So we're dipping our toe a bit now and got to thinking about all the possibilities.
We placed an ad and had some replies, selected someone and took it from there. In conversation with a friend, it came up that they think we're being very brave attempting it with a stranger rather than the safety of friends.
Which got me thinking. I'm of the belief that surely it's easier with a stranger? No friendship to mess up, if it doesn't work it really doesn't matter all that much, if it does, great. Then I was talking to *Him* and we talked our way round to the fact that we have friends who for us, the friendship started out purely based around swinging. They're friends now, but in the beginning it was purely about the sex. For us, it wouldn't be difficult to swing with them as thats how the friendship started.
We also have many friends from here and other places, who although we met on here, haven't swung with and now can't see that ever happening just because they're "real" friends rather than swinging friends.
Do you think theres a point you get to like we have, where you just go past it? A point right at the beginning, where if you don't do it then, you probably never will?
*Her*
Yes.
Erm yes to having friends who I swing with. Yes to having swung with folk and now being friends. And yes I've met folk and we've just become friends.
All good! :thumbup:
Hmmmmmm
Yes I think it is easier for the first meet to be with a 'stranger' (someone we have met on SH).
We have made many friends here some we play with, some we haven't played with yet and some who we probably never will, but our common interest is swinging and it is wonderful to be open about who we are and what we do.
With a stranger is better. If it f*cks up who cares but if it fucks up with friends its a bad days work.
Sure certain things are easier with a stranger, but then I think there are benefits to sex with someone you have a level of trust and compatability with. I mean there are things I would never suggest doing on a first swing meet, but I would definitely suggest doing with someone I knew better.
Well I like to get to know the people I'm thinking of swinging with before I meet ( or make a decision to ). Not so much as I could call them a friend yet but enough to think that I might like to at some point if things worked out.
I don't think I'd swing with anyone I wouldn't want as a friend. As I think a connection with someone helps the occasion and for me swinging is about having fun. I always have the most fun with friends don't you ? Friends made on here are just as valid as those made anywhere else.
one of my best mates started out as a swinging friend, he was the frist person i met from the site and the first person i had a swinging meet with, now we are bessies and yes i think we are past that sex point, although i am sure it wouldnt be weird if we did shag again.
