Sex God
hey have the read the n.o.t.w yes its in to the scene again this time interviewing couples who tryed it and what happened to them after ,some cany reading showing the other side of things when it dont work out
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I have read the article and it is very biased.
Strangely enough on the porblem page of the same paper an agony aunt advises a couple who are bored with their sex life to chang the time and venue!!Well really if thats all she can come up with.........................................................!!!!!!!!
Strangely enough on the porblem page of the same paper an agony aunt advises a couple who are bored with their sex life to chang the time and venue!!Well really if thats all she can come up with.........................................................!!!!!!!!
Sex God
I haven't read the article but as most of us know on this site, if a couple start swinging and they already have problems in their marriage/partnership, then inevitably the relationship will break down anyway.
I don't think that swinging would be the only cause of the break down in these circumstances, although no doubt that's the slant tabloid press will put on it
Tracy-Jayne
I don't think that swinging would be the only cause of the break down in these circumstances, although no doubt that's the slant tabloid press will put on it
Tracy-Jayne
Sex God
Quote by northwest-cpl
Well if you think the tabloids are bad look at this, paragraph 3. :cry:
Personally, I like this excerpt from paragraph 3 best...
"Of course there would be no reason for a couple who was happy to seek therapy"
...as it implies that the rest only applies to couples who are experiencing marital difficulty. I do agree that swinging is a bad idea if there are already problems in the relationship, as it can serve to exacerbate any pre-existing security issues between partners. However, this article totally ignores those happily-marrieds among us who embarked on our "swinging careers" prior to marriage and have continued afterwards. Alas.
~Reese!
Quote by northwest-cpl
Well if you think the tabloids are bad look at this, paragraph 3. :cry:
Utter bollox and Amercianised psycho-babble (no offence to any Americans Reese
)"In my 25 years of practice however, I have yet to see an "open marriage" that worked. Of course there would be no reason for a couple who was happy to seek therapy, I can't help but think that those seeking open marriage are at a rest stop on the way to marital failure"
I'm sure the 'therapy' he talks of would be at the cost of a small island! :twisted:
And yes, the NOTW today adds yet another intelligent, balanced perspective on the wonderful world of swinging
.. and let's be honest.. - Sarah & Jim; Claire & Dave; Dave & Tracy; Owen & Jenny; Julie & Steve and who could forget John & Candice.. I DON'T fancy yours much... we would never had tried swinging,if we were in an unstable relationship,but we are so secure with each other that we both meet others seperately,and how many"normal" relationships end up in one of the partners ends up having an affair/s
if there are any couples unsure about swinging we would tell them to wait,till they are comfortable with it.
if there are any couples unsure about swinging we would tell them to wait,till they are comfortable with it.
Sex God
Quote by Bloke2005
Utter bollox and Amercianised psycho-babble (no offence to any Americans Reese
None taken. :lol:
However, you just reminded me of another issue I have with the article in question...
"In my 25 years of practice however, I have yet to see an "open marriage" that worked."
...as, to my mind, an "open marriage" is a relationship within which one or both partners engage in sexual liaisons outside of their marriage. In my own case, I would never swing with anyone if Vix wasn't participating as well. Does this mean I'm not a swinger? Or is it merely that "swinging" and the concept of an "open marriage" have become synonymous in popular culture?!
~Reese!
I told my aunt about going to a awinging patry. She's far more travelled and liberal than my mum so I didn't really expect a negative response. In fact, I'd imagined that she'd probably done it herself. But all she said was 'be careful, those parties can be very damagine to relationships'. I have been thinking about and realised I feel a bit insulted that she thinks we'd go into anything without doing our research or knowing exactly how we feel about every possibility.
She know my boyf and I have an incredibly stable relationship - did she think we'd just do something like this because we were bored?
She know my boyf and I have an incredibly stable relationship - did she think we'd just do something like this because we were bored?
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I haven't read the article but as most of us know on this site, if a couple start swinging and they already have problems in their marriage/partnership, then inevitably the relationship will break down anyway.
I don't think that swinging would be the only cause of the break down in these circumstances, although no doubt that's the slant tabloid press will put on it
Tracy-Jayne
i too have not read the artical but swinging can be very dangerous thing to start, as others have said on here if both partners are not ready for it or understand the situations that might arrise. i have know a marrige break up because of swining as the man found out to his dismay the women will get all the attention and he may fall behind, this is not to say it is some twisted race to see how many patners each can score, but lets face it the women will get more attetion so it will be hard to deal with.
What if one likes it very much but the other hates it what will happen then would he or she stop for thier partners sake or like it to much and lead to an affair.
Life is here to test us all lets hope that no one on here will fall and split up i have found it hard for a few different reasons but i like a challenge.
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