i very rarely get approached when at clubs, its usually me that has to do the approaching, I dont have a problem with doing this but sometimes jus sometimes it gets a tad tiresome.
I see a lot of peeps have added to the thread that they have low self esteem or low confidence I think maybe you just think you have as as we all know it takes a hell of a lot of confidence to enter a swinging club for the 1st time so please dont put yourselves down ladies, you probably all ooze the stuff.
As for myself i had zero confidence whilst growin up as i was lucky if i weighed 6 stone wet throu bein 5' 8" this was not a good look to have but as i've got older i not only learned to live with it but realised bein unable to gain weight had its advantages. I must admit tho at certain times bein unapproached leaves me feeling unapproachable (does that make sense lol) n occasionally makes me feel like when i was young, n then i get back to 'real' life n i'm ok again.
I dont think anybody is too stunning to swing as everybody finds different people attractive, age shape size etc
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Too Stunning to Swing?
Sex God
Quote by awol
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach
Quote by davidsanction
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and someone that is considered a beauty to one person is seen as rather plain and nothing special by someone else
I tend to agree with Davidsaction that beauty really is in the eyes of the beerholder but having said that. I found, at various parties and clubs I've been to, that some of the extremely good looking people tend not to go for ugly gits like me. Obviously they want to play with similarly good looking folk.
Although that never stopped me approaching - tentatively - I must say though it helps having a thick hide to get used rejection
Beer goggles?
Sex God
I think this thread is fascinating. Its quite extraordinary the difference between how people think of themselves and how others see them.
I don't see people as unattainable exactly...very often though the people we like, do not swing in the way that fits what we want to do. Usually if we find someone irresistible they are part of a couple who only swing together or they are as straight as a straight thing. Having said that though we are both really bad at doing the approaching, I'm afraid of rejection and I don't know what Stormy's problem is exactly...probably too lazy
:P
Sorry I'm rambling
I don't see people as unattainable exactly...very often though the people we like, do not swing in the way that fits what we want to do. Usually if we find someone irresistible they are part of a couple who only swing together or they are as straight as a straight thing. Having said that though we are both really bad at doing the approaching, I'm afraid of rejection and I don't know what Stormy's problem is exactly...probably too lazy
:P Sorry I'm rambling
Sex God
Quote by Firelizard
I'm afraid of rejection and I don't know what Stormy's problem is exactly...probably too lazy
Sorry I'm rambling
:shock: who would reject you? Either of you?
Sexlightened
Quote by davidsanction
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach
But what is classed as beautiful/ handsome/ stunning / gorgeous?
You only have to start asking a few people which actor they think is THE most beautiful/ handsome/ stunning / gorgeous one - and you will have a many varied list
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and someone that is considered a beauty to one person is seen as rather plain and nothing special by someone else
x H x
however much I disagree with the above, I also have to think it's spot on!
bummer.
Quote by jameybruce
Is someone really beautiful/handsome actually disadvantaged in the swinging scene because people daren't approach
But what is classed as beautiful/ handsome/ stunning / gorgeous?
You only have to start asking a few people which actor they think is THE most beautiful/ handsome/ stunning / gorgeous one - and you will have a many varied list
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and someone that is considered a beauty to one person is seen as rather plain and nothing special by someone else
x H x
however much I disagree with the above, I also have to think it's spot on!
bummer.
It's impossible to define beautiful, granted. But if youfind someone beautiful, are you less likely to approach them than someone you think is mildly attractive?
For the confines of this thread however, I was thinking more of the "text book" approach. Think people who come close to the "Golden Ratio" of :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
I'm afraid of rejection and I don't know what Stormy's problem is exactly...probably too lazy
Sorry I'm rambling
:shock: who would reject you? Either of you?
He he Freckles, if only you could see me sitting here now...you soooo wouldnt say that
Quote by Firelizard
I think this thread is fascinating. Its quite extraordinary the difference between how people think of themselves and how others see them.
I don't see people as unattainable exactly...very often though the people we like, do not swing in the way that fits what we want to do. Usually if we find someone irresistible they are part of a couple who only swing together or they are as straight as a straight thing. Having said that though we are both really bad at doing the approaching, I'm afraid of rejection and I don't know what Stormy's problem is exactly...probably too lazy
Sorry I'm rambling
You're not rambling- for once you're making perfect sense. :thumbup:
As for Stormy....I think he's too preoccupied with strap ons :lol2:
Just read this thread, and it really has got me thinking? :shock:
For me, i don't like putting people on pedestal's as i would hate it if other's put me on one.
I must admit that we havent been swinging for while and are only starting to get back into it. But, when we first started swinging here and going to munche's there was lots of stunning/beautiful/handsome people and we never had any problems going up and talking to them and i'm sure we did'nt come accross as unaproachable either (i hope we did'nt anyway's).
Maybe the person (s) who u think are out of your league will probably think the same thing of u? who know's? i dont really have a decent answer but has left me asking this question.
Why when some good friend who really matters to us, tell us that we are beautiful/stunning/handsome and/or that we are really nice/friendly/lovely we don't belive them?
But instead, when some one we hardly know or even like says we are ugly/fat/skinny and that we're an asshole/bitch we take more notice of it?
I hope what i've posted make's sense if not just ignore me my heads abit all over the place at the mo.
For me, i don't like putting people on pedestal's as i would hate it if other's put me on one.
I must admit that we havent been swinging for while and are only starting to get back into it. But, when we first started swinging here and going to munche's there was lots of stunning/beautiful/handsome people and we never had any problems going up and talking to them and i'm sure we did'nt come accross as unaproachable either (i hope we did'nt anyway's).
Maybe the person (s) who u think are out of your league will probably think the same thing of u? who know's? i dont really have a decent answer but has left me asking this question.
Why when some good friend who really matters to us, tell us that we are beautiful/stunning/handsome and/or that we are really nice/friendly/lovely we don't belive them?
But instead, when some one we hardly know or even like says we are ugly/fat/skinny and that we're an asshole/bitch we take more notice of it?
I hope what i've posted make's sense if not just ignore me my heads abit all over the place at the mo.
Quote by splendid_
I'm afraid of rejection and I don't know what Stormy's problem is exactly...probably too lazy
Sorry I'm rambling
:shock: who would reject you? Either of you?
Ditto to that one!
Anyone who's ever met them?
phew- you saved me typing winchy.. thanks
She holds me back, if it wasn't for her, I'd have lots of sex......
Quote by Freckledbird
I tend to agree with Davidsaction that beauty really is in the eyes of the beerholder but having said that. I found, at various parties and clubs I've been to, that some of the extremely good looking people tend not to go for ugly gits like me. Obviously they want to play with similarly good looking folk.
Although that never stopped me approaching - tentatively - I must say though it helps having a thick hide to get used rejection
Beer goggles?
heheh I wondered if anywone was going to comment on that - but it's true! After a few drinks everyone looks beautiful to me!
Quote by awol
I tend to agree with Davidsaction that beauty really is in the eyes of the beerholder but having said that. I found, at various parties and clubs I've been to, that some of the extremely good looking people tend not to go for ugly gits like me. Obviously they want to play with similarly good looking folk.
Although that never stopped me approaching - tentatively - I must say though it helps having a thick hide to get used rejection
Beer goggles?
heheh I wondered if anywone was going to comment on that - but it's true! After a few drinks everyone looks beautiful to me!
can I buy you a drink or seven awol ?
Sex God
Quote by awol
I tend to agree with Davidsaction that beauty really is in the eyes of the beerholder but having said that. I found, at various parties and clubs I've been to, that some of the extremely good looking people tend not to go for ugly gits like me. Obviously they want to play with similarly good looking folk.
Although that never stopped me approaching - tentatively - I must say though it helps having a thick hide to get used rejection
Beer goggles?
heheh I wondered if anywone was going to comment on that - but it's true! After a few drinks everyone looks beautiful to me!
Hehe what can I get you to drink?
Quote by splendid_
Beer goggles?
heheh I wondered if anywone was going to comment on that - but it's true! After a few drinks everyone looks beautiful to me!
can I buy you a drink or seven awol ?
Oh wow thank you Splendid - heheh at this rate I may turn up being an alcoholi.... I mean too legless to appreciate anything :lol: