I've been reading these forums for a while, and there seems to be a definate cross over between just plain good old shagging and kinkier sex involving some degree of BDSM.
Is one more essential to people than the other? or do you just like it different?
Personally....I like a good dose of BDSM, but I see swinging situations fitting in quite nicely with that level of kink :twisted:
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Swinging/BDSM-crossover?
Quote by tabbi
I've been reading these forums for a while, and there seems to be a definate cross over between just plain good old shagging and kinkier sex involving some degree of BDSM.
Is one more essential to people than the other? or do you just like it different?
Personally....I like a good dose of BDSM, but I see swinging situations fitting in quite nicely with that level of kink :twisted:
I think you'll find a good mix here but the crossover isn't so manageable as BDSM is based on trust and swinging is/can be quite casual ..... so that trust isn't so obvious.
Personally I'm more BDSM inclined than swinging ..
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I'm part of both the swinging and the bdsm side of things but don't think it's a neccessity to be so.
Some here are into both like u said but others are here for the friendships and fun that swinging is all about, not saying that the bdsm scene isn't about friendship and fun mind but there is a definate difference between the 2 (which some of us like to combine at times lol)
Mumble over.
Have fun here Tabbi
Some here are into both like u said but others are here for the friendships and fun that swinging is all about, not saying that the bdsm scene isn't about friendship and fun mind but there is a definate difference between the 2 (which some of us like to combine at times lol)
Mumble over.
Have fun here Tabbi
I'm not sure the two subjects are really that closely related.
Swinging requires a very open mind (compared to the average person), as does partaking in BDSM (and for that matter, cross-dressing, naturism and bisexuality, which you'll also find in a larger than average number amongst the regulars here), which might well be the only reason why we have such a noticable BDSMer crowd here.
Swinging requires a very open mind (compared to the average person), as does partaking in BDSM (and for that matter, cross-dressing, naturism and bisexuality, which you'll also find in a larger than average number amongst the regulars here), which might well be the only reason why we have such a noticable BDSMer crowd here.
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Quote by Calista
I've been reading these forums for a while, and there seems to be a definate cross over between just plain good old shagging and kinkier sex involving some degree of BDSM.
Is one more essential to people than the other? or do you just like it different?
Personally....I like a good dose of BDSM, but I see swinging situations fitting in quite nicely with that level of kink :twisted:
I think you'll find a good mix here but the crossover isn't so manageable as BDSM is based on trust and swinging is/can be quite casual ..... so that trust isn't so obvious.
Personally I'm more BDSM inclined than swinging ..
very much on limited experience this . . . but yeah calista agreed. ;)
while i've really enjoyed bondage / light BDSM in the past, it's very much a trust thing. i absolutely freaked with a little gentle play recently in a swinging situation. though i was absolutely happy with the people i was playing with, as soon as other people became involved it was just too vulnerable. dunno if that's just me and it was more being watched than anything else but i found it pretty difficult?
oh and tabbi! :welcome: to SH! hope you have lots of fun here. love the avatar! :twisted:
neil x x x ;)
I think there is no cut and dried answer really, some parties will have other aspects involved, such as BDSM, some won't. It depends on who is there at the time and what they like to do. Either way I have found a lot of respect, if I didn't want to do something I wouldn't be pushed into it but otherwise I have felt quite free to join in.
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Quote by Calista
I think you'll find a good mix here but the crossover isn't so manageable as BDSM is based on trust and swinging is/can be quite casual ..... so that trust isn't so obvious.
Personally I'm more BDSM inclined than swinging ..
God I hate it when someone gives the definitive answer on the second post
:) Quote by westerross
I think you'll find a good mix here but the crossover isn't so manageable as BDSM is based on trust and swinging is/can be quite casual ..... so that trust isn't so obvious.
Personally I'm more BDSM inclined than swinging ..
God I hate it when someone gives the definitive answer on the second post
:):giggle:
Interesting question raised Tabbi...... I do see swinging mentioned in fetish forums/sites and vice versa so there is a cross over at times.
I noticed trust mentioned, and yes you need it in BDSM definately but dont you also need an element of it swingng to a point???? (this is from a non swinger..so please correct)
Night of the Senses (Sex Maniacs Ball) is a good example of when both lifestyles come together and work well.
At the end of the day no matter what kinky pervy things
(mentioning no names here hehe) your into as long as its between consenting adults....happy swinging and yuletide beatings!
xanaisx
I noticed trust mentioned, and yes you need it in BDSM definately but dont you also need an element of it swingng to a point???? (this is from a non swinger..so please correct)
Night of the Senses (Sex Maniacs Ball) is a good example of when both lifestyles come together and work well.
At the end of the day no matter what kinky pervy things
(mentioning no names here hehe) your into as long as its between consenting adults....happy swinging and yuletide beatings! xanaisx
Sex God
Silky likes a bit of leather and chain mail , as for me well the last woman that took a whip to me still walks with a slight limp . As for handcuffs they just remind me of Saturday nights as a teenager down the local nick .
Sex God
youve pulled Ooooo I agree with judyTV entirely. Don't do anything your not comfortable with or may endanger yourself or others.
Just a suggestion, maybe its an idea to talk to others in the scene who are very experience that you maybe able to talk through your fears with?? The majority of people Ive come across in the scene are sensible, careful and very aware of boundries etc etc etc
They are plenty of forums where helpful advice is available and Im sure there are people in SH that will be able to help too!
Good luck
xanaisx
Just a suggestion, maybe its an idea to talk to others in the scene who are very experience that you maybe able to talk through your fears with?? The majority of people Ive come across in the scene are sensible, careful and very aware of boundries etc etc etc
They are plenty of forums where helpful advice is available and Im sure there are people in SH that will be able to help too!
Good luck
xanaisx
