When embarking on any new relationship it can be a bit fuzzy as to what the difference is or expectations.
I'm at a bit of a quandry myself at the moment and was hoping that you might be able to lead me to a decision or at least confirm the one I just made lol.
So... for you, what is the difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend that you swing with and a buddy? This is especially in the case of a new association.
I don't think there has to be a difference, as long as what is going on works for all thats involved, then labels or definitions don't really come into it.
Okay let me give this a gentle nudge as it seems to be an area that isn't getting much of a response.
I think it is about 'expectation'. I personally expect far more from a boyfriend than I do from a buddy.
A buddy is someone I enjoy being with, I can rely on and trust to be there for me as I would be for them. We are able to communicate and try to consider each others feelings while we are together, but... when we are apart I do not have to consult them in what I am doing, or be more of a friend than any other friend they may have.
A boyfriend is someone I want to spend time with, care about, may be fall in love with. I want them to be my soul mate and talk to them about every aspect of my life. I want us to communicate on all levels and be there through good and bad times, supporting each other.
With both I expect honesty and I need to be able to trust them.
So... are my perceptions wrong? Or am I roughly thinking in the same way as most?
For me it is simple:
A f*ck buddy is someone I have no-emotional-ties sex with. Frequently. We may occasionally choose to play as a pair. It is all about the sex. Yes, we are friends but no more than that.
A boyfriend would be someone I was emotionally intimate with as well as physically. If we were swingers, then we would swing together. But we would be emotionally involved on so very many more levels than a f*ck buddy.
Just my take.
Nola x
You mean it costs a fiver?
Bf/Gf i would consider there to be a more in depth mental relationship as a Fwb friend just more like a very good friend with benefits.
Mr S
I have a fwb who I meet regularly, am very fond of and care a lot about. We're good friends too and discuss everything but we both understand what our relationship is, ie swinging partners with amazing sex!
A boyfriend is someone who I could spend more time with, maybe fall in love with and have a monogamous relationship with. We may even swing together but there are more ground rules when swinging with a partner than an fwb as you're more emotionally invloved.
So far you have answered the way I expected, so at the moment I feel I have made the correct decision.
