I am sure that if the management of SH weren't happy about events being advertised anywhere, they would put a stop to it in order to limit the loss of revenue.
Dress codes don't, or shouldn't, come into the equation - most munches have a casual dress code, ie pub wear - it's just certain people who push that to the absolute limit at times.
Dammy
I'm afraid that I'm not even going to respond to your reply. I have better things to do with my evening.
Mal
Speaking from my own viewpoint, i have voted yes it matters, despite my own apathy.
im now at the point where i have no clue what to call anything, the only thing i have been to, which is what it says on the tin, is a private party
i have been to a munch, a social, and a do, and each of them has basically amounted to the same thing - people at a bar, be it open to the public, or hired for our own use, and when that finishes, back to the hotel, to carry on the drinking, for some its to keep the night going, some have drifted off home or back to their hotels at some point
im sure there are reasons why each event has been named as such (munch/social/do), but i honestly couldnt say why that particular event i attended was a munch, this particular event was a social, im now at the point of calling each thing an event, as it encompasses all the terms, its a weekend that i go away (with , very sadly, two exceptions, that i couldnt, due to finances) , and selfishly, i dont look at the title the event is given, but who is going to be there - if there are people there that i want to meet, want to talk to, or re-acquaint myself with, thats the only factor in my decision
the problem there is, that through my apathy, or more specifically, ignorance, it will mean i am unable to answer any question, that i may possibly be asked by someone newer to the community than i, for i do not have any idea myself, its simply, i go away for a weekend, have some drinks, and some people go back to the hotel, yes i could tell that person that some sort of shenanigans may go on, but the last munch/social/do i went to, i spent 4 hrs sitting in my hotel room, having an excellent conversation with a young lady, and the last party i went to, i was laying on a bed chatting with someone for nearly double the time, and i have to admit, i think i got more enjoyment from that, than i would have done if i was in a room full of people playing, thats no reflection on the event, just where im at at the moment, and with all that in mind, i honestly couldnt give any decent advice to a person that asked me.
but with that, also comes something that was once told to me "no point gaining experience, if you dont share it" i am new, relatively speaking, but this is a community that i have chosen to be involved with, at whatever level, and if someone comes to me with a question, the time i have been here, the amount of events i have been to, i should be able to tell someone the answer to... "whats the definition of...", as surely its not so much a duty, but definitely in our interests to nurture and build this community, and with that, have every possible answer to a question clear and defined?
I know we dont do cross-postings, but, if I may, for a moment bring your attention to this, http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/82305.html to illustrate, in part, the need for this thread.
As far as I'm aware, there has always been a 'certain way of doing things' - the known and tried & tested way, which most folk understand, know where they stand, are clear in what to expect, what is acceptable dress & what isnt, what is appropriate behaviour and what isnt , yadda yadda ... and is accepted by the majority as the way things are done around here, and passed on through the swinging gene tree (friend to freind, mentor to mentee, old-hands & those who've been round the block to newbies. That's how it works.
We havent had chatroom exclusive events, excessive charges, 'socials' that are advertised in the ads section, colour-coordinated get togethers, Munches where it doesnt matter if you've been here 5 years or 5 minutes, or people talking about 'Munches' that were actually parties. There's no wonder the 'social' scene is hitting more problems than ever before in terms of number of people not turning up when push comes to shove, because there's so much bloody confusion over what the fuck people are putting their name to, and more importantly turning up to. And it needs sorting. IMHO.
(Leaving banned members out of this for now}
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