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Sex God
Usually sleep on it, sober up and, if necessary talk it through.
Looking at the title of this thread I thought we were in fer some sophisticated Line dancing instruction.
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Looking at the title of this thread I thought we were in fer some sophisticated Line dancing instruction.
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Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
If you have a row with your partner or FB or play partners, how do you sort it out and make things better?
People just have to have a go at me!
We've only had one row that was swinging related, unfortunately it was in a club :shock:
Even worse it was a right humdinger of a row, probably one of the worst ones we've ever had
We spoke lots, talked of how we felt which turned out to be the whole basis of the row, completely misreading each other, then when rowing, cementing the misunderstanding. It was only when we talked afterwards, talked loads, that we realised we had misunderstood each other. Neither of us 'deliberately' set out to make each other uncomfortable, but somehow we managed it. Talking helped us understand each others points of view and why each of us felt as we did etc.
This happened way back when we first started swinging together - and I still don't think I'll venture back into that club again, hated and still hate the place........ Funny enough it's one of the better clubs around, I just don't like the memories of the place and do blame it for our row, even though a building isn't really to blame, but more the people in it, more specifically, us two
It was a horrid experience, really horrid, one I will avoid at all costs. It was so horrid it made me very wary the next few times we went out. Thankfully we've never had a problem since. We've managed to put it behind us and have a blast :cool:
It was a huge lesson learned tho :?
Mrs B, if something has happened between you and whoever, deffo speak about it and get to the root of the problem....... Whether it be getting to the root of something that has happened, or re-establishing boundaries, or whatever, just talk, it's so worth it
Even worse it was a right humdinger of a row, probably one of the worst ones we've ever had
We spoke lots, talked of how we felt which turned out to be the whole basis of the row, completely misreading each other, then when rowing, cementing the misunderstanding. It was only when we talked afterwards, talked loads, that we realised we had misunderstood each other. Neither of us 'deliberately' set out to make each other uncomfortable, but somehow we managed it. Talking helped us understand each others points of view and why each of us felt as we did etc.
This happened way back when we first started swinging together - and I still don't think I'll venture back into that club again, hated and still hate the place........ Funny enough it's one of the better clubs around, I just don't like the memories of the place and do blame it for our row, even though a building isn't really to blame, but more the people in it, more specifically, us two
It was a horrid experience, really horrid, one I will avoid at all costs. It was so horrid it made me very wary the next few times we went out. Thankfully we've never had a problem since. We've managed to put it behind us and have a blast :cool:
It was a huge lesson learned tho :?
Mrs B, if something has happened between you and whoever, deffo speak about it and get to the root of the problem....... Whether it be getting to the root of something that has happened, or re-establishing boundaries, or whatever, just talk, it's so worth it
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Sex God
The only way I know of to sort out any disagreement is to talk, talk and then talk again. Listening to what the other person is saying and being honest without getting upset also helps. If it is a swinging related argument, then we do have a 'plan' in place to get it sorted, but if it is anything else, then we bicker like kids 
till one of us gets fed up with the bickering and gives up (normally me, cause I really cannot be bothered with it, life is too short not to enjoy it).
None Swinging - as I said, we bicker, dont do full on arguments, but we do snipe and bicker and the usual way of stoping it is when one of us gets fed up and comes out with our 'call it a halt' line which is 'Fancy a brew' We then change the argument to whose turn it is to make the coffee
Swinging Related - We haven't had any rows about this but I can easily see how we could have had some misunderstandings which if we had not sorted, they could have resulted an argument. We found that the only way to move forward is to talk about it and make sure we both know and understand what the othe one is thinking and feeling and then making or plans accordingly. If one of us does not feel 100% comfortable with anything, then we dont do it. We do everything totally in agreement with each other, or we dont do it at all.
Swinging is one tiny bit of our marriage and if necessary, it is a bit we will stop doing. Dont get me wrong, we love what we are doing, but it is an 'enhancement' we dont have to have (its just an added bonus)
Whatever it is, Im sure it will get sorted and lots of best wishes being 'cyberly' sent to you
till one of us gets fed up with the bickering and gives up (normally me, cause I really cannot be bothered with it, life is too short not to enjoy it).None Swinging - as I said, we bicker, dont do full on arguments, but we do snipe and bicker and the usual way of stoping it is when one of us gets fed up and comes out with our 'call it a halt' line which is 'Fancy a brew' We then change the argument to whose turn it is to make the coffee
Swinging Related - We haven't had any rows about this but I can easily see how we could have had some misunderstandings which if we had not sorted, they could have resulted an argument. We found that the only way to move forward is to talk about it and make sure we both know and understand what the othe one is thinking and feeling and then making or plans accordingly. If one of us does not feel 100% comfortable with anything, then we dont do it. We do everything totally in agreement with each other, or we dont do it at all.
Swinging is one tiny bit of our marriage and if necessary, it is a bit we will stop doing. Dont get me wrong, we love what we are doing, but it is an 'enhancement' we dont have to have (its just an added bonus)
Whatever it is, Im sure it will get sorted and lots of best wishes being 'cyberly' sent to you
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
If you have a row with your partner or FB or play partners, how do you sort it out and make things better?
People just have to have a go at me!
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