Would you accept me as a swinger, even though I am married and because the only reason is that I am not getting it at home. I only want to see your opinions please.
Also, do you think it is more discreet with a married man than a single guy?.
Please read my previous post "you are the experts"
Lastly, why do I feel comfortable conversing with people online who i have never met.
cheers
Bell
sorry, i am not really very good at this. perhaps i should stick to the sexless marriage
and let the real people play
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Thanx for your replies. You have got me thinking big time
Quote by BellOf course you would be accepted, to use your own football analogy, we may support different clubs, but we can still go to the same match, we just sit in different parts of the ground. Kit and I would never agree with your motives for being here, but that is to do with our personal views on why we swing. We have friends who do not swing, but do have affairs. We do not approve of what they do, but it does not make them any less our friends.
Would you accept me as a swinger, even though I am married and because the only reason is that I am not getting it at home. I only want to see your opinions please.
Quote by BellPossibly. Discretion, for us, is about people who can have a negative impact on our lives finding out we swing. Those who would use that information in a malicious or judgemental way. For example, an employer who might sack you. It is more complicated than worrying about whether a bloke would brag to his mates in the pub.
Also, do you think it is more discreet with a married man than a single guy?.
Quote by BellSee above, very few in here has an axe to grind, there are little or no hidden agendas and conflicts of interest. These are the things you may have if you discussed this with someone you knew.
Lastly, why do I feel comfortable conversing with people online who i have never met.
Don't look for quick answers, nobody here really has them. People in here know you now, relax and chat for a bit and see what happens.
lhk
Kat
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Yeah, I think you are right.
I suppose relaxing is the best option
I had another good talk with my wife and I am sort of seeing things which i presume are affecting her sexuality. we even discussed things such as wife swapping and swinging. She says that at some point in the future, she might like to try it. I am happy with that too. What we did agree on was that we have to sort out our own sex life first.
The upshot was, If I were to meet people by myself in a swinging scenario, then the marriage would deteriorate rapidly. I never said before, but most aspects of the marriage are great.
Once we have sorted out OUR own problem and we are comfortable with ourselves, Then maybe we might meet some of you wonderful and eminently sensible happy people out there.
I hope to become more involved with the forum, i think it is a great communication medium.
As some of you have pointed out, Communication is probably the best way for me to get things going .
Thanks millions to my new found friends
BELL XX speak soon
I suppose relaxing is the best option
I had another good talk with my wife and I am sort of seeing things which i presume are affecting her sexuality. we even discussed things such as wife swapping and swinging. She says that at some point in the future, she might like to try it. I am happy with that too. What we did agree on was that we have to sort out our own sex life first.
The upshot was, If I were to meet people by myself in a swinging scenario, then the marriage would deteriorate rapidly. I never said before, but most aspects of the marriage are great.
Once we have sorted out OUR own problem and we are comfortable with ourselves, Then maybe we might meet some of you wonderful and eminently sensible happy people out there.
I hope to become more involved with the forum, i think it is a great communication medium.
As some of you have pointed out, Communication is probably the best way for me to get things going .
Thanks millions to my new found friends
BELL XX speak soon
Hi Bell
Glad to see you are a bit more positive. As you have recognised, communication is the key word here and it is good that you have been able to chat to your wife about your problems. I think it is a bit early to be chatting about Wife Swapping or Swinging at this stage. As you said, you need to sort out your own problem first.
As Kit suggested you should just try to relax here and just get to know the people within the Forum .It is good that you are able to discuss problems with us even though we are strangers but to be honest it is probably because we are strangers you feel so comfortable. Any one of us could be stood next to you at the bar of your local pub and not know that you are Bell from the Forum. That anonymity means that you can be as open as you want without feeling embarrassed. It also helps that there is a good bunch of people here who are quite sincere and are very willing to help anyone on any subject if their assistance is requested.
Your problems are not going to disappear overnight so in the meantime join in and have a laugh in here with us. Don't worry about making a fool of yourself here because that is almost compulsory!!
Glad to see you are a bit more positive. As you have recognised, communication is the key word here and it is good that you have been able to chat to your wife about your problems. I think it is a bit early to be chatting about Wife Swapping or Swinging at this stage. As you said, you need to sort out your own problem first.
As Kit suggested you should just try to relax here and just get to know the people within the Forum .It is good that you are able to discuss problems with us even though we are strangers but to be honest it is probably because we are strangers you feel so comfortable. Any one of us could be stood next to you at the bar of your local pub and not know that you are Bell from the Forum. That anonymity means that you can be as open as you want without feeling embarrassed. It also helps that there is a good bunch of people here who are quite sincere and are very willing to help anyone on any subject if their assistance is requested.
Your problems are not going to disappear overnight so in the meantime join in and have a laugh in here with us. Don't worry about making a fool of yourself here because that is almost compulsory!!
I'm going to make myself very unpopular by saying that in my opinion, I wouldn't class you as a 'swinger'. To me, the term 'swinging' implies something done by couples, with other couples or perhaps sex with 2 or more consenting partners. You are a single looking for sexual activity outside your marriage. As your wife is not involved (and I'm not certain whether you've discussed this with her, so I tentatively say for now that she is non-consenting) I wouldn't say what you are looking for is swinging.
Note.... before everyone starts shouting at me: That's just my opinion, which is a little hypocritical since I am in exactly the same boat as you!!
But as Kat (or Kit?!) says, each to their own. I really hope things work out for you.
Sab :rose:
Note.... before everyone starts shouting at me: That's just my opinion, which is a little hypocritical since I am in exactly the same boat as you!!
But as Kat (or Kit?!) says, each to their own. I really hope things work out for you.
Sab :rose:
