We are not meeting now and I have been wondering if I could stay on this site and just form lasting friendships, I know I have raised this before but this is a kind of update.
A few weeks ago I got talking to a guy that I told straight away that we don’t meet and he was happy to just chat, me being a little sceptical I went with it.
A few weeks on now I feel I have found a real genuine friend someone that I can talk to on very deep meaningful levels and someone that has taken me out of my comfort Zone totally is able to understand me, we have both really enjoyed chatting and never seem to tire of doing so.
I liken it to some people you meet in life draw charge from your batteries I can’t explain why this is, while other recharge them and they last for hours.
He recharges my batteries and hope long may this special friendship last.
So I do believe you can form true friendships here.
And I hope long lasting one too.
I believe a true friend accepts every part of you.
They always want to talk about you and not themselves
They can tell you honest and truthful things about yourself without it feeling they are being critical.
You always enjoy chatting to each other.
How do others see true friendships?
Interesting post!
I think friends made via here, non meeting friends are great.
I have 2 female ones, and 3 male ones, we now do the MSN thingy!
We will never meet, but at this moment in time we value the chats we have together, they are non sexual ones now!!
Its always good to type!!
Lucys post.
I think that the anonymity that this site affords, lends itself to close friendship. People will often give their most intimate details to strangers (in the nicest sense) who they know they will never meet. It's no suprise that close friendships can develop here and long may it continue. It's an ideal place.
I have only been using the forums for a few months, and I think I have made a few friends even in that short time. Only time will tell how long they last but I am an optimistic person (sometimes to my disadvantage) and hope they become 'lifelong'. I meet and talk to a lot of people in my daily life but have no long term friends within 50 miles of home. I have met a lovely lady through SH and when she is ready, I hope we will become good friends. While I would like to have a girlfriend or two to go shopping with, I value the opportunity to chat (in person or electronically) and exchange ideas, feelings and problems much more highly. I hope I have found that here.
i thought i had made a lot of really good friends on here.
Some are those that i miss talking to if they arent in the chat very often but are they more just aquaintances?
Others i've allowed in to my private life and (apart from two people) I've lived to regret it deeply the last few months and have now vowed that my personal life and my swinging life are gonna to remain poles apart now.
To me a friend is somebody I love and who loves me in return.
Everybody else is simply an acquaintance who may one day become a friend.
We all sat around trying to define this in a drunken mind altered state one evening ( with some true friends incidentally) and we decided that a definition was impossible since it was different for everyone. However we did agree on one test that works. If someone you think is a friend invites you to go out and you make an excuse not to then they aren't ,if your first reaction is to say ' you know what I just cant be arsed to come mate' then they are.
The few friends I've made via here came by surprise.
I didn't come here looking for friendship, I've plenty of friends in the vanilla world and those friendships have taken a few years to build upon.
True friendships are about trust. There's not a lot of people I 100% trust, here included, the ones I've let in know about it.