We have been on this site for a few months and have always replied to every message. Sometimes straight away or maybe a few days later.....but always. But it’s obvious that there are members who think it is their right to have a replay straight away and if you don’t they block you. Up their own arse cretins.
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To many up their own arse members
Sexlightened
don't try life as a single guy.... you all sound like great fun though x
Quote by MrandMrsBad
it's the same across the many swinging sites and the internet as a whole. . people can hide behind their keyboard and treat people differently to how they would in person..I would not take it to heart and ride above them and block them too.
Very wise and true. It's not confined to SH....it's most online communities.
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We have been on this site for a few months and have always replied to every message. Sometimes straight away or maybe a few days later.....but always. But it’s obvious that there are members who think it is their right to have a replay straight away and if you don’t they block you. Up their own arse cretins.
At least you found out early they're 'dicks'. You sound like you have a great attitude so forget 'em
Orgasminator
Quote by Paulyful123
But it’s obvious that there are members who think it is their right to have a replay straight away and if you don’t they block you. Up their own arse cretins.
Even though it’s a bit of a shock being blocked for no good reason , treat it as part of your filtering process of potential members you would like meet!! (Or not).
Sex God
Quote by Paulyful123
... it’s obvious that there are members who think it is their right to have a replay straight away and if you don’t they block you. Up their own arse cretins.
Great, they're filtering themselves out and saving you the bother. Every cretin who takes him/herself out of the reckoning is one less you have to waste any more time on. 
On another site I finally got a couple of chat friends on my profile after a YEAR. Used to chat & have a laugh with her while hubby stayed off cam. The other night said good night & following day BLOCKED. Yeah been blocked before after months chatting but a pain as never gonna meet & enjoyed the conversations. Women rule ok & single men are just fodder.
Master of Sex
I intended to be up my own arse yesterday but never got round to it.
That blocking business if you don't reply immediately: is that a thing then? It happened to me after a few pleasant messages. I keep the SH tab open much of the day as I do other things and the couple took umbrage as I hadn't replied to a message immediately and blocked me. I found it odd.
Warming the Bed
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There's no point in trying to apply your own logic to other peoples actions. We're blocked by people we've never even spoken to???
Blocking is a two way thing. If they've blocked us, then they can't see what we're doing either, and if they're that far up their own arse, why would we give a flying f*** about anything they do?
The bigger this site gets, the more governed by factory floor/playground politics it becomes.
Just like in the real world, there are those who give themselves aires and graces in the chat rooms and behave as though everyone else should conduct themselves only in a way they approve of(these are the ones we used to call bullies at school).
Then there are the Prefects/Supervisors, or Mods as they're known on here. On the whole a helpful, friendly bunch of people who are good enough to give a little extra to the site, but then there's the one who was bullied at school and wants to use the authority on S/H to get his own back!
Then there's those unfortunate individuals who come to the site thinking the chatrooms are going to be full of nothing but sex chat 24/7 and are disappointed to find people chatting about recipes and traffic conditions, but they've paid a subscription so they need to express their frustration before they leave.
My favourites are the competitive swingers, the ones who think they have to be more of a swinger than everyone else and are desperate to have a large collection of 'Friends' backed up by a hefty selection of 'Vouches' and their favourite topic of conversation is whinging and moaning about other site users. I've been told a couple of times recently that we're not proper swingers because we're not into some of the things these people like to do. That doesn't make us anything at all, it just makes those who make such accusations appear very narrow minded and too lazy to read our profile.
I've been told a couple of times recently that we're not proper swingers because we're not into some of the things these people like to do
I think that's a school yard attempt at bullying you into something you Don't want to do. Attempting to get in your head in a sour way way..
Im not a fan of manipulation like that ...nasty
I started out by trying to reply to all messages but now I don't always. There are lots of generic messages and others that clearly show that the sender hasn't even bothered to read our profile. That's just as rude in my opinion. The generic ones just get binned as now do the ones sending pics or album invites that don't correspond to our profile or who haven't chatted to us first. Just be aware that as a couple we can sometimes get bombarded with messages. At first I could be spending up to an hour a day replying to everything but now I just don't have the time or the will to do that. So I think it works both ways. Lynn xx
Orgasminator
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I started out by trying to reply to all messages but now I don't always. There are lots of generic messages and others that clearly show that the sender hasn't even bothered to read our profile. That's just as rude in my opinion. The generic ones just get binned as now do the ones sending pics or album invites that don't correspond to our profile or who haven't chatted to us first. Just be aware that as a couple we can sometimes get bombarded with messages. At first I could be spending up to an hour a day replying to everything but now I just don't have the time or the will to do that. So I think it works both ways. Lynn xx
Areed.
It's a bit rich for those who've clearly made no effort when contacting people to expect them to make the effort to reply - politely or otherwise.
Forum Virgin
Its difficult to maintain lots of connections. For every 50 interesting chat and connections we have probably only 1 really lasts to........ something more. Most drift out to nothing. The only time we will block is when conversation has dried up and they start to bug.
Sexlightened
Quote by LynnandJames
I started out by trying to reply to all messages but now I don't always. There are lots of generic messages and others that clearly show that the sender hasn't even bothered to read our profile. That's just as rude in my opinion. The generic ones just get binned as now do the ones sending pics or album invites that don't correspond to our profile or who haven't chatted to us first. Just be aware that as a couple we can sometimes get bombarded with messages. At first I could be spending up to an hour a day replying to everything but now I just don't have the time or the will to do that. So I think it works both ways. Lynn xx
So much this! I started out with a polite " thanks, but no thanks" to everyone I wasn't interested in, but even with a "Good luck in your search" they don't take it as the end of the conversation rather a challenge - they find another get-around for every reason you give for not wanting to meet them to the point where you end up just having to rudely ignore them anyway!
Then this a couple of days ago:
"Hi" 3 dick pics
*a minute later*
"Oo, she's read it maybe I'll get lucky" 2 more dick pics (seriously, it looks the same every time - once I've seen it soft and hard, unless the next time it's playing a violin I don't need to see it again!)
*another minute*
"Oh, maybe not then" 4 more dick pics
*same timestamp*
"Come to mine tonight" More dicks
*likes every picture, likes my profile, sends a FR which I decline because he's 200 miles away from me*
Next day:
"Hi" 3 dick pics
*a minute later*
"Come to mine tonight" another batch of dicks, FR and invite to private album (both declined)
*3hrs later*
"Hi" 3 dicks
"Come to mine tonight" 2 dicks and a FR
Had enough at that point and blocked him.
How am I even supposed to respond to "Hi"? - "Why yes, kind sir, I'd love to have sex with you right now! Just let me organise some overnight childcare, pack a suitcase and figure out how the hell I can travel 200 miles in a couple of hours when public transport has stopped for the night... it's cool if I bring my friend Corona too, yes?"
And I know this isn't every single guy on here, but there's a lot of admin sometimes just filtering out this crap so the next guy might just be trying to not be pushy and just says "Hi" thinking he's being considerate or whatever but hi doesn't tell me he's actually read my profile so unfortunately he gets binned too!
Orgasminator
Quote by HothouseSubQuote by LynnandJamesSo much this! I started out with a polite " thanks, but no thanks" to everyone I wasn't interested in, but even with a "Good luck in your search" they don't take it as the end of the conversation rather a challenge - they find another get-around for every reason you give for not wanting to meet them to the point where you end up just having to rudely ignore them anyway!
I started out by trying to reply to all messages but now I don't always. There are lots of generic messages and others that clearly show that the sender hasn't even bothered to read our profile. That's just as rude in my opinion. The generic ones just get binned as now do the ones sending pics or album invites that don't correspond to our profile or who haven't chatted to us first. Just be aware that as a couple we can sometimes get bombarded with messages. At first I could be spending up to an hour a day replying to everything but now I just don't have the time or the will to do that. So I think it works both ways. Lynn xx
Then this a couple of days ago:
"Hi" 3 dick pics
*a minute later*
"Oo, she's read it maybe I'll get lucky" 2 more dick pics (seriously, it looks the same every time - once I've seen it soft and hard, unless the next time it's playing a violin I don't need to see it again!)
*another minute*
"Oh, maybe not then" 4 more dick pics
*same timestamp*
"Come to mine tonight" More dicks
*likes every picture, likes my profile, sends a FR which I decline because he's 200 miles away from me*
Next day:
"Hi" 3 dick pics
*a minute later*
"Come to mine tonight" another batch of dicks, FR and invite to private album (both declined)
*3hrs later*
"Hi" 3 dicks
"Come to mine tonight" 2 dicks and a FR
Had enough at that point and blocked him.
How am I even supposed to respond to "Hi"? - "Why yes, kind sir, I'd love to have sex with you right now! Just let me organise some overnight childcare, pack a suitcase and figure out how the hell I can travel 200 miles in a couple of hours when public transport has stopped for the night... it's cool if I bring my friend Corona too, yes?"
And I know this isn't every single guy on here, but there's a lot of admin sometimes just filtering out this crap so the next guy might just be trying to not be pushy and just says "Hi" thinking he's being considerate or whatever but hi doesn't tell me he's actually read my profile so unfortunately he gets binned too!
Exactly this.
