This is the point at which you don't pursue sex as it gets either left out, or avoided and you then become friends or partners in some way. Ordinarily you would make sure this happens in the workplace. But are there times when what might have been didn't actually happen and all sense of lust and longing, then dried up.
So the question is have you ever noticed this throughout your life?
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Tipping point
Well it has happened to me a few times, albeit in the vanilla world. Where all the circumstances seemed right for an encounter, but somehow neither of us seemed willing to make the first move. Subsequently the idea of copping off with each other faded from our minds and we just got along with each other fine when and wherever we met. But it seemed like it could have been, sort of. If you see what I mean. Or maybe not then.
Sex God
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Well it has happened to me a few times, albeit in the vanilla world. Where all the circumstances seemed right for an encounter, but somehow neither of us seemed willing to make the first move. Subsequently the idea of copping off with each other faded from our minds and we just got along with each other fine when and wherever we met. But it seemed like it could have been, sort of. If you see what I mean. Or maybe not then.
:thumbup: Oh hell yeah, there's a couple of guys I've met over the years like that... forever consigned to the 'what could have been' box in my head!
Great wank fantasy material though! :rascal:
Sex God
Yep, and the one,s you think, she is nice but never go any further and find out years later she was thinking the same about you, I like to call them the "If only's"
Orgasminator
Yep - I've had this. With my best (female) friend. Before we were best friends and before I realised I could have been Bi of course. Of course I've been kicking myself for years since..... :doh:
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Sex God
I thought this would be about tipping, you know leaving extra money when you've already paid for what you've got/had/done/received etc. so I'm a little thrown off-kilter having instantly prepared a 200 word rant in my head based on just the title alone! 
That'll teach me a lesson! 
:lol:
On topic... yes. There is a point where doing something is no longer a viable, workable or desirable option for both parties involved.
When the balance tips for one and not the other I think it's called stalking! :lol: ;)
Not sure where that invisible line in the sand is though, as it seems to have been different every time and in every different case I've ever personally experienced this. But, then I can be a little apathetic at times and dilly dally for far too long about all sorts of things. I'm not very notorious for making quick decisions and keep being told that indecision is in fact a decision by default. :?
LG. x
That'll teach me a lesson! :lol:On topic... yes. There is a point where doing something is no longer a viable, workable or desirable option for both parties involved.
When the balance tips for one and not the other I think it's called stalking! :lol: ;)
Not sure where that invisible line in the sand is though, as it seems to have been different every time and in every different case I've ever personally experienced this. But, then I can be a little apathetic at times and dilly dally for far too long about all sorts of things. I'm not very notorious for making quick decisions and keep being told that indecision is in fact a decision by default. :?
LG. x
Sex God
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I thought this would be about tipping, you know leaving extra money when you've already paid for what you've got/had/done/received etc. so I'm a little thrown off-kilter having instantly prepared a 200 word rant in my head based on just the title alone!
Oooh, start that thread! I got to being able to recognise it as soon as it kicked in. I knew I had felt something a bit lusty, but it was doomed to never happening. I just wonder how this phenomenon is recognised in rational values. I suppose you could view it in terms of missed opportunity, sour grapes or something like that. But does it work in a more fundamental way. ie your genes are telling you no, no, not this one!
Hubby and I met a couple for a drink and they established from the outset that they were taking a break from swinging. It was not a problem, but we hoped they'd get back into the scene (God I hate that word!) and get in touch. To cut a long story short, they split up but I became very good friends with her, and now it seems inappropriate to play 
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This is actually somthing that has been occupying my mind recently,is the quick gratification worth it or should you just be friends,a simple solution,ask if they shag friends,works for me :giggle:
Seriously does it have to be an either/ or ?I have been in the situation where my friend ha been a regular sex buddy, it enhances the situation and means you can honestly tell them your wants/desires
I must admit to wanting to have sex with a friend, but am too scared to spoil the friendship so would rather keep the fantasies for other purposes. I used to think I wanted a regular FB, but would it be better to establish the sexual relationship before the friendship?
