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Trust
I trust in the situation for what it is. That doesn't mean that those people are in my life or able to be trusted with anything else.
there are several people here that I have had sex with that I do trust with other aspects of my life and that is a nice surprise.
We have had sex with people in our home and they have gone home never to be seen again and I trust they won't turn up at 3am drunk saying 'fancy a shag?' at a later date. (I know that this has happened to many other people)
So the trust I employ when using this site is contextual only.
In real life I am a very trusting person. But once that trust is abused or mis-used it is never given again.
there are several people here that I have had sex with that I do trust with other aspects of my life and that is a nice surprise.
We have had sex with people in our home and they have gone home never to be seen again and I trust they won't turn up at 3am drunk saying 'fancy a shag?' at a later date. (I know that this has happened to many other people)
So the trust I employ when using this site is contextual only.
In real life I am a very trusting person. But once that trust is abused or mis-used it is never given again.
After talking with couples for a while I have a sixth sence that tells me yep these seek ok for an invite to my home :shock: .
Maybe i am lucky as i never have a bad meet with someone Yet ?
I guess even as a single guy you have to be a little apprehensive about inviting someone over
but the ice has to be broken somewhere and the thought of an initial meet in a motel/ hotel doesnt do it for me :?
Perhaps I have just been lucky with the folks i have met ( and who are still friends to this day)
trav..
Maybe i am lucky as i never have a bad meet with someone Yet ?
I guess even as a single guy you have to be a little apprehensive about inviting someone over
but the ice has to be broken somewhere and the thought of an initial meet in a motel/ hotel doesnt do it for me :?
Perhaps I have just been lucky with the folks i have met ( and who are still friends to this day)
trav..
Warning: A bit David Ike like comment ahead:
I am a very trusting person but I also trust my instincts. I know this sounds lame but I believe I can get an aura from people on line (hippy new age stuff I know) when speaking one to one.
Actually a confession here, I met my partner online and fell hopelessly in love with her straight away. The people we have had meets with have been as a result of my finding them good people just from the way they have felt coming across the internet.
I feel that the Internet acts like an amplifier of what people are.
I am a very trusting person but I also trust my instincts. I know this sounds lame but I believe I can get an aura from people on line (hippy new age stuff I know) when speaking one to one.
Actually a confession here, I met my partner online and fell hopelessly in love with her straight away. The people we have had meets with have been as a result of my finding them good people just from the way they have felt coming across the internet.
I feel that the Internet acts like an amplifier of what people are.
We agree with everything that has been said but we would like to take this a little further perhaps to border into the ettiquette a little as well.
The fact that we advertise or participate in verbal communication with other swingers to us is the beginning of having trust in other likeminded people.
If we approach a couple or a single then we have placed some trust in them that they will reply even if its a 'no-thanks'. We feel that that trust has been broken when they do not reply or perhaps turn out to be someone other than what they portray. Undoubtedly 'swinging' can be emotionally cruel and you have to harden to it (no pun)but if you do not enjoy a significant positive reply rate and those that do are fakes it gets to the point of "Why bother?"
The fact that we advertise or participate in verbal communication with other swingers to us is the beginning of having trust in other likeminded people.
If we approach a couple or a single then we have placed some trust in them that they will reply even if its a 'no-thanks'. We feel that that trust has been broken when they do not reply or perhaps turn out to be someone other than what they portray. Undoubtedly 'swinging' can be emotionally cruel and you have to harden to it (no pun)but if you do not enjoy a significant positive reply rate and those that do are fakes it gets to the point of "Why bother?"
Quote by The_third_man:thumbup: ex point ..
Warning: A bit David Ike like comment ahead:
I am a very trusting person but I also trust my instincts. I know this sounds lame but I believe I can get an aura from people on line (hippy new age stuff I know) when speaking one to one.
Actually a confession here, I met my partner online and fell hopelessly in love with her straight away. The people we have had meets with have been as a result of my finding them good people just from the way they have felt coming across the internet.
I feel that the Internet acts like an amplifier of what people are.
trav..
