Is the power of words, say in an ad or how someone comes over in the forum enough for you to consider meeting them without seeing a pic?
The couple of times I've met people 'sight unseen' they've turned out to be totally attractive, with nothing 'wrong' with were just like me, private people who couldn't have their faces all over a site where anyone could recognise them.
On a personal note I know I could do with some pics up in my profile but due to my circumstances they could only be 'bits' of me that could be 'bits' of any male!I've never pretended to be anything other than what I am, in my late 40s with a largish build and balding alas, so I surely couldn't outright disappoint anyone as I don't pretend to be a 25 year old body builder with a six pack and thick luxurant flowing locks lol!
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nope i always see pic and prefer to see webcam first like marya says there are others means than this site or you can keep pics in private gallery and only invite who you want to see them.
ive been duped more than once even with pics which is why i prefer cam
ive been duped more than once even with pics which is why i prefer cam
I could get to know people by emails, MSN etc but eventually I would have to see a picture before it progressed. Not for the looks department but for security of mind I guess.We wouldn't meet someone without a picture either..
And unless the person in question actually has pictures on the site ( private gallery will do ) then we wouldn't give our email address out to send them to either..
I know to some that might sound harsh.. but.. we just don't want everyone knowing our email address that asks for it :-)
Tony
And unless the person in question actually has pictures on the site ( private gallery will do ) then we wouldn't give our email address out to send them to either..
I know to some that might sound harsh.. but.. we just don't want everyone knowing our email address that asks for it :-)
Tony
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Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
We wouldn't meet someone without a picture either..
And unless the person in question actually has pictures on the site ( private gallery will do ) then we wouldn't give our email address out to send them to either..
I know to some that might sound harsh.. but.. we just don't want everyone knowing our email address that asks for it :-)
Tony
Same here. If people have no pics on SH and want to show us on MSN or via email, we decline. A great many of us wish to keep our real identities secret and that can be done on SH. BTW Tony
And call me shallow
but if I'm gonna have sex with someone I certainly want to see their photo Quote by blueandpink
We wouldn't meet someone without a picture either..
And unless the person in question actually has pictures on the site ( private gallery will do ) then we wouldn't give our email address out to send them to either..
I know to some that might sound harsh.. but.. we just don't want everyone knowing our email address that asks for it :-)
Tony
Same here. If people have no pics on SH and want to show us on MSN or via email, we decline. A great many of us wish to keep our real identities secret and that can be done on SH. BTW Tony
And call me shallow
but if I'm gonna have sex with someone I certainly want to see their photoWe did meet up with a couple a few years back before we did the 'exit stage left' from the UK. We had looked at 'their' photos and profile before hand and decided that they looked nice....However.. the people who walked into the bar and came up to us to say hullo looked completely different!!!
Mrs DD asked what they thought they would achieve with such a deception. He answered "who uses there own photos anyway??". We told them that we obviously did as they recognised us....doh!
Soooo... once bitten, sorry but we find that a webcam is a very good little piece of equipment! (handy to perv with as well!!!! :twisted: )
The main decision to meet or not for me comes from how someone gets on in the general banter of the chatroom. What catches my eye is if someone can have a laugh and contribute in the room. And good profile text keeps me interested!
But I have to say I wouldn't meet someone without seeing a cam or pic at some point - it's just reassuring to know who you have been speaking to and from a practical point of view you know who you're looking for!
But I have to say I wouldn't meet someone without seeing a cam or pic at some point - it's just reassuring to know who you have been speaking to and from a practical point of view you know who you're looking for!
Quote by shark
We wouldn't meet someone without a picture either..
And unless the person in question actually has pictures on the site ( private gallery will do ) then we wouldn't give our email address out to send them to either..
I know to some that might sound harsh.. but.. we just don't want everyone knowing our email address that asks for it :-)
Tony
Same here. If people have no pics on SH and want to show us on MSN or via email, we decline. A great many of us wish to keep our real identities secret and that can be done on SH. BTW Tony
And call me shallow
but if I'm gonna have sex with someone I certainly want to see their photoWe did meet up with a couple a few years back before we did the 'exit stage left' from the UK. We had looked at 'their' photos and profile before hand and decided that they looked nice....However.. the people who walked into the bar and came up to us to say hullo looked completely different!!!
Mrs DD asked what they thought they would achieve with such a deception. He answered "who uses there own photos anyway??". We told them that we obviously did as they recognised us....doh!
Soooo... once bitten, sorry but we find that a webcam is a very good little piece of equipment! (handy to perv with as well!!!! :twisted: )
hehe, we have also had a guy turn up for a meet that wasn't the one in his pictures.
He was actually a good looking chap but due to the pictures being fake, we said goodbye and left.
Tony :wink:
For us
the order we go in is we like to see pictures and/or webcam then if we like the look of someone then will get to know them a little before a meet.
To us ( not all ) we find it pointless spending ages getting to know someone then see there pictures and find they just don't do anything for us.
Tony
the order we go in is we like to see pictures and/or webcam then if we like the look of someone then will get to know them a little before a meet.
To us ( not all ) we find it pointless spending ages getting to know someone then see there pictures and find they just don't do anything for us.
Tony
Sex God
Hello Mr N & G
Time to get the old cam clicking! I bagsy 1st refusal :giggle:
Personally, I think if you are chatting with someone long enough, you should know if you feel comfortable enough to send pics or put on a cam.
I fully understand anyones concerns and the need to be discreet but I dont think anyone would be willing to meet, sight unseen,this from a female perspective.
I think by now, you know who you can trust with a photo, go with your instincts.
As others have said, you dont have to have face photo's on site, I dont and never will but I do have face photo's if I choose to show them. The problem there can be, not everyone wants to give out an email addy but tough, if they want to a pic I need an addy. I can understand those who dont want everyone wanting their addy but hot mail is still free so whats wrong with setting up a seperate account for things like this?
Have no fear Mr N & G, there are some nice people here and Im the worlds worse for being cautious but sending a photo has never caused me any problems.
Time to get the old cam clicking! I bagsy 1st refusal :giggle:
Personally, I think if you are chatting with someone long enough, you should know if you feel comfortable enough to send pics or put on a cam.
I fully understand anyones concerns and the need to be discreet but I dont think anyone would be willing to meet, sight unseen,this from a female perspective.
I think by now, you know who you can trust with a photo, go with your instincts.
As others have said, you dont have to have face photo's on site, I dont and never will but I do have face photo's if I choose to show them. The problem there can be, not everyone wants to give out an email addy but tough, if they want to a pic I need an addy. I can understand those who dont want everyone wanting their addy but hot mail is still free so whats wrong with setting up a seperate account for things like this?
Have no fear Mr N & G, there are some nice people here and Im the worlds worse for being cautious but sending a photo has never caused me any problems.
Sex God
Quote by niceandgentle
Is the power of words, say in an ad or how someone comes over in the forum enough for you to consider meeting them without seeing a pic?
Yep.
Quote by niceandgentle
Good points all.
I still wonder if anyone else has had my experience of meeting people with no exchange of pics and finding them to be fine, to be just as they described themselves.
Yes, we have.
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
Is the power of words, say in an ad or how someone comes over in the forum enough for you to consider meeting them without seeing a pic?
Yep.
Quote by niceandgentle
Good points all.
I still wonder if anyone else has had my experience of meeting people with no exchange of pics and finding them to be fine, to be just as they described themselves.
Yes, we have.
:thumbup: yeah me too!
A pic is sometimes nice, but I can usually get a good impression from what the person writes, and how they write.
Also because I put more importance on personality rather than looks, a picture probably doesn't tell me anything I don't already know, although it does help identifying the person when you meet.
Quote by helnheaven
The problem there can be, not everyone wants to give out an email addy but tough, if they want to a pic I need an addy. I can understand those who dont want everyone wanting their addy but hot mail is still free so whats wrong with setting up a seperate account for things like this?
Whats wrong with uploading pictures to your private gallery and inviting just them that you get to know?
Everyone thinks differently on this subject and thats what makes us unique.. would be boring if we all thought the same!
For us, we wouldn't meet someone that we hadn't seen pictures of first, and that are on the site, either public or private.
Tony
Sex God
I have met a couple of times without face pic, but mostly I would insist - from a safety point of view. The meets I have had and not seen pic were all early days. Now, I usually swap pics in some form although not necessarily on the site itself.
The non-face pic meets were fine though!
Nola x
The non-face pic meets were fine though!
Nola x
Quote by Freckledbird
Is the power of words, say in an ad or how someone comes over in the forum enough for you to consider meeting them without seeing a pic?
Yep.
Quote by niceandgentle
Good points all.
I still wonder if anyone else has had my experience of meeting people with no exchange of pics and finding them to be fine, to be just as they described themselves.
Yes, we have.
Yes, I have too - and it does work!
Sex God
Quote by markz
words are very powerfull and I'm not power hungry so I write very few........
your few words are always very powerful :shock:
Sex God
Quote by markz
words are very powerfull and I'm not power hungry so I write very few........
your few words are always very powerful :shock:
if only my thingy could talk........... :roll:
mmmm imagine :roll:
