No - we cannot check if an individual is who they say they are. We only act if there is evidence that one person is using more one account to access the site.
If it is something as simple as someone forgetting their username and re-registering, then we can simply close one of the accounts.
In this case, it was two accounts where the details of the person appeared contradictory.
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Quote by treasurechest
Im sorry, ive got to ask this, and it is a genuine question.
If a mod checks a posters details (cant recall the termonology, but you know what I Imean) is that not some form of verification?
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Sex God
Quote by RedHotHere we go again . . . the old chestnut of beating up married men raises it's ugly head
No where in this guy's post does it say he's after a quick shag, merely an illicit one.
Do we HAVE to go through this EVERY time a married guy appears on here ffs? It's all become exceedingly boring to say the least :roll: :?
Tracy-Jayne
Thank you for your surport, yes I am married, yes I am out for a good time.
Quote by JudyTV
No where in this guy's post does it say he's after a quick shag, merely an illicit one.
Do we HAVE to go through this EVERY time a married guy appears on here ffs? It's all become exceedingly boring to say the least :roll: :?
Tracy-Jayne
Thank you for your surport, yes I am married, yes I am out for a good time.
Someone has to ask and I'm extremely curious (bad pun)...............the reason for two accounts with different details?
Judy
well in his case i would say, and only my opinion mind, one account was a single guy whos admitting hes playing away and the other was a couple, so my guess is he uses the couples account when he chatting up women and after pics
Surely the orginal poster is not the only one on this site to be married (boys and girls included here). From the outset my wife and I agreed that from time to time we may seek alternative pleasures. As her husband, I don't own my wife, nor she own me and I therefore I do not have the right to stop her from experiencing a little more out of life. Sometimes I feel if everyone had this kind of attitude, the world would be a happier place. How many marriages have ended because one of the parties had a dalliance with someone else. Big deal. For too long marriage has been operating against a background of morals a lot of them religious. I feel very confident my wife and I will be together until one of us pops our clogs. We are such brilliant mates and very close. The sex bit is not as important as this true bond of friendship which we share. That's my twopennywoth.
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No where in this guy's post does it say he's after a quick shag, merely an illicit one.
Do we HAVE to go through this EVERY time a married guy appears on here ffs? It's all become exceedingly boring to say the least :roll: :?
Tracy-Jayne
I agree with the above, I don't think we should be the ones to judge other people's morality for them..after all to some people, everything everyone does on this site is terribly immoral :shock:
My problem is when someone says something they aren't and expect people to believe a lie..that's what I find objectionable...at least the guy is being honest, so those who don't want to go near a married man can avoid him.
Have you read Sarge's post?
Look a little further up this page.
No, that post I didn't see when I posted the above....honest I admire, not people pretending to be what they are not.
Sex God
Quote by meufun
yes im married and looking for xtra fun with other like minded cpls/females. But are there any genuine cpls or single married females on this site as all i find are time wasters.
'Time wasters', do you mean they said NO?
We can all change our mind and say no!
You will find that at each step you take you are being judged, right up to the meet. If the other person changes their mind you have to live with it. So if one waste your time that's bad luck, if 2 that coincidence, if 3 look at yourself.
Sex God
Quote by JudyTV
No where in this guy's post does it say he's after a quick shag, merely an illicit one.
Do we HAVE to go through this EVERY time a married guy appears on here ffs? It's all become exceedingly boring to say the least :roll: :?
Tracy-Jayne
Thank you for your surport, yes I am married, yes I am out for a good time.
Someone has to ask and I'm extremely curious (bad pun)...............the reason for two accounts with different details?
Judy
Thats surport for married men in general.
Just to make things clear I am married, my wife and I Play away. My wife is not into group sex. I have just start out on this site. If you think I am decieving you do not ask for a date.
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yes im married and looking for xtra fun with other like minded cpls/females. But are there any genuine cpls or single married females on this site as all i find are time wasters.
Don't take it too seriously and loose perspective. I had a lot of hassle from a very few - it is well out of proportion to what most people feel on this site. There are women on this site as well who are cheating on the person they live with as well but naturally most will not own up to it. If you look at the adverts there are plenty. It feels like the number of women is about 1000 to each man. So for women they do not have to be open and can be as choosy as they want. Geography is another factor to add to this. You have wait for a woman who might be interssted but lives usually within a 20 miles of you...generally we all want regular sex not one offs...
I find comments about going elsewhere, other sites, prostitutes etc distasteful - people cheating on relationships want fun and laughs and everything else that goes on on this site as well as sex. Lets live in the real world - cheating happens more often than monogamy!
I agree with others who have posted - I am 45 in a realtionship and want discrete no strings sex and some women find that better that single guys who may want more. So we have something to offer but there is no easy way to match up....just wait.
Any north west horny women reading this please contact me! Cheetah
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I'm changing sex Now - shall I have long blond hair? Shall I use Max Factor or Lancome - stockings or hold-ups? Ooohh decisions, decisions - I can't make up me mind
I can lend you my wig, Choon!
I would opt for Lancome make up - I'll come do it for you.
And most definitely stockings - with suspenders, not hold-ups or tights!
Quote by Cheetah
I am 45 in a realtionship and want discrete no strings sex and some women find that better that single guys who may want more.
why can't a guy in a relationship want more?
the way i see it a married and cheating guy is no safer than a single guy when it comes to not getting to attached, cheaters are obviously not happy in their relationship or they wouldn't cheat, that just common sence
so if they are not having a great sex life at home and have to look else where could they not fall for some woman they meet who is providing them with what they are lacking at home?just a thought
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I am 45 in a realtionship and want discrete no strings sex and some women find that better that single guys who may want more.
why can't a guy in a relationship want more?
the way i see it a married and cheating guy is no safer than a single guy when it comes to not getting to attached, cheaters are obviously not happy in their relationship or they wouldn't cheat, that just common sence
so if they are not having a great sex life at home and have to look else where could they not fall for some woman they meet who is providing them with what they are lacking at home?just a thought
I think the perception is that someone married and playing away would be content with illicit rendevoux without the emotional attachments. But we are all human - and no matter what the initial intentions are, there is always the risk of attachments developing and strong emotions coming into play. It is how people deal with their emotions which is critical when there are other innocent parties to consider. It is a case of having to compartmentalise your life and not let things stray for one box to another otherwise is it guaranteed that all parties will suffer.
One thing, I do wish we could stop using the phrase cheating on here though as it is such an emotive word.
Just my thoughts.....
Quote by naughtynymphos1
why can't a guy in a relationship want more?
Why would any guy want more ?? - silly question if you ask me
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the way i see it a married and cheating guy is no safer than a single guy when it comes to not getting to attached, cheaters are obviously not happy in their relationship or they wouldn't cheat, that just common sence :dunno: so if they are not having a great sex life at home and have to look else where could they not fall for some woman they meet who is providing them with what they are lacking at home?
just a thought
Not always true that a married guy isn't getting it/unhappy at home, some are just casanova's. If they are just after the "chase" and the "catch" then they are unlikely to fall for the woman as that is not their nature.
Quote by Phoenix
why can't a guy in a relationship want more?
Why would any guy want more ?? - silly question if you ask me
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
Quote by Alexandra
One thing, I do wish we could stop using the phrase cheating on here though as it is such an emotive word.
so what should we call it then? sorry i just call a spade a spade, dressing it up in fancy words don't make it not cheating
i'm not using the word in a bad way, what they do is upto them but they are cheating so what other word can you use? :dunno: Quote by naughtynymphos1
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
I don't find your questions silly (creep, creep, crawl, crawl, beg, beg)
A likewise statement from me, if a red blooded man (heterosexual, bi, or whatever) is faced with someone offering sex, chances are he will take it, single, married, attached or not.
The difference is a married/attached man may not go activeley looking for it.
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so what should we call it then? sorry i just call a spade a spade, dressing it up in fancy words don't make it not cheating
I do know what you are saying NN - it's just that it does have a way on here of triggering a lot of bad feeling towards people as we have seen time and time again.
Quote by Phoenix
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
I don't find your questions silly (creep, creep, crawl, crawl, beg, beg)
A likewise statement from me, if a red blooded man (heterosexual, bi, or whatever) is faced with someone offering sex, chances are he will take it, single, married, attached or not.
The difference is a married/attached man may not go activeley looking for it.
no need to creep, half the stuff that come out my gob is crap anyway i know that
:lol: Quote by Phoenix
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
I don't find your questions silly (creep, creep, crawl, crawl, beg, beg)
A likewise statement from me, if a red blooded man (heterosexual, bi, or whatever) is faced with someone offering sex, chances are he will take it, single, married, attached or not.
The difference is a married/attached man may not go activeley looking for it.
Ooop's forgot to add.
If the guy who gets offered sex and secumbs to natural urges, is he truely cheating or just weak willed.
The married/attacched guy who goes looking, is cheating to my way of thinking.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
why can't a guy in a relationship want more?
Why would any guy want more ?? - silly question if you ask me
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
Quote by Alexandra
One thing, I do wish we could stop using the phrase cheating on here though as it is such an emotive word.
so what should we call it then? sorry i just call a spade a spade, dressing it up in fancy words don't make it not cheating
i'm not using the word in a bad way, what they do is upto them but they are cheating so what other word can you use? :dunno:Gotta dip my toe in here NN.
I would summise that you swing? Correct? This is SH after all. At what point does swinging become cheating or, for that matter, cheating become swinging? A lot of guys on here are ' cheating' on their respective partner. That doesn't necesarily mean that they are unhappy or not getting enough at 'home', I can hardly keep up with 'she who must be obeyed' but I still get so much excitement out of meeting people through this site its untrue. I could start on the old 'man not monogomous gene' vs 'woman is monogomous gene' but won't I don't want to end up dead! (One day I will of course and then I might not be in the real world anymore)
I think this guy probably just wants some quick and easy sex and is frustrated that his first post wasn't answered within a nanosecond by 1000's of women throwing their knicks at him. Real world , we are all in the real world! There might be a 'not real' world but I'm sure I'm not ready to go there just yet.
Interesting post and even more interesting replies.
Oh welcome to SH newb
Quote by goodporking
why can't a guy in a relationship want more?
Why would any guy want more ?? - silly question if you ask me
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
Quote by Alexandra
One thing, I do wish we could stop using the phrase cheating on here though as it is such an emotive word.
so what should we call it then? sorry i just call a spade a spade, dressing it up in fancy words don't make it not cheating
i'm not using the word in a bad way, what they do is upto them but they are cheating so what other word can you use? :dunno:Gotta dip my toe in here NN.
I would summise that you swing? Correct? This is SH after all. At what point does swinging become cheating or, for that matter, cheating become swinging? A lot of guys on here are ' cheating' on their respective partner. That doesn't necesarily mean that they are unhappy or not getting enough at 'home', I can hardly keep up with 'she who must be obeyed' but I still get so much excitement out of meeting people through this site its untrue. I could start on the old 'man not monogomous gene' vs 'woman is monogomous gene' but won't I don't want to end up dead! (One day I will of course and then I might not be in the real world anymore)
I think this guy probably just wants some quick and easy sex and is frustrated that his first post wasn't answered within a nanosecond by 1000's of women throwing their knicks at him. Real world , we are all in the real world! There might be a 'not real' world but I'm sure I'm not ready to go there just yet.
Interesting post and even more interesting replies.
Oh welcome to SH newb
well i really don't want to get into the whole cheating thing but just to quickly answer your question, if you found out your partner was cheating on you how would you feel? if she stood there and told you she loved you and was happy with you even tho she advertised for sex on the internet and met others behind your back would you believe and be happy with that? i very much doubt it, i would imagine you would feel cheated and hurt, so if someone can go out and do such a thing knowing how hurt their partner would be if they found out how can they possabily care about them? ok i know we are all diffarent, and to be honest i have got to the point now where i just dan't care what others are doing, but thats just how i see it.
As for the whole swinging and cheating thing, i meet other for sex but my hubby always knows, as does he meet other, so to me theres no harm done there, everything is out in the open and i think thats the real diffarence.
but live and let live i have only said that as you asked :lol:
Quote by Phoenix
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
I don't find your questions silly (creep, creep, crawl, crawl, beg, beg)
A likewise statement from me, if a red blooded man (heterosexual, bi, or whatever) is faced with someone offering sex, chances are he will take it, single, married, attached or not.
The difference is a married/attached man may not go activeley looking for it.
Ooop's forgot to add.
If the guy who gets offered sex and secumbs to natural urges, is he truely cheating or just weak willed.
The married/attacched guy who goes looking, is cheating to my way of thinking.
Pheonix - I cannot see that there is any difference between actively looking and succombing to natural urges (I think that is a male cop-out!).
But I do not condemn anyone on here - nor will I make a comment on their actions unless they are illegal or against the site's AUP. Everyone is here for a reason - and that reason is their own. We are not here to judge others actions or reasons
This is exactly what I meant about mentioning the word cheating.
Quote by Alexandra
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
I don't find your questions silly (creep, creep, crawl, crawl, beg, beg)
A likewise statement from me, if a red blooded man (heterosexual, bi, or whatever) is faced with someone offering sex, chances are he will take it, single, married, attached or not.
The difference is a married/attached man may not go activeley looking for it.
Ooop's forgot to add.
If the guy who gets offered sex and secumbs to natural urges, is he truely cheating or just weak willed.
The married/attacched guy who goes looking, is cheating to my way of thinking.
Pheonix - I cannot see that there is any difference between actively looking and succombing to natural urges (I think that is a male cop-out!).
But I do not condemn anyone on here - nor will I make a comment on their actions unless they are illegal or against the site's AUP. Everyone is here for a reason - and that reason is their own. We are not here to judge others actions or reasons
This is exactly what I meant about mentioning the word cheating.
Yes I do agree, but if something is going to be given a "tag" it also needs definition and lines of demarkation.
Anyhow, I don't really like getting into these thye of discussions as they are too close to home.
Quote by Alexandra
it wasn't really a question it was more a statment.
he suggested single guy could 'want more' so i was just pointing out so could married one, sorry you find my 'question's' so silly :shock:
I don't find your questions silly (creep, creep, crawl, crawl, beg, beg)
A likewise statement from me, if a red blooded man (heterosexual, bi, or whatever) is faced with someone offering sex, chances are he will take it, single, married, attached or not.
The difference is a married/attached man may not go activeley looking for it.
Ooop's forgot to add.
If the guy who gets offered sex and secumbs to natural urges, is he truely cheating or just weak willed.
The married/attacched guy who goes looking, is cheating to my way of thinking.
Pheonix - I cannot see that there is any difference between actively looking and succombing to natural urges (I think that is a male cop-out!).
But I do not condemn anyone on here - nor will I make a comment on their actions unless they are illegal or against the site's AUP. Everyone is here for a reason - and that reason is their own. We are not here to judge others actions or reasons
This is exactly what I meant about mentioning the word cheating.
Lets be realistic - both men and women cheat - a person with a higher sex drive may be living with someone with a lesser sex drive and needs more. Sometimes its the excitement of having sex with another person that is a turn on. Sucumbing to natural urges is a cop out. Either you want sex for whatever reason or you don't. You either take advanatage of an opprortunity or seek them out. Good sex is really good for all of us. I just feel sorry for people wioth low / non existent sex drives who miss out on so much. Most cultures cannot openly handle people loving one or more persons and/or having sex with others. One person being totally happy with just one other rarely works - it's just not healthy is it !
I was called Blake 45 at first but changed to Cheetah partly to be more open and partly because I was sick of people having a go at me about cheating so its more of a statement. I don't like the word 'cheating' and agree with Alex but could not think of anything better. Strange though many women know some of us guys must cheat but some prefer not to know as it may put them off.
Cheetah
Quote by JudyTV
These secret married men are also probably less than sexually successful compared to the genuine single guys, this may be due to the fact that they cant socialise to the same extent as the rest of the SH community because its often difficult to justify their absence from wifey and the home or even fear of recognition at local social events.
A very good point, as always
, made by Judy there, i personally feel thats the biggest turn off of a married and cheating guy (sorry to those who don't like the word cheating but really can't think of another one) all they seem to want is a quick shag at yours and on their merry way, when i meet a guy i like to make night of it, go for a drink, maybe to a club, have a laugh and a chat, i feel it makes the whole sex experience with someone better if you know them enough to really like them, but all they seem to want is a quick meet while the wifes at work or in their lunch break to me thats not swinging its just sex and i can get a 1 on 1 with a guy anywhere you don't need to come on here for that 
Sex God
Quote by Cheetah
I was called Blake 45 at first but changed to Cheetah partly to be more open and partly because I was sick of people having a go at me about cheating so its more of a statement. I don't like the word 'cheating' and agree with Alex but could not think of anything better. Strange though many women know some of us guys must cheat but some prefer not to know as it may put them off.
Cheetah
Oh, I thought it was because Mark asked you which one you wanted to use when he checked and found that both usernames were you. After people had noticed a certain similarity in your posting styles/location/age etcetera.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
These secret married men are also probably less than sexually successful compared to the genuine single guys, this may be due to the fact that they cant socialise to the same extent as the rest of the SH community because its often difficult to justify their absence from wifey and the home or even fear of recognition at local social events.
A very good point, as always
, made by Judy there, i personally feel thats the biggest turn off of a married and cheating guy (sorry to those who don't like the word cheating but really can't think of another one) all they seem to want is a quick shag at yours and on their merry way, when i meet a guy i like to make night of it, go for a drink, maybe to a club, have a laugh and a chat, i feel it makes the whole sex experience with someone better if you know them enough to really like them, but all they seem to want is a quick meet while the wifes at work or in their lunch break to me thats not swinging its just sex and i can get a 1 on 1 with a guy anywhere you don't need to come on here for that Oh how different our experiences are!!
I have always found that it is the married men who take an interest in me as a person and the single guys that just want a quick shag. Alos its the married ones that remember that I too am married and dont get over involved
Quote by treasurechest
These secret married men are also probably less than sexually successful compared to the genuine single guys, this may be due to the fact that they cant socialise to the same extent as the rest of the SH community because its often difficult to justify their absence from wifey and the home or even fear of recognition at local social events.
A very good point, as always
, made by Judy there, i personally feel thats the biggest turn off of a married and cheating guy (sorry to those who don't like the word cheating but really can't think of another one) all they seem to want is a quick shag at yours and on their merry way, when i meet a guy i like to make night of it, go for a drink, maybe to a club, have a laugh and a chat, i feel it makes the whole sex experience with someone better if you know them enough to really like them, but all they seem to want is a quick meet while the wifes at work or in their lunch break to me thats not swinging its just sex and i can get a 1 on 1 with a guy anywhere you don't need to come on here for that Oh how different our experiences are!!
I have always found that it is the married men who take an interest in me as a person and the single guys that just want a quick shag. Alos its the married ones that remember that I too am married and dont get over involved
well i think it shands to reason not everyone is the same, but i doubt many married men could spend a night with you (by that i don't mean the lovely, sleeping over type night just a full night out), even when you go to clubs you can tell who are the married ones cause at 11pm theres a mad rush of single guys running for the door :lol: i have just found that all the guys who have contacted me looking for a couple of hours in the day time type of meets tend to be the married ones. Suppose it depends what your looking for being married yourself maybe thats all you are after, not knowing you i really don't know.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
These secret married men are also probably less than sexually successful compared to the genuine single guys, this may be due to the fact that they cant socialise to the same extent as the rest of the SH community because its often difficult to justify their absence from wifey and the home or even fear of recognition at local social events.
A very good point, as always
, made by Judy there, i personally feel thats the biggest turn off of a married and cheating guy (sorry to those who don't like the word cheating but really can't think of another one) all they seem to want is a quick shag at yours and on their merry way, when i meet a guy i like to make night of it, go for a drink, maybe to a club, have a laugh and a chat, i feel it makes the whole sex experience with someone better if you know them enough to really like them, but all they seem to want is a quick meet while the wifes at work or in their lunch break to me thats not swinging its just sex and i can get a 1 on 1 with a guy anywhere you don't need to come on here for that Oh how different our experiences are!!
I have always found that it is the married men who take an interest in me as a person and the single guys that just want a quick shag. Alos its the married ones that remember that I too am married and dont get over involved
well i think it shands to reason not everyone is the same, but i doubt many married men could spend a night with you (by that i don't mean the lovely, sleeping over type night just a full night out), even when you go to clubs you can tell who are the married ones cause at 11pm theres a mad rush of single guys running for the door :lol: i have just found that all the guys who have contacted me looking for a couple of hours in the day time type of meets tend to be the married ones. Suppose it depends what your looking for being married yourself maybe thats all you are after, not knowing you i really don't know.
NN just a word before you make a judgement on me, when i screw around I do so with my h/b's full knowledge and consent (not i dont use the word approval as that really dosnt come into it)
Clearly we have different wants. I dont want anyone to sleep over or to go to clubs with For the first , that is a time I share with my h/b alone and as for the second its not really my sceen for a number of reasons.
What I do enjoy is someone I can share time during the day with (My work hours are not conventional as most people who know me will confirm lol) and shagg senesless.
