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Taking the Plunge .... Hoooray!!!
Well, it didn't go quite as expected ..... we went to Liasons in Rochdale. There wasn't so many couples in, and a fair few single blokes, but what a brilliant atmosphere, very friendly, chatty people 
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Hubs didn't want to get changed and go upstairs, and we had a little grumble, but it didn't stop me :twisted:
Roll on the next time :P
.Hubs didn't want to get changed and go upstairs, and we had a little grumble, but it didn't stop me :twisted:
Roll on the next time :P
Sex God
Quote by Calico
Well, it didn't go quite as expected ..... we went to Liasons in Rochdale. There wasn't so many couples in, and a fair few single blokes, but what a brilliant atmosphere, very friendly, chatty people
Hubs didn't want to get changed and go upstairs, and we had a little grumble, but it didn't stop me :twisted:
Roll on the next time :P
You're doing it even though he's obviously not happy?
Sex God
Does sound just a wee bit selfish dunnit ? 
Sex God
Okey dokey you know best . Never comes over quite the same in type :-)
Sex God
Quote by Calico
Hubs didn't want to get changed and go upstairs, and we had a little grumble, but it didn't stop me :twisted:
Roll on the next time :P
That's what we know about your situation
You said you're guessing he was nervous - you shouldn't have to guess, you should have talked about it before you got into that situation. You also said you had to talk him into going in the first place. It definitely sounds very selfish on your part. Your 'situation', as far as I can tell, is that you're married and he isn't keen on the idea of swinging. By talking him into going and saying 'roll on next time' even though he didn't enjoy it, you come across as very selfish.
What did you expect people on here to say - 'you go for it girl, even if it pisses hubby off' ?
:?
Quote by freckledbird
Hubs didn't want to get changed and go upstairs, and we had a little grumble, but it didn't stop me :twisted:
Roll on the next time :P
That's what we know about your situation
You said you're guessing he was nervous - you shouldn't have to guess, you should have talked about it before you got into that situation. You also said you had to talk him into going in the first place. It definitely sounds very selfish on your part. Your 'situation', as far as I can tell, is that you're married and he isn't keen on the idea of swinging. By talking him into going and saying 'roll on next time' even though he didn't enjoy it, you come across as very selfish.
What did you expect people on here to say - 'you go for it girl, even if it pisses hubby off' ?
:?
No I don't expect people on here to say that at all - quite the opposite. I don't expect to be judged though, this is the last place I would expect a stranger to make a judgement about me or my marriage.
He's a grown man and I didn't twist his arm up his back to go with me. He is a cross dresser, he also frequents lap dancing clubs quite a lot and has "fun" with groupies (he's in a band) with his friends and doesn't involve me in any of those activities. Now I'm neither a tv nor a dancer nor young, far from it, and he's very all or nothing, if it's not his way its usually nothing at all. I wanted us to try something that we could both be involved with and like so I suggested swinging, he has a friend who in the past has visited clubs and he's talked to him about it too.
I resent you calling me selfish and feel like you've judged me as after years of being left out my my hubby's sexual preferences I took the decision on Friday night to do something about it, with his consent.
If you wish to continue this discussion in privates then so be it.
Sex God
I don't and was only trying to point out that your post made you come across as selfish. It was the only thing anyone had to go on; that was the impression it gave.
You're right that it's nobody's business and we don't know anything of your situation except that which you choose to share.
You're right that it's nobody's business and we don't know anything of your situation except that which you choose to share.
Sex God
Quote by Calico
Hubs didn't want to get changed and go upstairs, and we had a little grumble, but it didn't stop me :twisted:
Roll on the next time :P
That's what we know about your situation
You said you're guessing he was nervous - you shouldn't have to guess, you should have talked about it before you got into that situation. You also said you had to talk him into going in the first place. It definitely sounds very selfish on your part. Your 'situation', as far as I can tell, is that you're married and he isn't keen on the idea of swinging. By talking him into going and saying 'roll on next time' even though he didn't enjoy it, you come across as very selfish.
What did you expect people on here to say - 'you go for it girl, even if it pisses hubby off' ?
:?
No I don't expect people on here to say that at all - quite the opposite. I don't expect to be judged though, this is the last place I would expect a stranger to make a judgement about me or my marriage.
He's a grown man and I didn't twist his arm up his back to go with me. He is a cross dresser, he also frequents lap dancing clubs quite a lot and has "fun" with groupies (he's in a band) with his friends and doesn't involve me in any of those activities. Now I'm neither a tv nor a dancer nor young, far from it, and he's very all or nothing, if it's not his way its usually nothing at all. I wanted us to try something that we could both be involved with and like so I suggested swinging, he has a friend who in the past has visited clubs and he's talked to him about it too.
I resent you calling me selfish and feel like you've judged me as after years of being left out my my hubby's sexual preferences I took the decision on Friday night to do something about it, with his consent.
If you wish to continue this discussion in privates then so be it. well said,its a shame you had to write all that to justify what you you n your hubby do is your business. glad you had a good time
xxx looking before leaping springs to mind here. Dino. 
Orgasminator
Quote by Calico
No I don't expect people on here to say that at all - quite the opposite. I don't expect to be judged though, this is the last place I would expect a stranger to make a judgement about me or my marriage.
He's a grown man and I didn't twist his arm up his back to go with me. He is a cross dresser, he also frequents lap dancing clubs quite a lot and has "fun" with groupies (he's in a band) with his friends and doesn't involve me in any of those activities. Now I'm neither a tv nor a dancer nor young, far from it, and he's very all or nothing, if it's not his way its usually nothing at all. I wanted us to try something that we could both be involved with and like so I suggested swinging, he has a friend who in the past has visited clubs and he's talked to him about it too.
I resent you calling me selfish and feel like you've judged me as after years of being left out my my hubby's sexual preferences I took the decision on Friday night to do something about it, with his consent.
If you wish to continue this discussion in privates then so be it.
From what you've said it sounds like hubbies had his fair bit of fun & now it's your turn.
Obviously it might be better if it is something you could do as a couple but if YOU want to do it and he's not fussed then go for it girl.
Have some fun.
Quote by Calico
Hubs didn't want to get changed and go upstairs, and we had a little grumble, but it didn't stop me :twisted:
Roll on the next time :P
That's what we know about your situation
You said you're guessing he was nervous - you shouldn't have to guess, you should have talked about it before you got into that situation. You also said you had to talk him into going in the first place. It definitely sounds very selfish on your part. Your 'situation', as far as I can tell, is that you're married and he isn't keen on the idea of swinging. By talking him into going and saying 'roll on next time' even though he didn't enjoy it, you come across as very selfish.
What did you expect people on here to say - 'you go for it girl, even if it pisses hubby off' ?
:?
No I don't expect people on here to say that at all - quite the opposite. I don't expect to be judged though, this is the last place I would expect a stranger to make a judgement about me or my marriage.
He's a grown man and I didn't twist his arm up his back to go with me. He is a cross dresser, he also frequents lap dancing clubs quite a lot and has "fun" with groupies (he's in a band) with his friends and doesn't involve me in any of those activities. Now I'm neither a tv nor a dancer nor young, far from it, and he's very all or nothing, if it's not his way its usually nothing at all. I wanted us to try something that we could both be involved with and like so I suggested swinging, he has a friend who in the past has visited clubs and he's talked to him about it too.
I resent you calling me selfish and feel like you've judged me as after years of being left out my my hubby's sexual preferences I took the decision on Friday night to do something about it, with his consent.
If you wish to continue this discussion in privates then so be it.
I agree with you that this is the last place that I thought that you would be "judged"
I read your post & didnt think anything untoward
I think that we all play our own tune, if your lucky enough to find someone in the same octave, then life can be exciting. We dont always find it first time, or we dont understand whats going on & it takes a few atempts to find what rocks your boat, it sometimes takes encouragement, I know I did it, I went Partners very scared! not knowing what to expect) to see how I would feel there, to know what to expect, how I would feel, never having been in that enviroment. I was lucky, I had a good teacher with me, I enjoyed it.
I then took my bf there, he didnt know where we were going, but when he got there, wasn't shocked & really enjoyed it :twisted:
Quote by Calico
Well, it didn't go quite as expected ..... we went to Liasons in Rochdale. There wasn't so many couples in, and a fair few single blokes, but what a brilliant atmosphere, very friendly, chatty people
You are right about the atmosphere there, it's the friendliest club we've been to ... and we've been to a few.
Try the Sunday afternoon session if you are looking for couples, it's the best session at Liaisons by far - we are there every week. There were between 25 and 30 couples there yesterday.
Not everyone gets upstairs on their first visit and it is not unknown for 1 member of a couple to play while the other doesn't. Only you know what is right for the two of you. Good luck if you go again.
