This is a would you have.........

19 Aug 2008

As I'm sure most of you are aware I have been in Ibiza for the last 10 days enjoying my 40th.
On one night I was supposed to go to maumission but guest list was a bit dogey so I never went. I ended up in a local very friendly bar I know, and a young couple started to chat to me,he 39 her 32 and 5 days in to their honeymoon.
They had run out of money so he went back to hotel to get some more from the safe, leaving me chatting to her. She was extremely chatty and friendly and had a few drinks so flirted quite a bit. After a while she was coming on very strong, then realised husband was taking a very long time.
She then flipped between very upset about husband leaving her on her own to all be it straight out asking me for a shag. Now if she and he had said they were swingers then I would have been there but I got the distinct imperssion this was not the case.
I offered and did walk her back to her hotel to find out where he was, which was totally KO'ed on the bed. I did say to her that if she was not on her honeymoon I would have sex with her, this was after some digging on her part.
We found him and we then all went out clubbing and a great night was had by all. 2 nights later he is again off his head and asked another couples wife for a shag which she heard about and had a go at him about. But..... 20 mins earlier she had reminded me of what I had said and the only reason it never went further was because he came back.
So basically I refused to take advantage of her, but think she really wanted to play even though I'm certain they dont swing, because she was 5 day in to her honeymoon.
A big play was made about me being a gentleman, by not taking advantage although I found out afterwards even her husband admitted he would have :shock:
Now as a man who has not played for many months this was on a plate, but she was newlywed so my morales kicked in, but after his own comments I woundered if I should have just gone for it especialy as she asked me again 2 days later.
I always get told I'm a gentleman would you have just played?????

19 Aug 2008

I think you done right :thumbup:
Be it their honeymoon and you thought they weren't swingers.
I think your instincts done you proud and I for one always follow mine. Not saying they've never been wrong... redface

19 Aug 2008

No I wouldn't have played.....

19 Aug 2008

Most of the time I am a gentleman, but in this instance I would have played.
It's her responsibility to be faithful, not yours. If she's putting it on a plate then I'd take it on the basis that if that's how they behave 5 days in then their marriage is already halfway down the shitter and the worst that you could be accused of is offering some castor oil!!!

19 Aug 2008

it wouldnt have made any difference the fact still remains she is married,she was the one taking advantage of you!i would have given her 1

19 Aug 2008

I guess that from what you have said, that you could have had sex with the lady in question but in no way would that be classed as swinging.
There is a big difference between casual sex and swinging.

20 Aug 2008

I think you did the right thing and it's the type of thing I would only expect from you kiss

Apart from all that, being on honeymoon abroad brings all kind of emotions imo. The after stress of the wedding plays a part but also being abroad makes you super horny (well it does me anyway wink

), mixed with drink, tiredness etc., she may well have regretted her actions once she'd got home dunno

There could be history with these two, he or she may well have played away in the past and it could be their natures either way it's best to stay well back which is what you did.
And lastly, nice as she was, what kind of woman would be looking at another man on her honeymoon anyway? She and he should be so loved up no one else would get a look in, swingers or not.

20 Aug 2008

I agree with Poshkate. i wouldnt have taken it further in this situation.
The attention would have done wonders for my ego though

20 Aug 2008

Quote by jaymar
I think you did the right thing and it's the type of thing I would only expect from you

Yep x

20 Aug 2008

At the time you have done the correct thing.
BUT
They could have asked you to contact them at a later date!! biggrin

20 Aug 2008

Should have given them your contact details and pointed them at the site wink

20 Aug 2008

no
lp

20 Aug 2008

Quote by flower411
Being of suspicious mind, I`d think that they were after something else.....
Ya passport, ya money ....... ya kidneys
But taken at face value I suppose I`m the sort of person who would have just asked outright if they were both into a threesome

Actually that did cross my mind, but after seeing him totally out of it on his bed, and 2 nights later out of it in the bar I realised he was just a selfish pisshead bloke.

20 Aug 2008

Thank you and to those who said I should have done it, yes I would have gladly had casual sex, but bearing in mind they were both drunk and I suspect on other things to. The last thing I wanted was to be possible be brought up on a charge because she felt guilty about it in the morning, although I had plenty of witnesses in the bar that would say she was coming on to me.
The fact she did it 2 days later made me rethink my desicion a bit, but I would not like to think I had possible contributed to breaking up a marrige on thier honeymoon. They did both seem to seperately look for sex but they were not swingers and did not have an open relationship of that I'm sure.
and I do have his number from trying to contact him that night.

20 Aug 2008

Quote by Ukwineman
Being of suspicious mind, I`d think that they were after something else.....
Ya passport, ya money ....... ya kidneys
But taken at face value I suppose I`m the sort of person who would have just asked outright if they were both into a threesome

Actually that did cross my mind, but after seeing him totally out of it on his bed, and 2 nights later out of it in the bar I realised he was just a selfish pisshead bloke.
... and she's prepared to fuck around a few days into her honeymoon?
lovely couple
lp