hey you go with your instincts meet up in a place you feel safe in and get to know them ,even if it takes a couple of meets ,take it at your pace :shock: the first time we went any where was bnb swing place and when we told ppl we were new ,and what we were into most were fine but one couple were really pushy saying "yes we were like that once,but" blah blah me telling them " look mate not interested" him " yer but" any way had to tell him where to go and really could of put us off the scene any way we had fun that night all i am saying really is dont be pushed into any thing
Fruity,
I agree with Northeastcoupleuk.
Perhaps you and your partner could chat to someone you like via PM or MSN first. If you are both happy with that initial contact, you could maybe meet up socially to see if you both like him. If it was made clear the the initial meet would be social only, there would be no expectations on either side. This would then give you time to go away and think about it further before deciding.
I hope you and your partner have fun whatever you decide to do.
at the minute, I am talking with a lady who lives a few miles away, we talk about almost ever subject known to man or woman, about sexual tatse and habits, about likes and dislikes in food clothing, people, films, . We are both so relaxed with each other now that we know when we meet it will be an anticlimax as we have left very little out, about the only thing left is to see what we both look like as so far no pics have been exchanged. Innitially we met up thru a adult site aimed at finding sex, 4 months down the line and still talking and thanks to a screwup with mobile numbers still not met. But I feel comfortable with her, she says its the same for her, she feels comfortable with me. I know that we both like each other, we know our tatstes both in and out of bed, when we do meet its going to be good, no, great.
I reckon what I am sayiong is, talking with prospectives is needed, learning about them, I am a single guy, according to popular theory I should be jumping into the bed of any woman that opens her llegs. I cant tho, it just dont happen for me. I have had several meets thru this site, all have been highly enjoyable, in only 1 I have not spent time using IM to get to know the person beforehand, instead as we both were at the same fiunction we had a chance to learn about each other in a more open setting. I liked the person, she liked me, we had fun. But we had spent several hours talking before hand
I dont know if I am just a rarity, I like to think not, but talking and getting to know somebody beforehand to me is important, nowdays if I dont like a persons personality, even if they are gagging for it and are drop dead gorgeous, its a no no to me ( ok, if they was gagging for it and drop dead gorgeous they wouldnt be looking at me anyways as I am the ugliest muddafecka around :P ) I wish I had been this mature in my younger years
sounds cool! haha
What about dressing up etc!! Does anybody often dress up for meetings with people or???
Suppose its just what all feel comfortable but suppose you canny beat some kinky underwear?
hi fruity
as a single male and new to the scene i have concerns too about meeting up with couples.
never too sure how things are going to go, if the hubby might get too jealous and kick off or you could do or say something to upset the female .
defenately some contact by e-mail first just to make sure.
well all i can say is that some kinky underwear would go down a treat.
but as ive grown more confident i wear whatever i feel comfortable in, but i like to dress what i think is sexy :undecided: if you meet in a hotel i wear something discreet.... and sexy underwear :haha: :haha:
