Taken the plunge and booked a hotel in Blackpool next bank holiday and just ordered some nice corset to suck in and disguise. ..am taking that will be okay with the dress down code ????????
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Hiya Dave and Rachel and :welcome: to the forum ;)
I can totally empathize with you on the body image thing - my self esteem was at an all time low when i first joined SH, yo-yoing regularly up and down in size and hated my mummy apron. Then I quickly learnt that accepting myself was the key - once I had done that this swinging malarkey became relatively simple
Yes theres some shallow f***ers in life that will always be sizist and go for the Twiggy's of this world, but in my experience men and women do tend to like a bit of flesh to grab on to ;) for me its all about the personality, if that shines then I really don't give a monkeys arse about the packaging
So embrace your curves, abandon the Bridget Jones Pants and be at ease with yourself (hey us women will never be 100% happy with our lot in life but thats the way it is) - get to a social or a club and have some fun meeting new people who will accept you for what you are!!!
Happy Swinging :swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair:
PS - I've had 5 kids - that mummy apron aint ever gonna go away completely, i like to draw faces on mine and squidge it together to make them move ;)
That sort of sums it up!
Personally, when I started on here I was like a rabbit in the headlights, totally hating my body, got too many wobbly bits and blemishes to ever be proud of... Came from a marriage where I was constantly told I was fat, ugly, a baby machine, useless, disgusting blah blah blah. And coming on here has given me a huge boost, I get guys telling me I'm cute, sexy, curvy, gorgeous etc etc and wanting to meet me!!
My bits still wobble, I have cellulite, my tits aren't under my chin, but at the end of the day I also have 2 kids and a partner who loves me, a fuck buddy who can't get enough and yes I still get messages everyday from people just wanting to say hi.
I also get my fair share of nobheads who call me a prude, a prick tease and a bitch, I don't need those people so they get blocked.
I'm still not hugely confident, hence why I don't do naked/topless cams, I have HUGE respect for those that are and can, and after a year I still haven't plucked up the courage to go to a social, which I really need to do, now that is a confidence thing.
One thing I am learning is everyone has different tastes and the thing that attracted me and my partner to this site were the 'real' people, talking about real things and with real lumps bumps and nobbly, wobbly bits.
Enjoy the site, everyone is friendly
Hold the fucking phone lady, i just looked at your pictures and you are beautiful, you clearly love sex, enjoy yourself and your partner; have fun and want to expand on that.
There is no issue
This, i have found, is what this funny old place is about. Acceptance and filth - the best of both worlds. i'm a larger lady, and as a rule don't give a fuck. i would never say i was bbw or whatever, because i don't like a label, if i was to categorise myself it would mostly be :
frikin awesome.
We are all a little fearful of what other people think about us. however this place, is a place i have found where, really, no one gives a fuck.
We are all glorious.
If you spend time finding some adventures you will find that we all are just very very noraml.
Bestest luck ever finding fun.
Bella xxx
There is no issue
This, i have found, is what this funny old place is about. Acceptance and filth - the best of both worlds. i'm a larger lady, and as a rule don't give a fuck. i would never say i was bbw or whatever, because i don't like a label, if i was to categorise myself it would mostly be :
frikin awesome.
We are all a little fearful of what other people think about us. however this place, is a place i have found where, really, no one gives a fuck.
We are all glorious.
If you spend time finding some adventures you will find that we all are just very very noraml.
Bestest luck ever finding fun.
Bella xxx
Hi guys
I've read these posts and just wanted to chip in with my two penneth
I'm a disabled guy who has a somewhat unusual body shape but I accepted it a long time ago. It makes no difference what other people think, its what you feel inside that matters.
I won't deny that being on this site is a bit of a challenge but I have all the desires that everyone has and need an outlet, hence my being here.
Don't let others force their issues on you and just enjoy being you
Thanks for reading my ramblings
Dave x
I've read these posts and just wanted to chip in with my two penneth
I'm a disabled guy who has a somewhat unusual body shape but I accepted it a long time ago. It makes no difference what other people think, its what you feel inside that matters.
I won't deny that being on this site is a bit of a challenge but I have all the desires that everyone has and need an outlet, hence my being here.
Don't let others force their issues on you and just enjoy being you
Thanks for reading my ramblings
Dave x
