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The cost of swinging

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Do you ever feel put off by the cost of swinging?
When I recently met a guy from here, my expenses went through the roof. Here's a breakdown of where the money was spent/invested:
- get nail extensions
- get pedicure
- buy sexy knickers
- put petrol in car (well if you don't go anywhere, you don't need to fill up, do you?)
- buy condoms
- pay babysitter
- get special meal for babysitter (...)
- buy outfit for going out
Considering my lack of sexual activity in the past *cough number* years and my eagerness to redress that, I calculated that the cost of swinging would soon put me out in the streets. Fortunately, the gentleman offered to help with half the babysitting costs but in the end that proved too much for him, too, and he fled for greener pastures where the maids have heaps of money and no kids.
I am not quite sure what to do now.
> Give up?
> Date men who don't care about what a woman looks like as long as she can service their needs?
> Persevere and hope to find a man who can pace himself up and is not fazed by details?
What do you guys do? I expect some of you already have established networks of FBs or grown-up kids that can be left on their own, but if not, how is the cost of swinging affecting you? This a question for both male and female members.
addressing the childcare issue ... tongue in cheek .... get an ex so that you dont have to pay for them going to a sitter its what we do lol just helps with the cost a little
There is no ex unfortunately... just a dad who will not see his daughter nor take any responsibility for her sad
another thought is ... grandparents ... can even get away with sending them away for weeks at a time in the school hols lol esp if they live a distance away
a more serious note is that if your child/children are not too young then using neighbours teenagers is cheaper than using more adult sitters and they have the benefit of being able to call on their own parents if there is a small problem
I reckon a munch weekend is about £150 to £200 all in!
Petrol
Pre munch drinks
Drinks
Food
Hotel
Clothes / shoes etc extra on top of that.
The munches of 2005 cost me a fortune as there was nearly one per month or social most weekends and they just had to be attended!! :giggle:
Quote by Tania
...... but in the end that proved too much for him, too, and he fled for greener pastures where the maids have heaps of money and no kids.

Can you ask him to send me directions, it sounds like a great place innocent
bolt
I would always like to look clean neat and tidy when I had meets, but never got nails done for the occasion.
I dont own a skirt or dress, I said what I am in my profile, and I have never felt the need from the guys I have met to have me any other way from what I am.
I have always found the guys that like you and want to share time with you is because of your mind and not the outer cover.
Good luck in what you decide to do.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have always found the guys that like you and want to share time with you is because of your mind and not the outer cover.

The contents of the outer cover do have a certain influence in the time spending equation though :mrgreen:
No relatives in this country so sending kid off to another country is not an option, I am afraid, especially as airlines won't take unaccompanied minors under a certain age.
Teenagers in neighbourhood... only boys and believe me, you wouldn't want to trust a young child with them!
But great ideas if my situation had been a bit different :thumbup:
As for looking good, I find when I make an effort with my appearance, it makes me feel more confident. When I feel confident, I become sexy and attractive. I think men like women to be well turned out, same as we like them to be clean and presentable. Or am I wrong?
Meat2pleaseu (omg, just realised what your nick says... I always read it 'meet' lol ) I don't know where the land of milk and honey is but I am sure if he ever finds it, he will signal like a bee.
I like munches, it is a no pressure environment where you can meet people you would have perhaps discounted by an awkwardly written profile or a bad photograph and be mesmerised by their personality. I had fun at a munch in 2006 where I met Sarah and other lovely members.
Can't help feeling a bit frustrated... need the sexual excitement in my life, mustrealise some of my fantasies whilst I am still able to and to do this I need a regular swinging partner with a can-do attitude.
Hmm, maybe my bank would approve a swinging loan? Though it would make much more sense for the NHS to pick up the bill - after all sexual happiness equals stronger defences, therefore less sick days and medicines! I'd be doing thema favour!! :lol:
Quote by Tania
- get nail extensions - never had them and would only get them done for myself, not for a man.
- get pedicure - As above
- buy sexy knickers - I only ever buy sexy knickers and I want them, wouldn't buy them just for a meet.I could probably just use a pair I already have, the mans not going to know if I've worn them once or twice before, as long as I've washed them in between :lol2:
- put petrol in car (well if you don't go anywhere, you don't need to fill up, do you?) - fair enough but just try to make it a local meet
- buy condoms - Get the free ones from the clinic
- pay babysitter - fair enough
- get special meal for babysitter (...) - nope, they come after tea or they would have whatever I was making. Something cheap like pasta which is easy.
- buy outfit for going out - Nope, would never bother. I am most comfortable in my jeans so whats what I would go to a meet in. A person is playing with me, not my clothes (I hope) and I want to feel as relaxed as possible.

Not so bad my way is it dunno
Quote by Dawnie

- get nail extensions - never had them and would only get them done for myself, not for a man.
- get pedicure - As above
- buy sexy knickers - I only ever buy sexy knickers and I want them, wouldn't buy them just for a meet.I could probably just use a pair I already have, the mans not going to know if I've worn them once or twice before, as long as I've washed them in between :lol2:
- put petrol in car (well if you don't go anywhere, you don't need to fill up, do you?) - fair enough but just try to make it a local meet
- buy condoms - Get the free ones from the clinic
- pay babysitter - fair enough
- get special meal for babysitter (...) - nope, they come after tea or they would have whatever I was making. Something cheap like pasta which is easy.
- buy outfit for going out - Nope, would never bother. I am most comfortable in my jeans so whats what I would go to a meet in. A person is playing with me, not my clothes (I hope) and I want to feel as relaxed as possible.

Not so bad my way is it dunno
Dawnie that was all I was trying to say! :thumbup:
I don't feel and never felt any less sexy because of it, as that sexy bit for me is in the mind and they have shown for them too.
Quote by meat2pleaseu

I have always found the guys that like you and want to share time with you is because of your mind and not the outer cover.

The contents of the outer cover do have a certain influence in the time spending equation though :mrgreen:
Of course, but if you are clean neat and tidy, and you have taken time and effort in presenting yourself in that manner come first?
Or do men like to think women have gone the extra cost of just getting all done just for them, like having your nails done hair re styled, toes done at a cost to the woman.
Does it really make such a difference?
Quote by Dawnie

- get nail extensions - never had them and would only get them done for myself, not for a man.
- get pedicure - As above
- buy sexy knickers - I only ever buy sexy knickers and I want them, wouldn't buy them just for a meet.I could probably just use a pair I already have, the mans not going to know if I've worn them once or twice before, as long as I've washed them in between :lol2:
- put petrol in car (well if you don't go anywhere, you don't need to fill up, do you?) - fair enough but just try to make it a local meet
- buy condoms - Get the free ones from the clinic Clinics don't provide latex-free condoms
- pay babysitter - fair enough
- get special meal for babysitter (...) - nope, they come after tea or they would have whatever I was making. Something cheap like pasta which is easy. My babysitter is a vegetarian and to be honest I don't want to spend my pre-meet time cooking.
- buy outfit for going out - Nope, would never bother. I am most comfortable in my jeans so whats what I would go to a meet in. A person is playing with me, not my clothes (I hope) and I want to feel as relaxed as possible. As a full time lone parent, clothes were the last thing in my mind so it was good to have an excuse to buy something new and pretty.

Not so bad my way is it dunnoNo, it is not bad at all :smile2: I wish I had your confidence in life! But who knows, maybe that will change in the near future if I meet a man who will look past appearances. :swingingchair:
Quote by Dawnie
- buy sexy knickers - I only ever buy sexy knickers and I want them, wouldn't buy them just for a meet.I could probably just use a pair I already have, the mans not going to know if I've worn them once or twice before, as long as I've washed them in between :lol2:

OMG you so don't ever need to buy new knickers Dawnie surely!!! How many pairs do you have now?
bolt
Quote by Calista
OMG you so don't ever need to buy new knickers Dawnie surely!!! How many pairs do you have now?
bolt

I brought four pairs of knickers yesterday redface
Well, I was feeling a bit under pressure and shopping helps :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:
Quote by Calista

- buy sexy knickers - I only ever buy sexy knickers and I want them, wouldn't buy them just for a meet.I could probably just use a pair I already have, the mans not going to know if I've worn them once or twice before, as long as I've washed them in between :lol2:

OMG you so don't ever need to buy new knickers Dawnie surely!!! How many pairs do you have now?
bolt
I've heard she's donated quite a few pairs to Oxfam to use as emergency tents
:bolt:
OMG Meaty rotflmao I so hope your bolt can carry you a long way!
Where's the RIP emoticon?
wave Hi Calista, how's Morbius?
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Guys, behave, please! Let's not turn this thread into ... pants! lol
We'll have to wait till the evening when more people will be online to hear more views on the cost of swinging and how it affects different people.
Quote by Calista
OMG Meaty rotflmao I so hope your bolt can carry you a long way!
Where's the RIP emoticon?

I've got a cunning plan wink
If i run away from Dawnie and towards Sassy and step to one side at just the right moment, they'll colide into each other in a big pile of ladyfun. I can sit down, catch my breath and watch the action and Dawnie will have yet another reason to protest her straightness :haha:
Quote by Tania
wave Hi Calista, how's Morbius?
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Guys, behave, please! Let's not turn this thread into ... pants! lol
We'll have to wait till the evening when more people will be online to hear more views on the cost of swinging and how it affects different people.

We're both fine thanks Tania smile
We gave up swinging socialising due to costs and struggles with sitters so it definitely isn't just the territory of single parents.
I do go with the take me as you find me type thinking though. Clothes will end up on the floor in no time!
Glad to hear you guys are fine but sorry to hear you have given up on the swinging. Still you guys are young and your kids won't be small forever, so surely in the future you'll be able to have more naughty fun smile
Quote by meat2pleaseu
OMG Meaty rotflmao I so hope your bolt can carry you a long way!
Where's the RIP emoticon?

I've got a cunning plan wink
If i run away from Dawnie and towards Sassy and step to one side at just the right moment, they'll colide into each other in a big pile of ladyfun. I can sit down, catch my breath and watch the action and Dawnie will have yet another reason to protest her straightness :haha:
Ok I've got over my choking fit thinking about Dawnie's alleged "straightness" she's still gonna kill you though ..
fetches popcorn!
Quote by Calista
OMG Meaty rotflmao I so hope your bolt can carry you a long way!
Where's the RIP emoticon?

I've got a cunning plan wink
If i run away from Dawnie and towards Sassy and step to one side at just the right moment, they'll colide into each other in a big pile of ladyfun. I can sit down, catch my breath and watch the action and Dawnie will have yet another reason to protest her straightness :haha:
Ok I've got over my choking fit thinking about Dawnie's alleged "straightness" she's still gonna kill you though ..
fetches popcorn!
But I am straight ffs!
Meaty I was going to offer you a shag in your pms to test to see if you still have vanishing pms but you can piss off now flipa
Thin ice big fella, very thin ice mad:x:x
Quote by Dawnie
Meaty I was going to offer you a shag in your pms to test to see if you still have vanishing pms but you can piss off now flipa
Thin ice big fella, very thin ice mad:x:x

PM's are fixed and it's too sunny for ice, feel free to test it anyway :rascal:
kiss
Quote by meat2pleaseu
PM's are fixed and it's too sunny for ice, feel free to test it anyway :rascal:
kiss

How daft do you think I am???
I can just imagine Sassy jumping out the wardrobe shouting 'SURPRISE' half way through one of your thrusts :eeek:
bolt
Quote by Dawnie
PM's are fixed and it's too sunny for ice, feel free to test it anyway :rascal:
kiss

How daft do you think I am???
I can just imagine Sassy jumping out the wardrobe shouting 'SURPRISE' half way through one of your thrusts :eeek:
bolt
Just invite me round then :haha:
Quote by Calista
OMG Meaty rotflmao I so hope your bolt can carry you a long way!
Where's the RIP emoticon?

I've got a cunning plan wink
If i run away from Dawnie and towards Sassy and step to one side at just the right moment, they'll colide into each other in a big pile of ladyfun. I can sit down, catch my breath and watch the action and Dawnie will have yet another reason to protest her straightness :haha:
Ok I've got over my choking fit thinking about Dawnie's alleged "straightness" she's still gonna kill you though ..
fetches popcorn!
Budge up~~ sits next to Cali and waits...........
Staggerlee's childcare....
Lesson 1
Explain to the child/children that you're going to play a new game called Terry Waite ,chain child/children to radiator...leave
It's free and fun for all
Quote by Dawnie
PM's are fixed and it's too sunny for ice, feel free to test it anyway :rascal:
kiss

How daft do you think I am???
I can just imagine Sassy jumping out the wardrobe shouting 'SURPRISE' half way through one of your thrusts :eeek:
bolt
Damn! Foiled again :giggle: