I lost my dear dad a year ago today and still can't quite believe he's gone. I miss him terribly but I think it'll really hit home at my graduation ceremony in October. My dad always said I was 'University material' but I fell pregnant at 17 and spent the next 25 years struggling in minimum wage jobs.
In 2005 my dad was diagnosed with prostate and bone cancer - he'd had the symptoms for a while but because of embarrassment, he left it too late for any chance fo a cure. Prolonging his life for as long as possible was the best the doctors could do. I jacked in my job as a shop assistant and went to college in the hope my dad would live long enough to see me get to University.
He died on May 23rd 2008 at the end of my 2nd year at Uni. I've now just completed my degree and although my dad never lived long enough to see me wear the silly hat and gown, at least he was around to see me through to my third year.
Just thought I'd post this in memory of my dad, who I miss every single day. Also to give other people the opportunity to take a little time out to remember those they loved and lost.
Sugar xx
I am sure he is looking down on you, and he knows how well you have done.
What an inspiring thread. You know in your heart that your Dad would of been very proud of you even if he cannot be there to tell you himself.
Congratulations on getting your degree and I'm sure he was always proud of you.
My dad died 8yrs ago and I still miss him so much.. I also lost my younger brother 6yrs ago (35yrs)and next week is the 2nd anniversary for my younger sister (44yrs) and theres not a day goes by that I dont miss them.
I can't find the words to express myself, typed four times and nothing is right. So all I'll say is - -
I'm sure your dad would (is) be very very proud, well done you!!
Sugar, I bet your Dad was immensely proud when you started to uni.
He'll be with you on your graduation day and every time you see your certificate, think of him smiling at you.
Nola x
Some bitter-sweet memories there woohoo. You're right about your nephew - what a heartless prick!
It's so nice to be able to remember those we love with a smile on our faces though isn't it. My dad was an ex matelot and always had the whole family in fits of laughter with tales of his antics around the world. I should write the ones I remember down really or they'll be lost forever.
Losing a loved one is one of the saddest of experiences but one that ties us together as human beings. How nice it is to share emotions with you guys. Thanks for sharing your experiences too.
I'd also like to mention my dear son Alex who would have been 23 this June 8th - I wish we could have had more time together xx
Newphew James, who died in 2007 aged 20 xx
Niece Felicity (18) - don't let Alex & James boss you about up there sweetheart! xx
And lastly my best friend's daughter, Alison who lost her battle with cancer in 2007 aged 24. I'd known her since she was 2 and she was like a niece to me xx
All terribly missed xxx
I miss two little boys I never got the chance to build memories with.
xxx
Good thread Sugar :thumbup:
my baby Aimee Lousie, born asleep at just 14 weeks.....the 14 hours labout was worth the few seconds to gaze upon your beautiful sleeping face.
and my 'would have been' big sister Beverley, who died during her journey into this world......and sadly found to be anencephalic.
and of course my dear dad, died from mrsa age 53....never a day goes by when i dont think of him and smile
love and miss u all.
also missing someone who is estranged from me tonight.....dont think we will ever be together again, but i still miss him dreadfully and wish things could have been different xxx
My dear Dad who died 5 years ago from cancer and never a day goes by that he's not in my thoughts.
Also my best mate Superman72 who sadly passed away very suddenly 6 months ago and the pain is still very raw.
I miss them both so very much :cry:
My mum passed away 3 years ago tomorrow. I miss her and my Dad every day.
As I sit here now 8 months pregnant I wish that my little boy could have met them both. They would have been as great a Nanny and Grandad as they were a Mum and Dad :angel:
J xxx
People on here who think they know me, think I am a heartless git, at the best of times but....I am not like that at all.
But some of the things on this thread that I have read are trully wonderful.
Spoken from the heart and even I, yes the heartless mr777,nearly had my eyes filling up.
A wondeful thing to be able to share with others about subjects like this.
this is a lovely thread.
my mum and dad split when i was 11, then moved hundreds and hundreds of miles apart.
i never knew either of them before this time, and it was only the last year of my dads life i got to really know him.
my stepmum died of MN in the october and my dad was ill, we though through grief, in the may he was admitted to hospital 10 days later he died of lung cancer. he had just turned 55.
i was just finishing my firt year at uni, i graduated 2 years later.
hes never seen his great grandaughter.
that was 8 years ago and still only feels like 6 months ago.
i then lost my best mate when he hung himself 4 years ago.
i miss them both so much every day. but i could never imagine the pain of losing a child.
count your blessings.
xx fem xx
Deep in the night when you lie in your bed
wondering at the shadows up over your head
and you pull those crisp white sheets over your eyes
do you whisper to God and ask Him why?
Why are they gone and why did they go?
you want to know and you want Him to show
you a reason. So pray as fast as you can.
But unanswered prayers are a part of the Plan.
But when you ask why and your eyes start to cry
and you feel so sad that you think you might die,
listen. Because He will tell you. And cherubs' wings
hug and hold you snug as they sing
a song so sweet like sirens of lore
as you slip into dreams of what was before.
And then you will see them far away in their bed
where they have the covers pulled up over their head
and they are asking God why as their eyes fill with tears
and they shake with the fears that nobody hears them
when they ask why and their eyes start to cry
and they feel so lonely they think they might die,
they listen. And He tells them And angels' wings
hug and hold them snug as they sing
a song so sweet like sirens of lore
as they slips into dreams of what was before.
And he sees you far away in your bed
with the covers pulled up over your head
and you smile through the pain
when He answers 'you will be together again.'
R.I.P all those that we have lost.
