Sexy fun with someone/others who you're not in a relationship with. All done with mutual consent and respect for boundaries and limitations.
Psssst - it's definitive!
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swinging to me, is a meeting of people who enjoy good conversation, socialising and safe, sexual pleasure with others without any commitment or judgement.
think thats right?
think thats right?
I personally have no idea what makes you a swinger 
i dont like the phrase and would be more than happy not to be classed as one :lol:
I always wondered if it was because you use the internet for sex, if your a single meeting a single off here that makes you a swinger but if you pick someone up in pub it don't?
I'll be keeping my eye on this thread tho because it'll be interesting to read peoples views
i dont like the phrase and would be more than happy not to be classed as one :lol:I always wondered if it was because you use the internet for sex, if your a single meeting a single off here that makes you a swinger but if you pick someone up in pub it don't?
I'll be keeping my eye on this thread tho because it'll be interesting to read peoples views
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Quote by flower411
Sexy fun with someone/others who you're not in a relationship with. All done with mutual consent and respect for boundaries and limitations.
Psssst - it's definitive!
psst I know
I wanted to make sure that you could join in !! 
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:Bloody liar!
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
Sexy fun with someone/others who you're not in a relationship with. All done with mutual consent and respect for boundaries and limitations.
Ooooh, I like that FB. Very inclusive! This is something I have struggled with in the past actually, as being a single on the site often I feel somewhat of a fraud to actually label myself a swinger. I guess I am guilty of equating swinging with 'wife swapping' or other couple-centric terms... even though I know that is waaaay too limiting in terms of what goes on.
I'm waffling, I'll shut up.
But I do like that definition!Nola x
Sex God
Quote by flower411
So, the question is.....
What IS swinging ?
Dont know but I'll let you know when Ive swung, swang swinged???...plucked up courage
You need to be married and willing to commit organised adultery.
Singles are free to do what they want. Unmarried partners are not commiting adultery.
Where people are in a relationship and assume the roles and values of married people, they may entertain the idea that they are swinging, but really they are just having organised sex, which they are already at liberty to do so. It involves all the same mechanisms, but is without the 'commitment'.
Singles are free to do what they want. Unmarried partners are not commiting adultery.
Where people are in a relationship and assume the roles and values of married people, they may entertain the idea that they are swinging, but really they are just having organised sex, which they are already at liberty to do so. It involves all the same mechanisms, but is without the 'commitment'.
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
You need to be married and willing to commit organised adultery.
Singles are free to do what they want. Unmarried partners are not commiting adultery.
Where people are in a relationship and assume the roles and values of married people, they may entertain the idea that they are swinging, but really they are just having organised sex, which they are already at liberty to do so. It involves all the same mechanisms, but is without the 'commitment'.
I think that anyone who is in a relationship where they assume the roles and values of married people, would definitely argue that there is commitment.
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
You need to be married and willing to commit organised adultery.
Singles are free to do what they want. Unmarried partners are not commiting adultery.
Where people are in a relationship and assume the roles and values of married people, they may entertain the idea that they are swinging, but really they are just having organised sex, which they are already at liberty to do so. It involves all the same mechanisms, but is without the 'commitment'.
I think that anyone who is in a relationship where they assume the roles and values of married people, would definitely argue that there is commitment.
I agree. You don't have to marry someone to betray them, so the commitment is as real as if the little bit of paper had been signed already.
So partners who aren't married can swing.
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
I agree with you both. Any relationship is based on some kind of commitment. But you need to be married to commmit adultery. Which I think is at the heart of swinging.
I don't agree with you. I don't feel that swinging is purely 'committing adultery with permission' - well it is for some, who are in the right situation for that to be true. But I don't feel that is THE definition.
It is many things to many people. But I think there are two elements that make swinging different from 'sex with other people'. It often involves more organisation than picking someone up or shagging your best friend cos you are both up for it, and (within the swinging community) there is a lot of openess among the group that sex is an inherent part of the social scene, not a hoped-for addition if we play our cards right.
Because of those factors, I feel that single people can swing just as well as couples.
***These are my opinions and not intended as a factual statement or to imply others are wrong in their opinions.***
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Cambridge Online Dictionary gives this definition of adultery:
'sex between a married man or woman and someone who is not their wife or husband'
So, strictly speaking you are correct Duncan. However, I think the word has negative connotations - in the swinging world, though, consensual adultery is the norm, wouldn't you agree?
'sex between a married man or woman and someone who is not their wife or husband'
So, strictly speaking you are correct Duncan. However, I think the word has negative connotations - in the swinging world, though, consensual adultery is the norm, wouldn't you agree?
I think Foxylady's theory is prevalent because we have a much more visible sex scene now then in previous decades. With such a multi dimensional scene its easier to apply a variety of labels to as many varieties of people. Its equally irrelevent as well, as in most cases labels aren't required. Which equally means there is no requirement for a definition.
But looking back to the origins and the characteristic 'wife swapping' tags etc. It was rooted in organised adultery.
But looking back to the origins and the characteristic 'wife swapping' tags etc. It was rooted in organised adultery.
Quote by Freckledbird
Cambridge Online Dictionary gives this definition of adultery:
'sex between a married man or woman and someone who is not their wife or husband'
So, strictly speaking you are correct Duncan. However, I think the word has negative connotations - in the swinging world, though, consensual adultery is the norm, wouldn't you agree?
Ooh errr miss. Its gone to dictionaries, gulp (trying to find an emoticon with beads of sweat)....
I'm not sure if consensual is any different to bog standard adultery. Or is it just a way to take the edge off the word. And yes the word is not popular. But its where I draw a line to make my definition.
