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Quote by Freckledbird
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That too!
If I get a Cylon eye mask will women throw themselves at me do you think? :confused2:
Quote by red_dragon2006
you dont come across as vain at all, zeus! biggrin

Thank you, my child.
May my light shine on you always
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Quote by Wunderhorse
Do you find some fellow swingers unapproachable? is it because you think there too hardened....out of your league......too intelligent....too attractive.....or from a different social group?

Without coming across as really vain, when I've attended a number of events arranged on this site these being:
Munch
Social
Invite Only Parties (arranged via Photo Adverts & the 'Lets Meet Up' section).
I've had a number of people saying how lovely I look :shock: Some even saying that I must have Ladies flirt with me always confused
In the 'vanilla world, Females have mentioned that due to my good looks & what they see as my persona. They feel like a nervous Female in the 1960's fainting in the presence of
The Beatles...
:shock:
So I hardly get chatted up as I guess they would become uncontrollable.... :!: Therefore a danger to themselves & others.
It's so very sad as I have so much to give the Ladies, but being close to me must be like looking at Zeus on Mount Olympus. Want to touch but cannot.
Quote by winchwench
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach

You're telling me. It's very difficult being me as being so lovely is hard yet am an lovely person inside as well :twisted: (check the 'double meaning').
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Really, Wunderhorse? Women, plural, have actually said that? :?:
In edit, if they experienced the Beatles, then you do know there's a rational reason for them experiencing feelings of overheating, red faces & faintness, right?
It doesn't matter to me what someone looks like I never have the nerve to ask anyone anyway :giggle:
Quote by winchwench
Do you find some fellow swingers unapproachable? is it because you think there too hardened....out of your league......too intelligent....too attractive.....or from a different social group?

Without coming across as really vain, when I've attended a number of events arranged on this site these being:
Munch
Social
Invite Only Parties (arranged via Photo Adverts & the 'Lets Meet Up' section).
I've had a number of people saying how lovely I look :shock: Some even saying that I must have Ladies flirt with me always confused
In the 'vanilla world, Females have mentioned that due to my good looks & what they see as my persona. They feel like a nervous Female in the 1960's fainting in the presence of
The Beatles...
:shock:
So I hardly get chatted up as I guess they would become uncontrollable.... :!: Therefore a danger to themselves & others.
It's so very sad as I have so much to give the Ladies, but being close to me must be like looking at Zeus on Mount Olympus. Want to touch but cannot.
Quote by winchwench
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach

You're telling me. It's very difficult being me as being so lovely is hard yet am an lovely person inside as well :twisted: (check the 'double meaning').
biggrin
Really, Wunderhorse? Women, plural, have actually said that? :?:
In edit, if they experienced the Beatles, then you do know there's a rational reason for them experiencing feelings of overheating, red faces & faintness, right?
Yeah, the menopause.
Quote by winchwench
Really, Wunderhorse? Women, plural, have actually said that? confused:

For the answer to your above question.....

I hope your pleased with my reply.
It's all in the words.
From,
Wunderhorse.
Quote by Wunderhorse
Really, Wunderhorse? Women, plural, have actually said that? confused:

For the answer to your above question.....

I hope your pleased with my reply.
It's all in the words.
From,
Wunderhorse.
I'm thinking more Milli Vanilli. wink
Quote by red_dragon2006
you dont come across as vain at all, zeus! biggrin

lol
Wunderhorse, either you are having us on, or you are one of the most unusual people on this forum... either way, you have made my day.
Keep up the good work :thumbup:
The outer layer is just the cover of a book!
I like to open the book and have a read, like we all know some books are worth a read, others we put down after the first chapter.
Minxies words of wisdom of the day! lol
I have quite low self esteem anyway so I always have the thought in my head that no one would be interested and then that way I'm not disappointed.
As for you Winchy.... smackbottom you are one of the most beautiful people I've met in a long time both inside and out. I would presume your 'outter confidence' is what could intimidate a man, some men cannot cope with a confident woman.
I look at stunning people and thing 'oh my, you are attractive' but I'm not one for making the first move in any event and never have done, I tend to wait until people approach me. Jay on the other hand just asks lol
There are several ladies here I consider to be waaaaaaay out of my reach and so I guess I can only wonder and fantasise (fantasy is good but not as good as the real thing)
Quote by jaymar
I have quite low self esteem anyway so I always have the thought in my head that no one would be interested and then that way I'm not disappointed.

My word :shock:
Have you been reading my thoughts :shock:
Quote by Steve
There are several ladies here I consider to be waaaaaaay out of my reach and so I guess I can only wonder and fantasise (fantasy is good but not as good as the real thing)

smackbottom :smackbottom:
Don't be silly!
And Mar, you're lovely - really kiss
I think everyone is out of my range therefore when they show interest its very flattering redface
Quote by jaymar
I have quite low self esteem anyway so I always have the thought in my head that no one would be interested and then that way I'm not disappointed.
As for you Winchy.... smackbottom you are one of the most beautiful people I've met in a long time both inside and out. I would presume your 'outter confidence' is what could intimidate a man, some men cannot cope with a confident woman.
I look at stunning people and thing 'oh my, you are attractive' but I'm not one for making the first move in any event and never have done, I tend to wait until people approach me. Jay on the other hand just asks lol

Ha! See, now I know you're lying :giggle:
I think you're right with the "outer confidence" thing though- it may be just a thin veneer, But if I didn't have it, I'd be in a corner hiding.
I'm a natural born tart so it doesn't stop me redface
I think PoshKake is pretty stunning and i've flirted with her for bloody ages :mrgreen:
(though i've been a bit busy recently so i'm going to have to be extra flirty soon Miss Poshy :rascalsmile
Now, funnily enough, I logged in this morning to a PM from someone who crossed my mind as a perfect example of what I meant when I wrote the thread.
She's given me something to post anonymously on her behalf, as she doesn't want to appear vain, or indeed to upset anyone. I for one can confirm that not only is she bloody gorgeous, but she's warm, funny and very very genuine. I've also witnessed some of the resentment she's faced.
Here's what she wrote:
When I first joined I was made to feel like a lot of people thought I was a fake due to the photos I had on my profile. Some people thought I was a man pretending to be a woman....others thought 'd just pinched the picks from another site.
I became so paraniod about this that I felt I needed to meet someone so they could verify me. I was chatting to a couple on here at the time and agreed to meet up with one half of the couple for a coffee just so I could show that I was real. At the time I was being told that no one believed I was real and that I had to do this to 'fit in'.
I went for a coffee.....he behaved like a gent until he walked me to my car and made me feel like I'd done something wrong by just kissing him on the cheek and that I should have given him a full on snog icon_
From there I went to my first ever munch.....I can't explain it really but it was a horrid experience.....as soon as I turned up at the hotel I was hearing about who had said what about me and who wanted to meet me etc. ......in reality, once I was there hardly anyone actually spoke to me. It's funny actually....whenever I go to a munch or social no one speaks to me then afterwards I get a flutter of PMs saying 'I wanted to speak to you on the night but was too shy'
I guess I'm as guilty myself as I'm shy so only really talk to people I know but just thought I'd put my point of view across
Quote by winchwench
Now, funnily enough, I logged in this morning to a PM from someone who crossed my mind as a perfect example of what I meant when I wrote the thread.
She's given me something to post anonymously on her behalf, as she doesn't want to appear vain, or indeed to upset anyone. I for one can confirm that not only is she bloody gorgeous, but she's warm, funny and very very genuine. I've also witnessed some of the resentment she's faced.
Here's what she wrote:
When I first joined I was made to feel like a lot of people thought I was a fake due to the photos I had on my profile. Some people thought I was a man pretending to be a woman....others thought 'd just pinched the picks from another site.
I became so paraniod about this that I felt I needed to meet someone so they could verify me. I was chatting to a couple on here at the time and agreed to meet up with one half of the couple for a coffee just so I could show that I was real. At the time I was being told that no one believed I was real and that I had to do this to 'fit in'.
I went for a coffee.....he behaved like a gent until he walked me to my car and made me feel like I'd done something wrong by just kissing him on the cheek and that I should have given him a full on snog icon_

From there I went to my first ever munch.....I can't explain it really but it was a horrid experience.....as soon as I turned up at the hotel I was hearing about who had said what about me and who wanted to meet me etc. ......in reality, once I was there hardly anyone actually spoke to me. It's funny actually....whenever I go to a munch or social no one speaks to me then afterwards I get a flutter of PMs saying 'I wanted to speak to you on the night but was too shy'
I guess I'm as guilty myself as I'm shy so only really talk to people I know but just thought I'd put my point of view across

What a class 1,grade A arsehole evil
winchy, that has to be one of the saddest things i have read in a long time, for someone to feel like that is just wrong on so many levels.
Believe it or not I have soo many self esteem issues (as it appears a lot of us do) and hide behind my forum persona....making fun of myself (before someone else can) and trying to make people smile. Ive been to two socials now and been to scared to move or to talk to many people, unless i was dragged round by my lovely hand holder.
I think we all have a need to be accepted, with the exception of one or two of the uber confident or the couldnt give a shit what people think brigade....
Its a wonder this site works at all with sooooo many of us not wanting to make the first move (although I thank the person who well and truly took the bull by the horns and gave me an unequivocal green light yesterday!!)
Isnt it funny how we put people on imaginary pedestals (the unattainables as i lovingly call them) and when they realise people think that way they think "who...me??" but why i am just me"
I bet if we listed all the people each of us thought were out of their league, we would
1) have a long list
2) surprise the hell out of a lot of the people on here
3)maybe break the ice and cause a flurry of PMs starting a lot of balls rolloing for some people LOL lol
Mar, you are just one of the loveliest people on here, and one i love to read the post of and love when you are online both here and my other place wink kiss
and winchy, to your friend (and i hope this doesnt come across as patronising) big BIG hugs for them. :kiss: :kiss: the people who treat them so shoddily are not worth wasting a moments though on.
*god that was so deep for my first post of the day*
I think Mrs B has been inside my head :shock:.
I find it amazing that so many people I have spoken to on this site seem to have self esteem/confidence issues myself included. Silly as it seems now I thought everyone would be uber confident!.
I think some people are probably disadvantaged when it comes to people approaching them for a meet, I for one would not approach someone who I thought was out of my league, I would send them some come and get me vibes telepathically and hope they received them :giggle:
I can't think which is worse - being considered 'too stunning' to swing/be approached, or being considered lowly/plain enough to be approached. confused
Quote by winchwench
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach dunno

Quote by davidsanction
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and someone that is considered a beauty to one person is seen as rather plain and nothing special by someone else

I tend to agree with Davidsaction that beauty really is in the eyes of the beerholder but having said that. I found, at various parties and clubs I've been to, that some of the extremely good looking people tend not to go for ugly gits like me. Obviously they want to play with similarly good looking folk.
Although that never stopped me approaching - tentatively - I must say though it helps having a thick hide to get used rejection smile
Quote by awol
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach dunno

Quote by davidsanction
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and someone that is considered a beauty to one person is seen as rather plain and nothing special by someone else

I tend to agree with Davidsaction that beauty really is in the eyes of the beerholder but having said that. I found, at various parties and clubs I've been to, that some of the extremely good looking people tend not to go for ugly gits like me. Obviously they want to play with similarly good looking folk.
Although that never stopped me approaching - tentatively - I must say though it helps having a thick hide to get used rejection smile
Some do go for the beauty and beast theory as well :thumbup:
Quote by TanKinky
Some do go for the beauty and beast theory as well :thumbup:

Oh... maybe I'm not beastly looking enough then... damn! I knew there was something wrong with me!
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Quote by Cherrytree
Wunderhorse, either you are having us on, or you are one of the most unusual people on this forum... either way, you have made my day.
Keep up the good work :thumbup:

Dearest Cherrytree,
That's the most kind thing anyone has ever said about me on this Forum.
Am lost for words. You are a nice person as at times I can get people upset within our community.
Many thanks again & if we ever meet at an event I'll get your drinks.
From,
Wunderhorse.
Beauty is immaterial, nice wins it for me every time.
Having said that I enjoyed a warm coffee with someone recently who was both, so yippee for me biggrin
When we go to clubs they are mostly the ones where you wear very revealing clothes or sexy underwear and we find that most people are approachable and approach us.
We do go to a club where the dress code is more clothed and not had problems there either, but when I wore the revealing clothes to this club we never got approached and having everyone staring appearing to look down their noses made us not want to approach them.
Sometimes I feel the sexiest when wearing a simply pair of low cut jeans and white t-shirt
Quote by winchwench
I have quite low self esteem anyway so I always have the thought in my head that no one would be interested and then that way I'm not disappointed.
As for you Winchy.... smackbottom you are one of the most beautiful people I've met in a long time both inside and out. I would presume your 'outter confidence' is what could intimidate a man, some men cannot cope with a confident woman.
I look at stunning people and thing 'oh my, you are attractive' but I'm not one for making the first move in any event and never have done, I tend to wait until people approach me. Jay on the other hand just asks lol

Ha! See, now I know you're lying :giggle:
I think you're right with the "outer confidence" thing though- it may be just a thin veneer, But if I didn't have it, I'd be in a corner hiding.
:dry: ok smartypants!... virtual 'met'!
I've the 'outer confidence' it makes up for the lack of inner wink
and FB... :inlove: thank you xx