The Photo Ads

22 Jan 2005

Quote by BaldEagle
(with tongue in cheek cos I have nowhere else to put it)

:laughabove: Very good.
As a single male replying to ads, you will be one in hundreds that reply. Just put yourself into the position of the people having to trawl through these and you may understand why few reply. wink

sounds like a perfect reason to have a stock but curtious reply set up on the site like some others do so that it can be sent out as a bulk mailing.............. it would certainly shoot the spamers and one liners in the foot.............. just a thought

22 Jan 2005

Quote by Jack47
(with tongue in cheek cos I have nowhere else to put it)

:laughabove: Very good.
As a single male replying to ads, you will be one in hundreds that reply. Just put yourself into the position of the people having to trawl through these and you may understand why few reply. wink

sounds like a perfect reason to have a stock but curtious reply set up on the site like some others do so that it can be sent out as a bulk mailing.............. it would certainly shoot the spamers and one liners in the foot.............. just a thought
For a single fem who wants to reply to everyone she is not interested in with a "thanks but no thanks" could be done in bulk I guess, but not very good if she wants to give a short reason why that person is not suitable.
One really annoying thing, while we're talking about replies are those people who send out a Set" reply to every ad they come across. They are VERY annoying cos they are rarely relevant to each ad they reply to. They are very easy to spot and they are the ones most likely to end up in the trash can (well my trash can, and those of others I've talked to about this, who find the bulk mail response a real piss take). Sending a polite personal reply to everyone you are interested in is the best way by far.

22 Jan 2005

Quote by TonyED
Some great replies and info, well done guys,
As for instant sex, thats not why i am here, yes i am curious and if i do hook up with someone well thats a bonus.
It also depends what kind of "single male" you are. If you are the married kind, then it is much more difficult to meet people as a large proportion of swingers will view you as cheating and not want to join in the deception of your partner.

Im not married but do have a partner and i wont lie i have a high sex drive and she doesn't so sooner or later i will wander. does that make me any different to anyone else who wants more out of life. Well ive laid myself bare , better than pretending to you all that i am unattached.
Tony
Good point Tony
As swingers aren't we just cheating with permission because thats what we need to full fill our needs?.......... and is the married but cheating morality applied to women as well as men?.... in my experience I think not.
From my point of view I have no ties or committments just a desire to meet nice like minded people to enjoy some time with.

22 Jan 2005

Quote by TonyED
It also depends what kind of "single male" you are. If you are the married kind, then it is much more difficult to meet people as a large proportion of swingers will view you as cheating and not want to join in the deception of your partner.

Im not married but do have a partner and i wont lie i have a high sex drive and she doesn't so sooner or later i will wander. does that make me any different to anyone else who wants more out of life. Well ive laid myself bare , better than pretending to you all that i am unattached.
Tony
Doesn't paint a very good picture though does it Tony? 'Sooner or later I will wander...' And I presume she won't know about this?
And how does that make you the same as everyone else who wants more out of life? Why not get a g/f with a sex drive as high as your own?????
Attached males who go behind their partners backs are cheats. Or am I wrong?
I'm not judging you but I wouldn't be proud of it mate.

22 Jan 2005

Quote by Jack47
As swingers aren't we just cheating with permission

Errrrr, no... swinging and cheating are two different things entirely.

22 Jan 2005

Quote by Jack47
As swingers aren't we just cheating with permission

Cheating is doing the dirty behind your partner's back.
Swinging is all-consenting.

22 Jan 2005

oes that make me any different to anyone else who wants more out of life.

Maybe i chose the wrong phrase of words. Guess your right sunbunny swinging is all about trust and concent so yes it makes me different to everyone else. sorry if i offended
Tony

22 Jan 2005

Can someone define cheating when applied to a married man and then for a married woman.......... I'm just interested to see if people make a distinction when deciding who to meet and who not to meet and in the veriety of replies we get

22 Jan 2005

Maybe this should go to a new thread Jack ?
Tony

22 Jan 2005

Quote by Jack47
Can someone define cheating when applied to a married man and then for a married woman.......... I'm just interested to see if people make a distinction when deciding who to meet and who not to meet and in the veriety of replies we get

What SunBunny said above sums up cheating for both sexes....
"Cheating is doing the dirty behind your partner's back."
Sounds about right to me evil

Some swingers don't like to meet cheaters of either sex, and some don't mind. It's all about personal preference. I'm not sure those that don't like cheating would say it was OK for a woman but not for a man, but I might be wrong.... confused

22 Jan 2005

Quote by bluexxx
Can someone define cheating when applied to a married man and then for a married woman.......... I'm just interested to see if people make a distinction when deciding who to meet and who not to meet and in the veriety of replies we get

What SunBunny said above sums up cheating for both sexes....
"Cheating is doing the dirty behind your partner's back."
Sounds about right to me evil

Some swingers don't like to meet cheaters of either sex, and some don't mind. It's all about personal preference. I'm not sure those that don't like cheating would say it was OK for a woman but not for a man, but I might be wrong.... confused

and I know of several who won't meet men but have no qualms about meeting married women.......... I have to say this is usually instigated by the male half of the partnership.
is it really a genuine dislike of 'doing the dirty' or insecurity on his part?........... discuss

22 Jan 2005

Quote by Jack47
and I know of several who won't meet men but have no qualms about meeting married women..........

Maybe they just don't like meeting men, married or not? Just a thought.

22 Jan 2005

Quote by Jack47
I know of several who won't meet men but have no qualms about meeting married women.......... I have to say this is usually instigated by the male half of the partnership.
is it really a genuine dislike of 'doing the dirty' or insecurity on his part?........... discuss

Well, speaking for myself only - I wouldn't meet a married man OR a married woman. Either way I see it as cheating. Having a preference for the women I won't even see the female of the couples I "swing" with without the male being there. That's my preference. Honesty is THE most important thing for me!

22 Jan 2005

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22 Jan 2005

To get back to the photo ad theme, I've noticed that some couples advertise on the 'women seeking women' section where I guess they're more likely to get looked at. They just add in 'oh and my bloke will be there too',... is that bad form or a crafty way of getting looked at?

22 Jan 2005

You also see couples advertising in "women seeking men". I guess they figure the fellas won't mind... confused

Can't see the point of this myself. I mean, if MacDonalds were advertising sushi on the door, wouldn't you be a bit upset if you went in and found you could only buy a Big Mac?

22 Jan 2005

Yeah I guess - I was just wondering what everyone else thinks. Was planning on doing it myself.

22 Jan 2005

Please don't poniella. when we catch them, we remove them.
We do notice them and try to keep on top of it, but people will keep on trying.
Jas
XXX

22 Jan 2005

Quote by poniella
Yeah I guess - I was just wondering what everyone else thinks. Was planning on doing it myself.

Oops - I swear I meant to write 'wasn't planning on doing it myself'. I'm not kidding, that was a genuine typo. I've already messed up once on the ads - wasn't about to do it again.