thank you all for your replies

18 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
These secret married men are also probably less than sexually successful compared to the genuine single guys, this may be due to the fact that they cant socialise to the same extent as the rest of the SH community because its often difficult to justify their absence from wifey and the home or even fear of recognition at local social events.

A very good point, as always , made by Judy there, i personally feel thats the biggest turn off of a married and cheating guy (sorry to those who don't like the word cheating but really can't think of another one) all they seem to want is a quick shag at yours and on their merry way, when i meet a guy i like to make night of it, go for a drink, maybe to a club, have a laugh and a chat, i feel it makes the whole sex experience with someone better if you know them enough to really like them, but all they seem to want is a quick meet while the wifes at work or in their lunch break to me thats not swinging its just sex and i can get a 1 on 1 with a guy anywhere you don't need to come on here for that
Oh how different our experiences are!!
I have always found that it is the married men who take an interest in me as a person and the single guys that just want a quick shag. Alos its the married ones that remember that I too am married and dont get over involved
well i think it shands to reason not everyone is the same, but i doubt many married men could spend a night with you (by that i don't mean the lovely, sleeping over type night just a full night out), even when you go to clubs you can tell who are the married ones cause at 11pm theres a mad rush of single guys running for the door :lol: i have just found that all the guys who have contacted me looking for a couple of hours in the day time type of meets tend to be the married ones. Suppose it depends what your looking for being married yourself maybe thats all you are after, not knowing you i really don't know.
NN just a word before you make a judgement on me, when i screw around I do so with my h/b's full knowledge and consent (not i dont use the word approval as that really dosnt come into it)
Clearly we have different wants. I dont want anyone to sleep over or to go to clubs with For the first , that is a time I share with my h/b alone and as for the second its not really my sceen for a number of reasons.
What I do enjoy is someone I can share time during the day with (My work hours are not conventional as most people who know me will confirm lol) and shagg senesless.
As I said before I have always found that married men suit my needs and are in general far more cosniderate

18 Nov 2005

We all use this site for different reasons. This place would be so boring if we all wanted the same things.
Married or not, we all have needs and are using this site for a reason. Some are here for a quick shag, is that soooo wrong??? Just because some people have different ways of doing things, that doesn't make them a bad person.
I hope you do find what you are looking for on here.
Don't let negative responses put you off.
Good luck.
ddcpl x

19 Nov 2005

Quote by freckledbird

I was called Blake 45 at first but changed to Cheetah partly to be more open and partly because I was sick of people having a go at me about cheating so its more of a statement. I don't like the word 'cheating' and agree with Alex but could not think of anything better. Strange though many women know some of us guys must cheat but some prefer not to know as it may put them off.
Cheetah

Oh, I thought it was because Mark asked you which one you wanted to use when he checked and found that both usernames were you. After people had noticed a certain similarity in your posting styles/location/age etcetera.
Dear FB please dont pretend again you know whats happening - I created a new nick whilst winding up the previous one and telling people I had contact with at the time. You just cannot resist having a go - boring!

19 Nov 2005

Quote by Cheetah

I was called Blake 45 at first but changed to Cheetah partly to be more open and partly because I was sick of people having a go at me about cheating so its more of a statement. I don't like the word 'cheating' and agree with Alex but could not think of anything better. Strange though many women know some of us guys must cheat but some prefer not to know as it may put them off.
Cheetah

Oh, I thought it was because Mark asked you which one you wanted to use when he checked and found that both usernames were you. After people had noticed a certain similarity in your posting styles/location/age etcetera.
Dear FB please dont pretend again you know whats happening - I created a new nick whilst winding up the previous one and telling people I had contact with at the time. You just cannot resist having a go - boring!
Whatever. When other people want to change names though, they know that (up until the last couple of days) they can ask Mark to change it and they (more often than not) tell people on open forum about the change. Honestly. So that people know who they are. They don't usually run two accounts and have to be asked by the owner which one they want to keep. I won't look at this thread again. Honestly.

19 Nov 2005

We are really only talking about married individuals who come on the site looking for a sexual relationship without their partner having any knowledge of what they are doing. If I just use married men as an example:
Are married men apt to be more discreet because they have so much to lose, or does that fact that they have so much to lose mean if push comes to shove, they will reveal all, including your real name and mobile phone number.
Can married me be more relied on to get to meets, because they have so little chance and need to make the most of the opportunities they have, or are they less reliable because they have so many other calls on their time that they have to put first?
Is the fact that a married man is open about being married a mark of honesty, or a sign that if he is able to be dishonest with the person he has dedicated his life to, mean he can be dishonest with anybody?
Is the fact that a married man wants to keep his swinging well away from the rest of his life protect you from endless e-mails, text messages and phone calls, or does it turn swinging into a sordid secret which makes you feel dirty?
Is the fact that a married bloke is open and honest about cheating reassuring about his basic honest nature, or will that basic honest nature eventually cause him to confess all to his wife?
All of these questions are complete bollox - the answers are nothing to do with whether or not the bloke is married, but the type of person he is as an individual. Further, how you feel about the answers depends on the type of person you are as an individual.
For us, swinging with a married bloke whose partner does not know simply means we have to spend additional time before we can be sure that there is no risk to us in swinging with them, and that we will enjoy the experience.
And we are both busy people who choose not to do that, so any married man that requires a quick answer gets a flat "no"
lhk
Kat

19 Nov 2005

WOW ! what a can of worms this thread has opened lol

19 Nov 2005

Quote by bisto kid
WOW ! what a can of worms this thread has opened

Unfortunately it does it everytime!
Apart from the odd post (eg Judy's last one was excellent - and Kat's too) It gets so boring ......................