I have a question for people - is there a rule on here about mentioning children?
I have read the AUP and it says no mentioning of - however we have had the "how old where you?" thread at least twice since I have been on here in which various people mention their underage exploits.
We have also had various people chatting about nearly being caught out by their kids or swinging with them in the same house etc. As well as various crude jokes involving kids doing or saying things.
The reason I ask is because a thread just disappeared after it was said that mentioning your 13 year old son was "distasteful"
Roger.
I asked for the thread to be removed as I didn't like what was implied. I posted about one of those embarrassing accidents that can happen to any parent, a child walking in and catching you in a compromising situation, simple as that. I was embarrassed, fortunately he didn't notice and that was that! How can that be construed as sinister, I don't know.
Why not simply PM the person involved - I am sure they had their reasons.
I certainly saw no suggestion of inappropriate behaviour in the deleted post.
You mean there are grown ups in here !! :shock:
I think it is one of those occasions that should not be the rule of the majority. Erring on the side of caution if you like.
There have probably been dozens of posts mentioning children - there have even entire strings discussing children, but I can't recall a post made in innocence ever being pulled like this. (lots that were obviously inappropriate though).
I think it is one of those areas where it is the effect on the reader that is more important than the intent of the poster - if there is a complaint received, let the moderators make their own judgement without questioning it. - Although the poster should always get an explanation.
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For the record my thread was removed at my request not because of any complaints about it. I have spoken to a moderator who found nothing wrong with the post but respected my wishes as I was upset at a reaction it received.
With all posts Common Sense should prevail. If someone finds a post offensive we will look at it and decide what the appropriate action is.
That can range from doing nothing, to deleting the post and banning the person that posted it.
In this case the poster requested it be removed as she had no wish to offend anyone and believed that it had been misunderstood by someone.
The Key words here are COMMON SENSE
It was MQs choice for it to be removed.. not because it was offensive. Kids are going to come up inconversation on the board.. we chat about our lives and a lot of peeps on here are parents :shock: (not that parents ever have sex.. well mine didn't anyway) I think the ' ' rule is basically for referring to underage people in a sexual way that others will most definately find offensive.
I too saw nothing sinister in MQ's post.
There is one thing though that I think we ought to bear in mind. That is with the powerful search engines around these days and with the paranoia associated with the subject it is very easy for the site to be picked out on a content search and then (unfairly) criticised by pernicious elements that are either out to cause trouble or are just too lazy to check that it isn't sinister.
This is close to paranoia itself I'll admit and possibly a counsel of over-caution but I just don't think it is worth the risk.
I agree that MQ's post read as totally innocent.
We all have the potential to be caught in situations that we would rather have avoided but they can be very funny in retrospect. We still cringe at the text arranging a meeting that went to our daughter's phone by mistake - fortunately it was not incriminating but that was just lucky- and we tell the story to our swinging friends as a funny anecdote, just as MQ did here.
A thread deliberately discussing under-age sex is another matter entirely. As the sarge says, common sense should be the guide.
Its not just a matter of common sense its a matter of context.
Talking about your kids is ok (should you wish to bore us with details about your snot nosed brats).
Talking about compromising positions your kids found you in is ok (should you wish to embaris yourself all over again infront of this audience)
Talking about things you did AS A KID is ok, cos your not a kid anymore, and it can hardly be wrong if you were a kid at the time.
....examples go on and on...
Talking about things you would like to do with a kid is a dodgy area, and you should be careful of the context... going to Brighton is ok... some other things are not.
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