i very rarely get approached when at clubs, its usually me that has to do the approaching, I dont have a problem with doing this but sometimes jus sometimes it gets a tad tiresome.
I see a lot of peeps have added to the thread that they have low self esteem or low confidence I think maybe you just think you have as as we all know it takes a hell of a lot of confidence to enter a swinging club for the 1st time so please dont put yourselves down ladies, you probably all ooze the stuff.
As for myself i had zero confidence whilst growin up as i was lucky if i weighed 6 stone wet throu bein 5' 8" this was not a good look to have but as i've got older i not only learned to live with it but realised bein unable to gain weight had its advantages. I must admit tho at certain times bein unapproached leaves me feeling unapproachable (does that make sense lol) n occasionally makes me feel like when i was young, n then i get back to 'real' life n i'm ok again.
I dont think anybody is too stunning to swing as everybody finds different people attractive, age shape size etc
Just read this thread, and it really has got me thinking? :shock:
For me, i don't like putting people on pedestal's as i would hate it if other's put me on one.
I must admit that we havent been swinging for while and are only starting to get back into it. But, when we first started swinging here and going to munche's there was lots of stunning/beautiful/handsome people and we never had any problems going up and talking to them and i'm sure we did'nt come accross as unaproachable either (i hope we did'nt anyway's).
Maybe the person (s) who u think are out of your league will probably think the same thing of u? who know's? i dont really have a decent answer but has left me asking this question.
Why when some good friend who really matters to us, tell us that we are beautiful/stunning/handsome and/or that we are really nice/friendly/lovely we don't belive them?
But instead, when some one we hardly know or even like says we are ugly/fat/skinny and that we're an asshole/bitch we take more notice of it?
I hope what i've posted make's sense if not just ignore me my heads abit all over the place at the mo.
I'm not afraid of rejection
I'm afraid of derission!
lp
I know this stormy. You should hear what she was saying the other day when I was complimenting you. She likened you to a cartoon character.
It put me right off I tell ya.