The local scene, your mail, and Munch's

20 Feb 2010

It was the "Why do people not answer mail" thread that made me think about this.
When you go to a munch or social have you like me noticed that theres going to be quite a few people there who's profiles are familiar. In fact a mix of people who have either mailed us and we have not answered or that we have mailed and they have not answered us. There have even been a few where we have swapped pm's down to the nearly ready to meet up stage then they do the vanishing act. So now theres a chance at the munch/social you may bump into theses people find out their names and ohh is there an awkwardness?
We seem to have escaped this so far as we have normally been with a bunch of people already and not mingled much. Has anyone though had a comment made at them about a non answered mail? Or perhaps you have met someone whos mail you did not answer or they did not answer yours but then you ended up having a right good bunk up?
This is one of the reasons we really dont search the ads anymore. We are way to particular with ads, it seems better just to meet a bunch of people and see which ones you like.

20 Feb 2010

I can't say I've been in this situation.
Occasionally at Munches/Socials I meet people who I have chatted with in chat and I usually go away with a better impression of them - but then I'm rubbish with the dynamics and politics of the chatroom. It certainly makes me interact with people differently once I've met them.
Erm... I think I just waffled a bit. redface

20 Feb 2010

Generally ...only saying generally..people who attend munches and socials are likely to be people who genuinely want to involve themselves in the SH social scene, and are less likely to be the sort that do vanishing acts, or muck people about, or other sorts of what goes under the general heading of "timewasting".
I have had minor disagreements with people on these forums, but have never had a problem when facing the person concerned at a munch. People who can sometimes be a bit prickly at times on the forums tend to be less so face-to-face, I have found. And if there is someone you really do want to avoid at a munch, it's easy to do so, and they probably want to avoid you too. People go to munches to seek out the people they WANT to meet, not those they DON'T want to.

20 Feb 2010

The dynamics of a meet are very different from exchange of mail. You can get caught out by putting pen to paper, so I can understand why some people pull out last minute. But there again, you can make horible mistakes if you meet folk and say the wrong things due to being nervous!
Plim dunno

20 Feb 2010

Quote by MikeNorth
People who can sometimes be a bit prickly at times on the forums tend to be less so face-to-face, I have found.

I think you just described me there lol

Ive been told I am too officious, Ive even been pulled into the office about it at work. My head of department once said to me "Your a really nice guy and everyone likes you but your emails are about as pleasant as a demand from the tax office.