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The difference between a buddy and a boyfriend/girlfriend?

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When embarking on any new relationship it can be a bit fuzzy as to what the difference is or expectations.
I'm at a bit of a quandry myself at the moment and was hoping that you might be able to lead me to a decision or at least confirm the one I just made lol.
So... for you, what is the difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend that you swing with and a buddy? This is especially in the case of a new association.
I don't think there has to be a difference, as long as what is going on works for all thats involved, then labels or definitions don't really come into it.
Some clarification on this would be helpful to me too.
I've been indirectly accused of splitting up a couple on here, even though both of their profiles said they were single and implied they were looking? confused
How the feck are you supposed to know when profiles say that? rolleyes
Okay let me give this a gentle nudge as it seems to be an area that isn't getting much of a response.
I think it is about 'expectation'. I personally expect far more from a boyfriend than I do from a buddy.
A buddy is someone I enjoy being with, I can rely on and trust to be there for me as I would be for them. We are able to communicate and try to consider each others feelings while we are together, but... when we are apart I do not have to consult them in what I am doing, or be more of a friend than any other friend they may have.
A boyfriend is someone I want to spend time with, care about, may be fall in love with. I want them to be my soul mate and talk to them about every aspect of my life. I want us to communicate on all levels and be there through good and bad times, supporting each other.
With both I expect honesty and I need to be able to trust them.
So... are my perceptions wrong? Or am I roughly thinking in the same way as most?
For me it is simple:
A f*ck buddy is someone I have no-emotional-ties sex with. Frequently. We may occasionally choose to play as a pair. It is all about the sex. Yes, we are friends but no more than that.
A boyfriend would be someone I was emotionally intimate with as well as physically. If we were swingers, then we would swing together. But we would be emotionally involved on so very many more levels than a f*ck buddy.
Just my take.
Nola x
You mean it costs a fiver?
Bf/Gf i would consider there to be a more in depth mental relationship as a Fwb friend just more like a very good friend with benefits.
Mr S
You're less likely to fart in front of your FB wink
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Not sure how much it costs, but a name change is
Also, I think it rsets your membership, meaning if you had a free lifetime, you've now lost it.
I could be wrong, but going on the message after a change, it's how it looks.

Only your status changes. It doesn't reset your membership at all :smile:
In edit: if you change to a couple, you have two personal details boxes appear. If you change from couple to single - you get only one. Your icons in chat also change.
These are the only parts of your account that change whatsoever.
I have a fwb who I meet regularly, am very fond of and care a lot about. We're good friends too and discuss everything but we both understand what our relationship is, ie swinging partners with amazing sex!
A boyfriend is someone who I could spend more time with, maybe fall in love with and have a monogamous relationship with. We may even swing together but there are more ground rules when swinging with a partner than an fwb as you're more emotionally invloved.
So far you have answered the way I expected, so at the moment I feel I have made the correct decision.
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Some clarification on this would be helpful to me too.
I've been indirectly accused of splitting up a couple on here, even though both of their profiles said they were single and implied they were looking? confused
How the feck are you supposed to know when profiles say that? rolleyes

Buddy, no emotional involvement, BF/GF emotionally involved and talk about what you want from life and the future?
I wouldn't give too much creedence to status in profiles, you can't easily change them.
Yeah you can lol
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You're less likely to fart in front of your FB wink

People often fart in front of me! lol
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When embarking on any new relationship it can be a bit fuzzy as to what the difference is or expectations.
I'm at a bit of a quandry myself at the moment and was hoping that you might be able to lead me to a decision or at least confirm the one I just made lol.
So... for you, what is the difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend that you swing with and a buddy? This is especially in the case of a new association.

for me the diffarence is if they are a boyfriend i'd tell them everything i did, who i was meeting and would never consider meeting anyone without them being ok with it, a fuck buddy is just that someone i fuck i have no reson to tell them what else i get upto and i don't feel i need to know what they do when not with me either
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You're less likely to fart in front of your FB wink

People often fart in front of me! lol
Noted :P
Well as this is aimed at me I suppose I better answer eh!
My profile did say that I wasn't meeting anyone, and in the BBW Room where you started talking to us both you were aware that we were a couple were you not....??
You even addressed us as such on some occasions stating that we were like "an old married couple"
I'm not saying that he wasn't totally blameless but you were FULLY aware that we were a couple at the time, and as such should have respected that.
I don't wish to get into a slanging match on here so feel free to use my inbox!
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Some clarification on this would be helpful to me too.
I've been indirectly accused of splitting up a couple on here, even though both of their profiles said they were single and implied they were looking? confused
How the feck are you supposed to know when profiles say that? rolleyes

Buddy, no emotional involvement, BF/GF emotionally involved and talk about what you want from life and the future?
I wouldn't give too much creedence to status in profiles, you can't easily change them.
Yeah you can lol
If this was to me, I am single now...but wasn't until not so long ago which is why my profile now reflects this.
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Well as this is aimed at me I suppose I better answer eh!
My profile did say that I wasn't meeting anyone, and in the BBW Room where you started talking to us both you were aware that we were a couple were you not....??
You even addressed us as such on some occasions stating that we were like "an old married couple"
I don't wish to get into a slanging match on here so feel free to use my inbox!
Some clarification on this would be helpful to me too.
I've been indirectly accused of splitting up a couple on here, even though both of their profiles said they were single and implied they were looking? confused
How the feck are you supposed to know when profiles say that? rolleyes

Buddy, no emotional involvement, BF/GF emotionally involved and talk about what you want from life and the future?
I wouldn't give too much creedence to status in profiles, you can't easily change them.
Yeah you can lol
Now now girls, but for some reason I was under the impression you are single?